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You don’t think you’re a perfectionist.
 You just “have high standards.”

You care. You’re driven. You like things done right.

So why are you exhausted?

In this episode, we’re unpacking the psychology of perfectionism — what it actually is, why it develops, and how it quietly fuels anxiety, burnout, procrastination, and relationship strain.

Perfectionism isn’t about excellence. It’s about fear.

We’ll explore:

• The difference between healthy ambition and fear-based performance
• How perfectionism is linked to shame and conditional self-worth
• Why high-achieving adults struggle to feel satisfied
• How perfectionism shows up in careers, parenting, and relationships
• Why “doing your best” often feels like never enough

You’ll also learn a therapist-backed approach to loosening perfectionism without lowering your competence — including how to identify the fear underneath the standard and regulate the nervous system instead of overworking.

Because you don’t need to earn your worth every single day.

If you’re navigating adulthood, identity shifts, and relationships without wanting to burn out in the process — this episode is for you.

Send it to the friend who calls their anxiety “high standards.”

This podcast is meant to be a conversation — not a lecture. 🖤

Have thoughts, questions, or a topic you want covered? Or want to share how this episode supported you?

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