When we hold someone prisoner of their behavior, we lock ourselves in the same cage with them as a victim.
This ego need to be right all the time, to have the last word in a conversation, demanding an apology, keeping tabs on our partners, digging up the past, practicing emotional blackmail, being offended with lack of communication, and feeling rejected by others hen they don't have time for you is creating a culture of abandonment and victimization that is not allowing us to be vulnerable and open in our relationships.
It is up to us to keep the momentum of our lives going, even when it seems like the speed of the relationship is slowing down.