Who are you when the role that helped define you no longer fits?

For years, Oscar Chacon's identity was shaped by structure, service, teamwork, and the uniform he wore as an officer in the United States Air Force and Space Force. But when he transitioned into civilian life, he found himself confronting a much more personal question:

Who am I beneath the role?

In this episode of Permission Slip-Ups, Oscar joins Kate and David for an honest conversation about identity, masculinity, leadership, vulnerability, and the uncertainty that often accompanies major life transitions.

Together, they explore:

• Why our careers, responsibilities, and accomplishments can quietly become our identity • What happens when the "why" that once guided us begins to change • Why so many men feel pressure to become the lone wolf and figure everything out alone • How vulnerability creates trust, connection, and more authentic leadership • What it means to become whole rather than perform an image of perfection • How community, curiosity, and personal agency can help us move through uncertainty • Why fear asks, "What if?" while faith responds, "Even if"

Oscar reminds us that we do not need to have a grand philosophical answer for where our lives are going. Sometimes the next honest answer is enough:

"I just want to wake up happier."

This conversation is for anyone moving through change, questioning who they have become, or searching for a life that feels more authentic, meaningful, and aligned.

Does your calendar reflect what matters most to you—or the person you believe you are supposed to be?

When life gets busy, most of us assume we need to manage our time better. We rearrange our schedules, squeeze more into the day, and promise ourselves that we will make time for what matters when things finally slow down.

But what if the real problem isn't time?

In this episode of Permission Slip-Ups, Kate and David explore what our priorities reveal about our identity, values, capacity, and the expectations we carry.

Sometimes the roles we have worked so hard to fulfill—the responsible parent, successful professional, reliable friend, committed partner, or person who always says yes—quietly begin determining how we spend our lives.

Together, they discuss:

• Why we may not have a priority problem, but an identity problem • How busy seasons can reveal what truly matters • Why the structure that once served us may no longer fit who we are today • How obligation and guilt keep us committed to things we no longer want • A practical three-question framework for evaluating new commitments • Why being at your best is not about performance—it is about how aligned and whole you feel • How clarity can give us permission to pause, trust ourselves, and say no

If you have built a successful life but feel pulled in too many directions, this conversation offers an opportunity to slow things down, reconnect with what matters, and create more room for a life that feels authentic, meaningful, and aligned.

What might change if you stopped asking, "How do I fit everything in?" and started asking, "What actually deserves my best?"

Most of us have a belief about how we show up.

We believe we are being helpful, confident, direct, authentic, curious, or honest.

But our intentions are only part of the story.

Truth is the people around us may experience our energy, words, and behavior very differently.

What happens when the way we intend to show up does not match the way we are received?

In this episode of Permission Slip-Ups, Kate and David explore the gap between intention and impact—and what that gap can teach us about self-awareness, personal growth, leadership, and connection.

Together, they discuss:

• Why another person's experience can be true even when it does not match our intention • How defensiveness prevents us from receiving useful feedback • Why acknowledging someone's experience does not require agreeing with everything they say • The difference between being authentic and using authenticity as an excuse • How to smooth out our rough edges without changing who we are • Why commitment matters when we are trying to improve or repair a relationship • How curiosity can help us understand what others need from us

Authenticity does not mean walking into every situation at full volume and expecting everyone else to adjust.

Sometimes it means understanding who we are, recognizing the environment we are in, and becoming more intentional about how we bring ourselves into the room.

Because the greatest gift we can offer others may be the freedom to be ourselves—while giving them the freedom to be themselves, too.

Listen now and ask yourself:

Am I being experienced the way I intend to be?

What happens when life interrupts the identity you built… and invites you into something deeper?

In this episode of Permission Slip-ups, Kate and David sit down with artist and storyteller Mark Jamnik to explore the powerful pivot that transformed his life during COVID. What began as a season of isolation became, in Mark's words, "not a quarantine, but a chrysalis."

Through creativity, curiosity, and deep introspection, Mark reconnected with a part of himself that had been buried for years — the artist within. As he shares the evolution of his "Subliminal Story Art," Mark opens up about letting go of external identities, releasing the need for approval, and trusting the quiet inner voice calling him toward a more aligned life.

This conversation explores: • Creativity as healing and reconnection • Letting go of identities tied to success • The power of curiosity and community • Listening to your inner voice • Trusting life's pivots and transitions • Why authenticity often requires surrender

Mark's story is a reminder that sometimes the most meaningful transformations begin when we stop trying to "get it right" and start listening to what feels true.

Connect with Mark

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David Cooke

How do you know when it's time to stop pushing... and start paying attention?

Most of us don't wake up one morning burned out or disconnected. The signs appear long before that. We feel our energy fading. We question whether the life we've worked so hard to build still feels like our own. Something inside quietly asks us to slow down.

The question is...

Why do we keep moving anyway?

In this episode of Permission Slip-Ups, Kate and David explore the quiet moments that often become the beginning of meaningful change.

Together they discuss:

• Why we override our intuition in the name of responsibility and success
• The difference between resilience and simply enduring
• How external expectations can pull us away from ourselves
• Why asking "How can I?" creates possibilities that "I can't" immediately closes
• How a simple pause can reconnect us with who we really are

If you've been navigating a life transition, questioning what's next, or simply feeling disconnected from yourself, this conversation offers an invitation to slow down—not to stop moving, but to move with greater intention.

Sometimes growth doesn't begin with action.

Sometimes it begins with attention.

What happens when you realize you've spent years building a life around everyone else's expectations...and quietly lost touch with yourself?

In this episode of Permission Slip-Ups, Kate and David sit down with boundaries coach Barb Nangle for an honest conversation about identity, self-worth, and the courage to live in alignment with who you really are.

Barb shares the deeply personal experiences that led her to confront a lifetime of people-pleasing and self-abandonment. What followed wasn't simply learning to say "no." It was discovering how healthy boundaries, personal values, and self-awareness can transform the way we relate to ourselves and everyone around us.

Together, they explore questions many of us eventually face:

• Why do we struggle to put ourselves on our own priority list? • How do we stop seeking approval and start trusting ourselves? • What role do our values play in creating a life that feels authentic? • Why does change often feel uncomfortable, even when it's healthy? • How can something as simple as pausing before we respond change everything?

Whether you're navigating a life transition, questioning what's next, or simply longing to feel more connected to yourself, this conversation offers practical insights and thoughtful reflection—not easy answers.

Sometimes the greatest permission slip we can give ourselves is the courage to become who we've been all along.

Contact us...

Barb Nangle (email)

Barb Nangle (website)

Kate Turner (email)

David Cooke (email)

What if retirement isn't what you really want?

Most people don't dream about retirement, they dream about a life of freedom.

For many, retirement is the path to that outcome.

It represents the ability to choose how they spend their days.

So here's the question...

Why are we waiting until 65 to build a life we actually want?

In this episode of Permission Slip-ups, Kate and David challenge one of the biggest assumptions we've inherited—that life begins after work.

Instead, we explore what it looks like to create more freedom, purpose, and fulfillment long before retirement ever arrives.

Because maybe retirement isn't the goal.

Maybe living now is!

An executive once quit rather than answer a simple question:

"Who are you?"

Not your title. Not your role. Not what's on your business card.

You.

In this episode of Permission Slip-ups, Kate and I explore the D.I.G. framework—understanding what Drives, Inspires, and Guides you—and why so many successful people struggle to answer that question honestly.

Because the goal isn't defending a new performance based version of yourself.

It's about embracing and engaging the one that's been there all along.

If you've ever looked successful on the outside while feeling uncertain on the inside, this conversation is for you.

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David Cooke

We have been holding out on you. Today's episode occurred several months ago, in a way that wasn't planned. We just happened to record a post episode conversation with guest Marina Triner and the next thing we realized, we had another podcast episode...

In this episode with somatic coach Marina Triner, our discussion shifts from theory to lived experience. What started as a conversation about identity and masks becomes a deeply personal exploration of love, trauma, intuition, and what it means to truly be seen.

Marina shares the story behind a relationship that challenged everything she thought she knew about safety, spirituality, and control — falling in love with someone living on the street. What unfolded wasn't just romance. It was a mirror.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why we "marry our unfinished business" • The nervous system's obsession with safety • The grief hidden beneath our masks • The difference between helping and being seen • Why some relationships are short but transformative • How spirituality can reopen after trauma • And what it means to trust that everyone has their own process

This is a raw conversation about love that destabilizes you, growth that doesn't feel tidy, and the courage it takes to let someone see past the performance.

If you've ever played by the rules and still felt something missing…

If you've ever wanted to be seen but were afraid of what that would uncover…

This episode will land.

Contact information: Marina Triner (email)

Marina Triner (website)

Kate Turner

David Cooke

In this episode of Permission Slip-Ups, David and Kate sit down with business growth strategist Andrea LaRosa for a timely and thought-provoking conversation about AI, communication, authenticity, and the future of human connection.

Andrea shares her unexpected journey from matchmaking and dating coaching into the world of AI consulting, and how one simple conversation about presence and communication became the spark that shifted her entire career path.

Together, they explore the growing role AI is playing in business, leadership, relationships, and daily communication—and the deeper questions that come with it:

• Are we becoming more efficient… while losing our ability to truly connect? • What happens when AI begins speaking for us? • How do we use technology without sacrificing authenticity? • And where do we draw the line between convenience and human connection?

This episode dives into the tension between innovation and authenticity, while reminding us that no matter how advanced technology becomes, real connection still matters.

If you've ever wondered how to embrace modern tools without losing your voice, your presence, or your humanity… this conversation is for you.