Many of us have created daily routines to deal with these challenging times, developing many new ways to organize our time at home and with each other. For us, we have created a loving peaceful togetherness in the house. We … Why it is Important to Step Out of Your Routine Read More »

PHIL: I want to talk this week about how we perceive the world. That might sound as if it has nothing to do with relationships, but they are an important part of our lives, and I’ll come to them later. … How to Integrate Thoughts and Feelings in Your Life Read More »

MAUDE: When I first came to Santa Barbara, over forty years ago, my husband (at the time) and I had the address of only one person to make contact with. We had been given his address because we shared a … How to Reach Unity When There Appear to be Two Sides Read More »

PHIL: So, another birthday ran into me and Maude deluged me with cards, in one of which she wrote, “This becomes our only task – live every day, every moment, for all it is, and be all we can be … Why Equality is so Important in a Relationship Read More »

PHIL: So, it’s been quite a week. It’s Friday as we write, impeachment and the 25th Amendment are hanging in the air, and we have been unable to focus on writing this post. The shock is like an earthquake – … How to Deal With the Trauma of This Past Week Read More »

(Our thanks to Oscar Wilde for the title.) MAUDE: The day before Christmas I found myself in a strange and unaccustomed place. I felt sad, deeply sad, and somewhat lonely. I know this is common for many around the holidays, … The Importance of Being Honest in a Relationship Read More »

MAUDE: I was talking to my grandson about the coming of the New Year, and he asked if we were going to be able to go outside and play with friends and go back to school without worrying. While I … Hope Can Dawn With The New Year Read More »

The other night we were just about to shut the lights out and go to sleep when Maude remembered that it was the night the Geminid meteor shower was at its peak. Phil looked out the window and immediately saw … It’s Important to Include Spontaneity In Your Life Read More »

We were contacted this week by a reader asking about the difference between an argument and a disagreement because the distinction was causing confusion between her, her husband and their adult daughter. These words mean different things to different people, … How To Avoid a Disagreement Becoming an Argument Read More »

PHIL: I often read aloud after we retire at night, and we’ve been reading one of our favorites for the second time: “Ten Poems to Set You Free.” Last night we read “Have You Ever Tried to Enter the Long … There Is Nowhere To Be But Here Read More »