Play Healing Parent Podcast

Introducing new habits from a place of connection

How can I introduce new habits?

About Debi:

Debi is the founder of Play Healing and a mother of two teenage daughters. Debi coaches parents online and has featured on BBC Radio to talk about parenting, homeschooling and preventing tech addiction. She has worked in education with children aged 4-16 for over 20 years, performed as a musician for 25 years and studied a Post Grad in Therapeutic Play.

She is the author the PLAY HEALING PAUSE Model helping parents to Pause, Play and Connect deeply with their children in a fast-paced, digital age.

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/debi-john-159343a8/

Music used on the podcast written by Debi John and produced by the amazing Paul Frazer.

About Cynthia:

Cynthia is a former corporate career woman having worked for a number of blue-chip companies including Microsoft, Merrill Lynch, Gemini Consulting, and Goldman Sachs. She holds a BA from the University of Chicago and a MBA from Stanford Business School.

Most recently, Cynthia co-founded two new entities: Habyts Ltd and ADDspark. She has 3 cool kids, a patient hubby, and an adorable dog that keep her grounded – and put up with her insatiable love of knowledge and news.

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/cynthia-crossley-837109/

Website - https://habyts.com

Support the Play Healing Podcast

Patreon - www.patreon.com/playhealing

Shopping online Neals Yard Organics by using this link: uk.nyrorganic.com/shop/debijohn

Resources

Free e-book: https://playhealing-bb694.gr8.com

22 Screen Free Ways to Build Connection with your Tween/Teen - https://playhealing-tween.gr8.com

Play Healing website - https://www.playhealing.com/

Play Healing Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/playhealingparent/

Play Healing Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/playhealingofficial/

Value Bombs:

"You could have the perfect structure in your head but none of it will work if you haven't got that CONNECTION."

Habyts PACE Approach: A step-by-step habit-building system to give you the confidence to succeed with Habyts.

1. Prepare Purposely– get clear on what success looks like for you and your family
2. Automate Quickly – see how to address specific concerns in a consistent way
3. Celebrate Smarter – make habits stick by reviewing progress and celebrating success
4. Experiment Together – be ready to handle any setbacks (it's actually a GOOD thing)

Incorporate Play into your rituals and over celebrate the wins.

The next step after that needed to be positive to help my child to come off their screen.

Debi: We're using PLAY and CONNECTION as the MOTIVATION for change.

The bond you're creating will help the child to instal that new habit.

Show Notes:

Intro:

Thank you to the listeners who've been sharing and reviewing this Play Healing Podcast, the reviews have been seriously out of this world! Each week I'll be announcing at the end of this podcast who I've chosen to receive a lovely little gift from Neils Yard. Just leave a review to be in with a chance of winning.

2.45 How Cynthia and I met.

4.05 Founders Story - I have 3 boys - 20,18 and 8 years old. Talking about her struggle with screen time as the boys were growing up and the impact on relationships and motivation.

Her BIG Question when they were growing up? How do you get kids to think about the things they do to move towards the relationships and goals they want?

6.17 At Play Healing it's all about connection. Talking about resilience.

6.45 Bigger issues we must address as parents. What are the goals, structures, rituals, routines we want to put in place?

8.11 Ned Halliwell's research mentioned. How to develop deeper connection. ADHD Researcher.

9.40 Debi 'The act of PAUSING to take action and change a routine or rhythm takes so much energy.'

80% of the coping mechanisms have been stripped away - see Linkedin article.

Problem solving and creativity takes energy.

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/lockdown-parenting-from-stress-fest-revolution-debi-john

11.00 The structure needed around habit forming.

12.59 There's a sense of security when you have that structure in place.

13.25 Talking about connecting over the dinner time with teenagers. Cynthia then adds to this structure in preparing the food together.

The developmental importance of kids being included and taking a role to do chores around the home.

18.30 The power of singing at the top of your voice! Talking about how music lifts our mood. Silliness is great.

20.00 The impact of being on your phone and computer all the time in contrast to seeing parents being playful.

21.30 The power of a 3rd party / app when we're overwhelmed with work ourselves.

24.30 Modelling flexibility and changing things that don't work. Including kids in the family plan/ framework.

25.29 Simplifying your life.

26.00 The emotional a practical impact of Corona19 and how flexible approach has been such a healthy approach.

28.08 Example of helping a child to come off screens and then celebrating with quality time and play. Moving from something that they were enjoying into something they also enjoy.

Outro:

This week I want to read out a very moving review from Cathy.

"Excellent calm, grounded advice. Practical ideas and tips that will really help busy parents and remind them to PAUSE and be kind to themselves. Thank you Debi for sharing your expertise. "

To thank Cathy for that lovely review I'll be sending her a 'Women's Balance' Aromatherapy Remedy to Roll - AND a White Tea Facial Mist that's given me a boost this week during the podcast launch.

uk.nyrorganic.com/shop/debijohn

Remember to PAUSE and look after yourselves guys x Serious love to you all x Debs x

Sponsors

Thanks to Habyts for being a sponsor of the Play Healing Parent Podcast. To find a balanced way to manage screen time and motivate your kids click here. https://sb252.isrefer.com/go/Aff1010/Aff1010/

To grow your audience with a quality list and market products check out - https://www.getresponse.com/?a=KAwgJm7CYh

Special Offer for Listeners:

To get 10% off Teddo Cards, enter PLAYHEALING at the checkout. https://www.teddo-play.com

Podcast Production:

Special thanks to Pete Sene for producing this podcast and to the amazing people who funded the production in my GoFundMe Campaign. You are all angels x

Play Healing Parent Podcast - Helping Busy Parents to Pause, Play and Connect in this Fast Paced Digital Age, with Debi John

Title: Preparing your 4-7 Year old for their return to school during the Corona virus.

About your host:

Debi is the founder of Play Healing and a mother of two teenage daughters. Debi coaches parents online and has featured on BBC Radio to talk about parenting, home schooling and preventing tech addiction. She has worked in Education with children aged 4-16 for over 20 years, performed as a musician for 25 years and studied a Post Grad in Therapeutic Play.

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/debi-john-159343a8/

Podcast Music: Written and performed by Debi John. Produced by the extremely gifted Paul Frazer. You can listen to the whole track here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4RU6hw28SsY

Resources

SPECIAL BONUS - ebook containing a full transcript of this podcast can be found at: https://playhealing-bb694.gr8.com

To support the podcast with £5 / month go to: Patreon - www.patreon.com/playhealing

22 Screen Free Ways to Build Connection with your Tween/Teen - https://playhealing-tween.gr8.com

Play Healing website - https://www.playhealing.com/

Play Healing Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/playhealingofficial/

Show notes:

I've been working with a number of parents who are now thinking about their children transitioning back into school again, but are now faced with a whole new layer of fears to add to their already stressed out brains:

What if they go to hug another child who has the virus?

What if they have an accident and can't be changed, due to social distancing?

What if my child wants to play with another child's toy and it's infected?

What if they need a hug?

Questions I never had to worry about when my eldest was starting school.

The first thing Debi suggests is her ever popular suggestion to PAUSE and look at how we are feeling as parents. If we are in an anxious state it will be very hard to feel relaxed enough to play, attune and connect with them.

Once we have grounded ourselves we can use Play to address some of the issues coming up for the child, whether that's socially, emotionally, physically or academically.

Debi suggests the use of therapeutic stories including 'While we can't hug' found here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2PnnFrPaRgY

From the creators of the internationally adored 'The Hug,' Eoin McLaughlin and Polly Dunbar. (Faber & Faber Publishing)

This could start a conversation about all the things they can still do with their friends and will help to keep things positive.

Other suggestions include Role Play, Puppets, Drawing and Nonsense Play.

Sponsors

Thanks to Habyts for being a sponsor of the Play Healing Parent Podcast.

To find a balanced way to manage screen time and motivate your kids click here. https://sb252.isrefer.com/go/Aff1010/Aff1010/

To grow your audience and market products check out - https://www.getresponse.com/?a=KAwgJm7CYh

Thank you to the amazingly generous people who have donated to the podcast production via Go Fund Me and to Pete Sene who has been producing these podcasts with his amazing producer skills!

Play Healing Parent Podcast - Helping Busy Parents to Pause, Play and Connect in this Fast-Paced Digital Age, with Debi John

Title: Mindfulness in a Parenting Minefield

About Debi:

Debi is the founder of Play Healing and a mother of two teenage daughters. Debi coaches parents online and has featured on BBC Radio to talk about parenting, home-schooling and preventing tech addiction. She has worked in education with children aged 4-16 for over 20 years, performed as a musician for 25 years and studied a Post Grad in Therapeutic Play.

She is the author the PLAY HEALING PAUSE Model helping parents to Pause, Play and Connect deeply with their children in a fast-paced, digital age.

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/debi-john-159343a8/

Music used on the podcast written by Debi John and produced by the amazing Paul Frazer.

About Emily:

Emily is a mother, wife, daughter and lifelong lover of learning. Her passion in life is helping children to realise their full potential. After years of coaching adults, she realised that if she had worked with them as children they would have had very different lives. She now pours her passion, energy and skill into working with children - tomorrow's trailblazers!

Emily is a qualified NLP Trainer and Coach.

https://www.facebook.com/Mindtoolsforkids/

http://Mindtoolsforkids.com

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Support the Podcast

Patreon - www.patreon.com/playhealing

Resources

22 Screen-Free Ways to Build Connection with your Tween/Teen - https://playhealing-tween.gr8.com

Free e-book helping your child with transition back into school after Covid19: https://playhealing-bb694.gr8.com

Play Healing website - https://www.playhealing.com/

Play Healing Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/playhealingparent/

Play Healing Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/playhealingofficial/

Value Bombs:

Emily: Being kind to yourself starts with self care and realising you're worthy of it in the first place. We need to stop putting pressure on ourselves! Putting myself first was alien to me however, I found that if I didn't practice self-care, I can't give to others without feeling resentful or burning out.

Emily: We're all learning on the job! And to think we can just pick a book or methodology and feel like that's enough is setting us up for failure.

Emily: Acceptance is the first step.

Debi: There is such a power in pausing - it's so counter cultural though when everyone is burning the candle at both ends.

Emily: We're not always modelling this shiny model of how we want life to be like, but that's ok, that's real life. But it acts as an opportunity for our children to see that it's ok to make mistakes and say sorry.

Debi: It's important for the child to feel safe and helps them to grow and thrive.

Sponsors

Thanks to Habyts for being a sponsor of the Play Healing Parent Podcast. To find a balanced way to manage screen time and motivate your kids click here. https://sb252.isrefer.com/go/Aff1010/Aff1010/

To grow your audience with a quality list and market products check out - https://www.getresponse.com/?a=KAwgJm7CYh

Special Offer for Listeners:

To get 10% off Teddo Cards, enter PLAYHEALING at the checkout. https://www.teddo-play.com

Podcast Production

Special thanks to Pete Sene for producing this podcast and to the amazing people who funded the production in my GoFundMe Campaign. You are all angels x

What's it like being a young actor? About your host: Debi is the founder of Play Healing and a mother of two teenage daughters. Debi coaches parents online and has featured on BBC Radio to talk about parenting, home schooling and preventing tech addiction. She has worked in education with children aged 4-16 for over 20 years, performed as a musician for 25 years and completed a Post Grad in Therapeutic Play. LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/debi-john-159343a8/ Episode guest: Carys John has been a professional child actor from the age of ten, having performed in Andrew Lloyd Webber's School of Rock in the West End (the first BAME actor in the role of Bass player Katie in the UK). Carys also plays Coco, in The 4 O'Clock Club television series on CBBC. Subscribe Apple | Google | Spotify | Stitcher | iHeart Resources: FREE e-book about preparing your 4-7 Year old to return to school: https://playhealing-bb694.gr8.com Patreon - www.patreon.com/playhealing 22 Screen Free Ways to Build Connection with your Tween/Teen - https://playhealing-tween.gr8.com Play Healing website - https://www.playhealing.com/ Play Healing Facebook Play Healing Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/playhealingofficial/ Value Bombs: Parenting high achieving children can be a challenge, especially when that involves your child in a demanding semi-professional vocation, such as acting or sports. What do we do with the realisation that our child may be talented? How do we support and nurture their gift without losing our sanity? 3) The roles for children in professional theatre or television are demanding. How do we help our children rise to the demands of such challenging but amazing opportunities? Sponsors Thanks to Habyts for being a sponsor of the Play Healing Parent Podcast. To find a balanced way to manage screen time and motivate your kids click here. https://sb252.isrefer.com/go/Aff1010/Aff1010/ To grow your audience and market products check out - https://www.getresponse.com/?a=KAwgJm7CYh A Podcast Company - is the leading podcast production company for brands, organisations, institutions, individuals, and entrepreneurs. Our team sets you up with the right equipment, training, and guidance to ensure you sound amazing. - www.apodcastcompany.com and www.podcastsyndicator.com

Debi is the founder of Play Healing and a mother of two teenage daughters. Debi coaches parents online and has featured on BBC Radio to talk about parenting, home schooling and preventing tech addiction. She has worked in education with children aged 4-16 for over 20 years, performed as a musician for 25 years and completed a Post Grad in Therapeutic Play.

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/debi-john-159343a8/

Patreon - www.patreon.com/playhealing

22 Screen Free Ways to Build Connection with your Tween/Teen - https://playhealing-tween.gr8.com

Play Healing website - https://www.playhealing.com/

Play Healing Facebook Play Healing Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/playhealingofficial/

Parenting high achieving children can be a challenge, especially when that involves your child in a demanding semi-professional vocation, such as acting or sports. What do we do with the realisation that our child may be talented? How do we support and nurture their gift without losing our sanity? 3) The roles for children in professional theatre or television are demanding. How do we help our children rise to the demands of such challenging but amazing opportunities?

Sponsors

Thanks to Habyts for being a sponsor of the Play Healing Parent Podcast. To find a balanced way to manage screen time and motivate your kids click here. https://sb252.isrefer.com/go/Aff1010/Aff1010/

To grow your audience and market products check out - https://www.getresponse.com/?a=KAwgJm7CYh

A Podcast Company - is the leading podcast production company for brands, organisations, institutions, individuals, and entrepreneurs. Our team sets you up with the right equipment, training, and guidance to ensure you sound amazing. - www.apodcastcompany.com and www.podcastsyndicator.com