Jesus on Divorce
Matthew 19:3-6 (ESV)
3 And Pharisees came up to him and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful to divorce one’s wife for any cause?”
4 He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female,
5 and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?
6 So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
Matthew 5:31-32
31 “It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’
32 But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.”
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1. Jesus raises the bar for the husband’s responsibility to marriage (5:32).
16 “For I hate divorce,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “and him who covers his garment with violence,” says the Lord of armies. “So be careful about your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.” ---Malachi 2:16 (NASB)
15…So guard yourselves in your spirit, and let none of you be faithless to the wife of your youth. 16 For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the Lord, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless. ---Malachi 2:15-16 (ESV)
2. Exceptions for divorce aren’t meant to be the way out of a marriage, but to be ways of honoring the integrity of marriage.
Biblical Exceptions for Divorce:
1. Divorce is permitted by Jesus for adultery (Matthew 5:32, 19:9).
2. Divorce is permitted by Paul for abandonment (1 Corinthians 7:14-15).
3. Divorce is permitted by Moses for abuse (Exodus 21:10-11, Deuteronomy 21:11-14).
But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” ---Matthew 5:32 (ESV)
And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery. ---Matthew 19:9
14 For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. 15 But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. ---1 Corinthians 7:14-15 (ESV)
10 If he takes another wife to himself, he shall not diminish her food, her clothing, or her marital rights. 11 And if he does not do these three things for her, she shall go out for nothing, without payment of money. ---Exodus 21:10-11 (ESV)
3. Divorce isn’t a deal breaker with God.
9 Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, 10 nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. ---1 Corinthians 6:9-11 (ESV)