ReLearned

Perfectionism

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In the debut episode of the ReLearned podcast, hosts Nidhi Tewari and Billy Samoa delve into the intricate world of perfectionism. They explore its roots and the significant impact it wields on success and well-being. The episode also unveils the perils of perfectionism, shedding light on its genetic and modeling origins, as well as its effects on mental and physical health. The hosts also discuss its links to imposter syndrome, creativity, and social media's influence.

Throughout the episode, Nidhi and Billy stress the importance of effective perfectionism management, emphasizing realistic goal setting, self-compassion, and personal growth acknowledgment. They discuss various perfectionism types and provide strategies for adept management, including self-awareness cultivation, progress celebration, and seeking support when necessary. Tune in to this episode to uncover the complexities of perfectionism and gain insights to break free from its constraints.

Key Takeaways

  • Perfectionism can be a double-edged sword, potentially hindering our ability to reach our full potential despite being associated with high achievers.
  • Social media can have a significant impact on perfectionism, and it is crucial to be aware of how it affects our mental well-being.
  • Managing perfectionism involves setting realistic goals, practicing self-compassion, and being self-aware of our perfectionist tendencies.
  • Language plays a powerful role in dealing with perfectionism, and asking ourselves key questions can help shift from shame to guilt.


    • In This Episode:

    • [00:53] The pitfalls of perfectionism
    • [03:07] The impact of perfectionism on mental and physical health
    • [06:40] The battle between perfectionism and creativity
    • [07:30] The importance of taking action and iteration
    • [10:40] Perfectionism and societal expectations for women
    • [11:52] The impact of perfectionism at different stages of life
    • [13:15] The journey towards self-assurance and confidence
    • [15:54] The influence of social media on perfectionism and imposter syndrome
    • [20:12] Identifying types of perfectionism
    • [22:34] Managing perfectionism
    • [23:22] The importance of self-compassion and understanding that perfection is subjective
    • [24:35] The negative impact of living in an instant-gratification world
    • [25:05] How perfectionism is a sign of a fixed mindset
    • [26:27] Challenging perfectionistic thoughts and seeking support
    • [31:54] Ruminating and problem-solving
    • [33:23] The difference between shame and guilt in the context of perfectionism


      • Notable Quotes

      • [02:05] “Your psychological well-being is at stake if you continue to pursue perfectionism as your goal, and the mental piece connects to the physical piece." - Nidhi
      • [12:30] “If you're looking at somebody else, you're comparing yourself to somebody else. Not only do they have a totally different story than you but have they led a different life.” - Billy
      • [20:12] “It's not that the world is putting expectations on you, it's that you yourself have these really exceedingly high expectations of what you should be achieving” - Nidhi 
      • [24:44] “We got to give ourselves a little bit more grace and compassion when it comes to doing whatever it is that we're called to do.” - Billy
        • Resources and Links

        Nidhi Tewari

        • https://www.wellbeingspeaker.com/
        • https://www.linkedin.com/in/nidhitewarilcsw/
        • https://www.facebook.com/NidhiTewariLCSW
        • https://www.instagram.com/NidhiTewariLCSW/
        • https://twitter.com/LCSWNidhi


          • Billy Samoa

          • https://www.linkedin.com/in/billysamoa/
          • https://www.instagram.com/billysamoa/
          • https://www.youtube.com/user/billysamoa
          • https://twitter.com/BillySamoa
          • https://www.facebook.com/BillySamoaSaleebey/


            • Mentioned or Researched

            • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)- https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/patients-and-families/cognitive-behavioral
            • Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)- https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/treatments/eye-movement-reprocessing
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              ReLearnedBy Nidhi Tewari and Billy Samoa