Pivot To Joy

In this episode of Pivot to Joy, host Dele Downs Kooley sits down with her coaching client Montana von Fliss, public speaking coach, actor, and TEDx Bellevue Women speaker. Montana shares her journey from a lifelong love of acting and teaching to speaker coach, ultimately stepping onto the TEDx stage herself. Together, Dele and Montana explore the universal struggle with confidence, the science behind nerves, actionable tools for managing self-doubt, and what it truly means to move from fear to confid... 
 
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Timestamps: 
[00:01:04] Introduction to Montana von Fliss and her background as an actor and coach 
[00:03:52] Montana’s journey from coaching to speaking at TEDx Bellevue Women 
[00:07:09] How Montana’s talk and coaching intersect in helping others find confidence 
[00:16:25] The “silent sentence” technique for managing nerves and shaping self-talk 
[00:25:24] Montana’s biggest takeaway from the TEDx experience and her personal growth 
[00:34:08] A powerful story on the impact of her TEDx talk and connecting with her “one person” 
[00:39:23] Advice for overcoming self-doubt and the process of creating constructive self-talk 
[00:43:28] The link between body language, confidence, and practical speaking hacks 
[00:50:11] What’s next for Montana and her ongoing passion for coaching and performing 
 
Quotes: 
“The words that you say silently to yourself before your talk... an example, one that I use, I have several, but one that I say often, it's in the talk, is something along the lines of I invite you to be here with me while I am here with you so that I can help you to the best of my ability.” [00:17:21] 
“You are not alone. That is totally normal. That is completely, as far as I can tell, a universal human experience. It's really what you do next, I think that matters the most.” [00:39:23] 
“I believe that we can set up the conditions where it's more likely that we'll feel better, maybe feel more confident. But mostly what we're setting up in this repeatable, reliable process... is making this repeatable process to help us manage through whatever feelings come.” [00:48:11] 
“I don't think I'm ever going to want to retire because I kind of love this too much.” [00:50:00] 
 
Resources: 
• Montana von Fliss: Website and LinkedIn 
• Listen to Montana’s TEDx Bellevue Women talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eVFzbxmKNUw 
 
If today’s episode resonated with you, follow along on your favorite social media and explore resources to elevate your voice, refine your story, and build a powerful personal brand.  And remember sharing is caring. SHARE with your friends – because transformation is even better when we do it together! 
 

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In this episode of Pivot to Joy, host Dele Downs Kooley sits down with Parul Sharma, creative director, artist, and 2024 TEDx Bellevue Women’s speaker, to explore the power of developing a "protagonist mindset." Parul shares her journey from childhood as an artist in India, through pivots in her career and personal life, to taking the TEDx stage. She details how her Buddhist practice shaped her worldview, influenced her development as both a creator and a parent, and inspired her to share her story of ... 
 
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Timestamps: 
[00:01:28] Parul on sharing her TEDx talk and the powerful responses received 
[00:03:58] The concept and meaning behind "Developing a Protagonist Mindset" 
[00:05:43] Parul’s upbringing, her journey from India to the US, and early career pivots 
[00:13:09] How Buddhism and the concept of karma influenced her worldview 
[00:19:49] Practical steps for aspiring TEDx speakers 
[00:26:24] The importance of the protagonist mindset in times of change 
[00:34:46] Buddhism’s role in personal development and managing stress 
[00:41:10] Turning obstacles into opportunities for growth 
[00:45:25] The impact of the TEDx experience on Parul, professionally and personally 
[00:52:18] What’s next for Parul, and her return to making art for joy and meaning 
[00:53:22] How to connect with Parul Sharma 
 
Quotes: 
"It's sort of a mindset that you very much are capable of shifting…it has such a power over you that you are, in fact, capable of overcoming it and really, like, shifting to a state in which you feel more empowered and in control." [00:04:17] 
"If you think like that [this is the ideal circumstance], what it does to your mindset is that you stop thinking of your life as a punishment. Your life is not, you know, a series of, you know, like negative things that you're weighed under. But it's like, these are my circumstances, and how can I create the most value from them?" [00:14:28] 
"I decided to actually sit and write down my entire talk first because my, my, the way I am built, I felt that I didn't even want to approach someone else to say, would you give me an opportunity? Until I knew that I had a talk in me." [00:19:53] 
"The idea that is sensitive, if I may define the protagonist mindset, it is this idea that a change within me can change my circumstances. So while the world may be changing and shifting rapidly, and yes, it impacts you, the way to take charge in that circumstance is to say, “What can I do? What can I do?” My response is so important, you know, not my reaction, but my response, you know, because the response is more grounded in what do I want to do in this world." [00:27:49] 
 
Resources: 
• Connect with Parul Sharma on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/parulxsharma 
• Listen to Parul’s TEDx Bellevue Women talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qZoqKtbFsUQ 
• Buddhability: https://buddhability.org/ 
• Book: “The Buddha in Your Mirror” 
 
If today’s episode resonated with you, follow along on your favorite social media and explore resources to elevate your voice, refine your story, and build a powerful personal brand.  And remember sharing is caring. SHARE with your friends – because transformation is even better when we do it together! 

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In this episode of Pivot to Joy, Coach Kooley sits down with coaching client Claudia Longo, founder of MS, I’mpossible and a 2024 TEDx Bellevue Women speaker. Diagnosed with multiple sclerosis (MS) at just 18, Claudia defied the odds by returning as a Division 1 soccer player at the University of Washington. As the founder of MS Impossible, she connects and empowers young adults living with MS, transforming personal challenge into community support and meaningful advocacy. Claudia shares her inspiring journey from her family's health battles in childhood, to launching a nonprofit with help from the Seattle Kraken, and embracing pivots that align with her values. The conversation dives into the power of support systems, leaning into community, navigating the unknown, and actionable advice for those facing a diagnosis, dreaming of a TEDx talk, or aspiring to start a nonprofit. 
 
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Timestamps: 
[00:02:08] Claudia’s introduction and early challenges 
[00:03:50] Shaving her head in solidarity with her mother 
[00:05:23] Founding MS, I’mpossible and redefining the MS narrative 
[00:10:02] Launching the nonprofit with support from the Seattle Kraken 
[00:14:19] Advice for newly diagnosed young adults and the importance of support 
[00:20:16] Claudia’s role at BoardReady and the impact of corporate governance 
[00:23:25] Making career pivots and finding transferable skills 
[00:25:26] Staying motivated, focused, and the power of whiteboard goal-setting 
[00:27:51] Advice for aspiring TEDx speakers and nonprofit founders 
[00:36:06] Ms. Impossible's goals for impact and authentic community 
[00:39:40] Books, resources, and information for young adults with MS 
[00:44:49] How to connect with MS, I’mpossible and support the cause 
[00:48:07] Closing thoughts and additional resources 
 
Quotes: 
"The biggest thing is what she did in that moment by reaching out to me is going to change the trajectory of her diagnosis. She had to realize that she didn't have all the answers, but there was an organization that could help." [00:14:29] 
"I think when you have an idea, it's easy to just chase it down and go after it. What's important is to also stop and say, okay, that's been my experience. But what about other people, you know, who are in similar situations or maybe different situations?" [00:31:25] 
"I think one of the best things that I did is I stayed away from TikTok. I stayed away from all these. Any narrative that would like, kind of eat at what I was trying to do, I avoided because I think there is so much information out there that it's really hard to find the right information to consume." [00:39:40] 
 
Resources: 
• Connect with Claudia Longo on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/claudialongo2/ 
• MS, I’mpossible: https://www.ms-impossible.org/ 
• Listen to Claudia’s TEDx Bellevue Women talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TDEPWuqYhS8 
 
If today’s episode resonated with you, follow along on your favorite social media and explore resources to elevate your voice, refine your story, and build a powerful personal brand.  And remember sharing is caring. SHARE with your friends – because transformation is even better when we do it together! 
 

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• Website: https://delekooleycoaching.com 
 

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 In this episode of Pivot to Joy, host Dele Downs Kooley sits down with coaching client, Kirsten Duncan—healthcare leader, speaker, and now published TEDx presenter—to explore the journey of embracing fear and uncovering the unexpected gifts that lie on the other side of discomfort. Kirsten opens up about her transformation from living with anxiety and self-doubt to rebuilding trust in herself after major life transitions. She discusses how watching and listening to others’ stories, especially TEDx and podcasts, provided a roadmap back to courage and self-worth. With practical advice for listeners—especially women in corporate spaces—Kirsten shares strategies for facing fears, building self-trust, the value of authentic networking, and why mindset is the foundation for resilience. 
 
If you want inspiration to step through your own fears or are curious about how to translate setbacks into growth and even joy, this episode is for you! 
 
Timestamps: 
[00:02:43] Kirsten’s TEDx journey: “Embracing fears, Discovering the unexpected” 
[00:03:32] Overcoming the fear of self-trust 
[00:05:15] Kirsten’s background and what inspired her TEDx talk 
[00:08:37] Defining fear, and why it holds power 
[00:10:23] Common fears for women in corporate settings 
[00:13:49] Practicing what you preach: Kirsten’s own job leap 
[00:16:22] Practical strategies for facing fear 
[00:19:30] The decisive role of mindset and attitude 
[00:22:31] Daily practices for courage and resilience 
[00:26:40] Advice for women in corporate to move beyond fear 
[00:30:54] Leadership: Creating cultures that encourage risk-taking 
[00:32:35] The value of mentorship and approachable networking 
[00:39:16] Networking reimagined: Connection over pitch 
[00:41:50] Why the message of overcoming fear resonates 
[00:44:25] Leaving a legacy of courage for others 
[00:45:34] How facing fear creates joy 
[00:47:27] How to connect and support Kirsten’s work 
 
Quotes: 
“My biggest fear was learning to trust myself and that deep within myself, I actually had some of these answers and I had the ability to face some of these fears.” 

“I think one of the biggest fears is that we don't think that we're good enough for the job, that we don't have enough skills for the job, that we're not going to be able to execute.” 

“Coming with a mindset, a can-do mindset, a positive mindset, a mindset where you're thinking about the perspective and rather than, you know, there's a saying of, you know, this didn't happen to me, this happened for me.” 
"I had written in reminders that would pop up as calendar reminders. You are worthy, you are strong, you are courageous. Because I didn't believe those things about myself yet, but I felt that I needed to be saying those things and affirming those things." 
 
Resources: 
- Connect with Kirsten Duncan on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kirsten-duncan/ 
- Listen to Kirsten's TEDx Bellevue Women talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P65DDz0g2CQ 
 

If today’s episode resonated with you, follow along on your favorite social media and explore resources to elevate your voice, refine your story, and build a powerful personal brand.  And remember sharing is caring. SHARE with your friends – because transformation is even better when we do it together! 
 

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•Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/delekooleycoaching
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• Website: https://delekooleycoaching.com 
 

 Additional Resources: 
• Journaling Worksheet & Complete Show Notes: https://delekooleycoaching.com/podcast 
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In this powerful episode, Coach Kooley welcomes her coaching client, Dr. Nooshin K. Darvish, award-winning naturopathic physician, founder of Holistique Medical Center, and author of “The Golden Gate: Unleash Your Feminine Powers to Graceful Aging.” Dr. Darvish shares her inspiring journey to the TEDx stage, explores the transformative power of joy, and reveals how her family’s legacy and personal experiences have shaped her calling in regenerative medicine and women’s health. 

With over three decades of clinical practice, Dr. Darvish discusses the connection between joy, longevity, and healing — sharing tangible insights and practical tips for finding joy even in the midst of life’s challenges. Listeners will hear about the importance of trusting your inner voice, the balance between masculine and feminine qualities, and daily habits for graceful aging. 

This conversation is a must-listen for anyone looking to infuse their life with more joy, prioritize health, or make their own pivot toward purpose and thriving. 

Tune in to be inspired! 

Timestamps: 

[00:01:09] Introducing Dr. Nooshin K. Darvish’s background and work 

[00:02:18] The significance of joy & the quote: "Joy gives us wings" 

[00:04:37] Dr. Darvish’s journey to the TEDx stage 

[00:07:14] Crafting and revising the TEDx Talk 

[00:10:16] The influence of Dr. Darvish’s mother and great-grandmother 

[00:14:21] Joy, family health, and longevity: her mother’s cancer journey 

[00:17:24] Personal inspiration for pursuing naturopathic medicine 

Quotes: 

• “Let go of the deep, heavy burdens that we are carrying on a day to day basis. These burdens age us.” [00:10:16] 

• "We women have capacity to transform the world around us and our future generations. And we underplay that capacity, we underplay that responsibility." [00:27:15] 

• “If we can create joy even in the midst of these traumas and dramas and elevate ourselves beyond the physical realm that we are facing, we're not only going to impact our cellular system and slow down that aging process... but we are also going to create a stronger conscience throughout the world that is more elevated, more powerful, more peaceful.” [00:11:48] 

• “Joy is not just a fleeting moment of happiness. Now, we can all be happy momentarily, and then it goes away… but joy is actually a state of being. [00:37:15] 

• “Don't try to do all of it at the same time. Pick one thing that feels doable in the life that you live today. And even if it's only 30 seconds, if you're able to be consistent in that 30 seconds of focus internally... that will make a difference to take you that much closer to connecting with your own joy.” [00:53:39] 

Resources: 

• Dr. Nooshin K. Darvish: Website and LinkedIn 

• Listen to Dr. Darvish’s TEDx Bellevue Women talk: Unleashing Joy: Secrets to Graceful Aging | Dr. Nooshin Darvish, ND, ABAAHP | TEDxBellevueWomen  

• Holistique Medical Center: https://holistique.com 

• “The Golden Gate”: Available on Amazon and other major bookstores 

If today’s episode resonated with you, follow along on your favorite social media and explore resources to elevate your voice, refine your story, and build a powerful personal brand.  And remember sharing is caring. SHARE with your friends – because transformation is even better when we do it together! 

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• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/delekooleycoaching 

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In this episode, Coach Kooley interviews Kristin Graham, founder of Unlock the Brain and host of the Fewer Things Better podcast. Kristin shares insights from neuroscience, psychology, and habits to help listeners unlock their potential and boost productivity. She shares strategies for time management, organization, setting boundaries, and prioritizing joy and self-care. Kristin shares "brain snacks" and productivity hacks, particularly for busy professionals and working parents. She also talks about managing energy, improving productivity, and finding joy in your daily life. Kristin shares insights on how to put yourself first on your to-do list and offers simple hacks to boost cognitive performance.

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[01:15] Kristin’s biography

[04:48] Kristin's journey and approach to career pivots

[06:40] Challenges and fears associated with taking a leap of faith

[09:14] Benefits of actively pursuing your goals after taking a leap of faith

[11:55] Importance of understanding and optimizing our attention spans

[16:02] Benefits of understanding your natural chronobiology 

[19:54] Tools for improving productivity and reducing overwhelm

[32:31] The importance of aligning your brain and body when you wake up

[33:27] Energy management and cognitive performance strategies

[35:15] The four key elements of cognitive performance

[37:59] Strategies for enhancing energy and cognitive performance

[41:03] Importance of prioritizing oneself in daily routines

[50:47] The distinction between soothing and trying to fix or escape from emotions

• Luck is when preparation and opportunity meet. I'd like to add a dash of bravery and courage because those things intersect often. It's when we have faith, which is a big word. So I'll just say lowercase, faith to think it'll work out or won't, but I'll be all right either way. 
• If it's easy, we feel like we don't deserve it. We have somehow convinced ourselves that reward comes after extraneous effort.
• If you are interested and express that interest with your voice, body language, and words, other people will be interested in what you're talking about as well.
• When we disrupt [our melatonin cycle] in the morning, it's like we put a pause button on it. Some people say, 'I'm exhausted, but I can't fall asleep. 

• I encourage you to make a hobby of finding out more details about yourself. The elements of your day, the things you reach, and finding joy instead of escape. Because the difference becomes, did I find smiles? Did I find a happy size? Did I find energy in whatever form on the other side of that? Versus, did you check something off the list?
• There's a difference between soothing and trying to fix or trying to reverse or escape. So if we're like, I am feeling this way and shouldn't feel this way, we try to fix it. Or I'm feeling this way and want to hide from the world. Soothing is different because it's temporary. 

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kristingraham1

Unlock the Brain: https://unlockthebrain.com/

Fewer Things Better podcast: https://fewerthingsbetter.buzzsprout.com/

Rise to Wake: https://support.apple.com/en-ke/108325

If you want to learn more about creating intentional pivots, let's connect. Remember to SHARE with your friends!

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Look out for a free downloadable journaling page to reflect on and capture what resonates with you.

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If you want the complete show notes or you want to learn more about the work that I do with my clients, go to https://delekooleycoaching.com/podcast 

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In this episode, Coach Kooley is joined by Kerri Kazarba Schneider, a former broadcast journalist and current communication coach who shares her expert tips on becoming a more effective communicator. She covers strategies for being clear, concise, and compelling in your speaking and practical tools to improve vocal delivery and reduce filler words. She further shares valuable insights on improving public speaking, presenting on camera, and making intentional career pivots. 

Are you seeking practical tips for enhancing your verbal and visual communication skills, whether for virtual meetings, media appearances, or everyday conversations? Join the conversation now!

[01:33] Kerri’s background

[08:03] The three key elements of effective communication

[11:31] The "headline" approach to being clear and focused

[12:12] The power of the pause and reducing filler words

[14:05] Conveying credibility through vocal delivery and body language

[17:56] Avoiding minimizing phrases to sound more authoritative

[19:54] Practical tools for improving speech patterns and reducing filler words

[23:00]  The value of the "Art of the Pregnant Pause"

[24:08] The positive influence of an academically focused upbringing

[25:26] Benefits of improving one's visual presence on camera during Zoom calls 

[29:21] The challenge of maintaining virtual eye contact and a practical solution

[31:02] Importance of choosing the right clothing for on-camera appearances

[36:14] Benefits  of pursuing a career you're passionate about

[41:32] Benefits of embracing fear and taking risks to achieve personal growth

• Start with your headline and your main point. And when you're thinking about being more concise with people, I think sometimes we want to say everything we know about a topic we might want to. We might be talking to our boss, and we wanna make sure they know we know what we're talking about.
• If you are interested and you express that interest with your voice, body language, and words, other people will also be interested in what you're talking about.
• Try to reduce the number that you use. And pausing is the best way to do that. Learn to pause instead of say, uh. That exactly goes back to what you said about being comfortable with silence. Just that moment.
• 97% of the impression you make on other people is based on what you think or say or how you say it. What do you think? 
• When speaking to individuals and making eye contact, the problem is that virtually making eye contact with you means I'm not looking at my camera, versus now I'm looking at my camera.

Yoodli: https://yoodli.ai/

Connect with Kerri Kazarba Schneider on:

Website: reelmediapr.com 

Media Training Insider newsletter: https://www.linkedin.com/newsletters/the-media-training-insider-7126326828205522945/

Real Media PR: https://www.linkedin.com/company/reel-media-pr/

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kerrikazarbaschneider

If you want to learn more about creating intentional pivots, let's connect. Remember to SHARE with your friends!

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LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/dele-downs-kooley

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dele.kooley.coaching

Website: https://delekooleycoaching.com

Look out for a free downloadable journaling page to reflect on and capture what resonates with you.

To Book Your Strategy Session, go to delekooleycoaching.com/coaching

If you want the complete show notes or you want to learn more about the work that I do with my clients, go to https://delekooleycoaching.com/podcast 

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In this episode, Coach Kooley engages in a dynamic conversation with Harpreet Kaur, a distinguished tech leader, executive coach, and keynote speaker. From her extensive experience at companies like Microsoft, Harpreet shares useful strategies for navigating leadership challenges in the fast-paced tech industry. They discuss various crucial topics, including preventing burnout, setting effective boundaries, mastering the art of delegation, and the critical importance of self-care for leaders. Harpreet also talks about the benefits of balancing professional growth with personal well-being, guiding people to thrive in high-pressure environments while maintaining joy and fulfillment. 

Ready to elevate your leadership and find more joy in your career? Tune in now!

[05:29] How Dele and Harpreet connected initially

[10:35] Strategies for preventing burnout in tech

[16:24] The importance of boundaries and ruthless prioritization

[20:51] Insights on effective delegation skills

[25:16] The value of asking for help appropriately

[26:08] Benefits of delegation for team growth

[29:00] The role of coaching in personal and professional development

[36:08] Finding and leveraging your "superpowers"

[43:51] Prioritizing self-care and its impact on leadership

[49:56] Benefits of focusing on quality over quantity in work and relationships

[55:26] How to connect with Harpreet Kaur

• Self-care is not selfish. Going for a spa day or taking care of a pedicure, whatever you want to do for your own self-care, running on a lake or going to the gym. Those are the things you need to do, I can tell you. But you have to be accountable for yourself.
• Your boundaries are yours to take care of. Your manager, your company, is going to take the last, and I'm stating it as. I'm representing myself here and not my company. We're my manager's view as a manager or as a leader. Every manager and every company will take the last blood drop you have if you're ready to give it. 
• We all can provide you with the frameworks in the end; the decision has to come from you. You need to reflect and put the boundaries in.
• Do not wait till you have to go to emergency. Go to the doctor from the start because you don't wanna just take care of the symptoms. You don't wanna just take care of the bruise. You want to take care of the symptoms.

Eisenhower Matrix: https://www.eisenhower.me/eisenhower-matrix/

Connect with Harpreet Kaur on: 

Why Blend In website: https://whyblendin.com/

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/harpreetkaurs 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whyblendincoach

If you want to learn more about creating intentional pivots, let's connect. Remember to SHARE with your friends!

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LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/dele-downs-kooley

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dele.kooley.coaching

Website: https://delekooleycoaching.com

Look out for a free downloadable journaling page to reflect on and capture what resonates with you.

To Book Your Strategy Session, go to delekooleycoaching.com/coaching

If you want the complete show notes or you want to learn more about the work that I do with my clients, go to https://delekooleycoaching.com/podcast 

Don't miss out on this opportunity to transform your summer and set yourself up for a fantastic Q4. Subscribe to the Pivot to Joy podcast and start your Summer of Success today!

In this episode, Coach Kooley is joined by Dr. Shideh Shafie, an expert in emergency medicine and high-performance coaching, to discuss strategies for avoiding burnout, setting effective boundaries, and achieving work-life balance. Dr. Shafie shares insights on active recovery, enforcing personal boundaries, and maintaining peak performance in high-pressure environments. Dr. Shideh discusses strategies for rest, recovery, and setting boundaries as a high performer. She shares tips on simplifying daily life, asking for help, and maintaining joy while balancing a demanding career and family. The conversation covers practical tips for managing time, energy, and relationships to create a fulfilling life.

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[03:11] The importance of recovery in high-performance environments

[07:39] Active recovery strategies and examples

[10:32] The role of boundaries in preserving rest and recovery time

[13:53] Enforcing boundaries and avoiding resentment

[16:59] Dealing with workplace interruptions and managing communication

[21:41] Implementing and adjusting to new boundaries

[23:58] Transitioning family dynamics with changing boundaries

[25:07] Balancing parenting and a busy career

[26:29] Importance of help and simplification for working parents

[29:31] Strategies for simplifying gift-giving and daily tasks

[32:01] Ways to get help without spending money

[38:14] Benefits of asking for help and allowing others to support you

• If you're going to play hard, you have to learn how to recover hard. Recovery is really, I think, the key to living well and living joyfully.
• If you want to set bigger goals and you're like kind of addicted to that adrenaline and delicious sort of octane that comes with setting big goals and achieving them, you have to know what to do to recover.
• When you have twins at home and they're one year old, that all looks different. So, first of all, give yourself notice of your rest and recovery periods and then realize that boundaries are not about pushing people out.
• The reason boundaries are really important is because whenever we say yes in a place where we really wanna say no, we are creating fertile ground for this horrible emotion called resentment.
• Boundaries are not about changing other people's behavior. They are about deciding what you are going to do and what you are going to allow into your life.
• Help is really important. Good, reliable help is like incredibly important for working moms.
• I would start looking at life as a game. Like, life is this game that's meant to be enjoyed, and we're here to learn how to play it well.

Break Point: https://www.netflix.com/title/81569920

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In this episode, Coach Kooley interviews Lindsay Lyman, a certified career and life coach. Lindsay shares her journey from an insecure overachiever to a confident leader, offering insights on tackling corporate challenges and finding motivation in difficult work environments. The conversation covers building self-trust, achieving work-life balance, and finding fulfilment in and out of work. Lindsay discusses the importance of transparency, empathy, and consistency in leadership and self-care. The episode also explores strategies for working under challenging managers and addressing common misconceptions about happiness at work.

Tune in now!

[01:12] Lindsay Lyman’s background

[04:58] Key turning points from an insecure overachiever to a confident leader

[12:26] Lindsay's coaching approach to helping others feel motivated at work

[15:26] Three-part framework for earning trust

[24:04] Advice for individuals working under managers they don't trust

[25:00] The importance of transparency and honesty with yourself

[28:57] The challenge of consistency in self-care

[33:15] Addressing the misconception of "it'll get better when..."

[37:53] The concept of work-life balance

[41:29] Finding what brings you joy and rejuvenation

[46:14] Lindsay's upcoming workshops and resources

• I always tell people I don't sell happiness, I just don't believe that's actually what we want. Like, I don't wanna feel happy when terrible, tragic things happen. I don't want to love managers that micromanage.
• If you can't consistently know what to expect from your leader, are they gonna back you up in this meeting? Are they gonna throw you under the bus? It's really hard to have that trust.
• I just believe at my core, we as humans are more alike than we're different, and we all want to help each other and to keep becoming more amazing at what we are.
• Just because we're coaches doesn't mean we don't do this. Where we have an opportunity in the consistency space is to consistently, consistently take action faster.

• The most important relationship that we have is the one with ourselves. So how do we put our arm around ourselves in that moment and ask that question like, what do you need?

More Than a Paycheck podcast: https://lindsaylymancoaching.com/podcast/

Craig Groeschel's framework on the three elements of trust: transparency, empathy, and consistency: https://www.youtube.com/@craiggroeschel

Lindsay Lyman Coaching website: https://lindsaylymancoaching.com/

Lindsay's coffee chats: lindsaylymancoaching.com/chat

Promotion script: lindsaylymancoaching.com/ask

If you want to learn more about creating intentional pivots, let's connect. Remember to SHARE with your friends!

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LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/dele-downs-kooley

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Website: https://delekooleycoaching.com

Look out for a free downloadable journaling page to reflect on and capture what resonates with you.

To Book Your Strategy Session, go to delekooleycoaching.com/coaching

If you want the complete show notes or you want to learn more about the work that I do with my clients, go to https://delekooleycoaching.com/podcast 

Don't miss out on this opportunity to transform your summer and set yourself up for a fantastic Q4. Subscribe to the Pivot to Joy podcast and start your Summer of Success today!