RATED R: Language, Sex

Rebecca talks with Wendy, a sex, dating and relationship expert, about our partner’s ‘have to haves’. In other words, what do you truly need in a relationship? On the other hand, what do you need to avoid? Using Wendy’s Partner Have-to-Haves worksheet as a basis, Rebecca and Wendy discuss what they look for in relationships and how to identify if someone is right for you.

Guest Details

Connect with Wendy

Website 

Bio

Wendy Newman is a media-celebrated author and a dating, sex and relationship expert who’s led hundreds of workshops and revolutionized the lives of over 70,000+ women internationally. She guides women to understand men, dating, sex, and partnership of all kinds. She celebrates those emboldened to live their truth and is an advocate for LGBTQ rights, open relationships and alternative lifestyles.

Committed to communication and to people being heard and understood, Wendy pursued her higher education at Vista College in Berkeley with a certificate in American Sign Language and Deaf Culture Studies.

You can find Wendy’s articles, features, interviews and expert advice on her website. She also gets featured in publications like: The Wall Street Journal, U.S. News, Washington Post, The Daily Telegraph (Australia), Meetic (France), Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Redbook, Self, Huffington Post, Men’s Health, Men’s Journal, Elle (Canada) and more.

Think about this:

• What are non-negotiables for you in a relationship? (e.g. you’d be unfulfilled and unhappy without this?)
• Watch out for contradictory traits: for example, you might not be able to get safety and freedom from the same person.
• If sex in a relationship doesn’t fuel you, will the relationship last?
• Do you want to be monogamous or polyamorous?
• What do you do if the person / people you’re dating don’t have most of the partner have-to-haves?
• This is going to move relationships quickly in either the right or wrong direction:
  • What am I dying to provide?
  • What are they dying to receive?
  • What are they trying to provide and am I dying to receive?
• If you’re being used up in the way you really want to be in a relationship, it makes the little things that go wrong easier to work out.
• Are you molding yourself into what you think your partner needs?

Keep Exploring

Listen to Episode 090 with Wendy Newman on how to say 'I'm sorry' with an open and graceful heart.

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CREDITS

Thanks for listening to Pleasure Central Radio, hosted by Rebecca Beltran. The co-host for this episode is Shawn.

The guest today was Wendy Newman. Wendy has been on the show many times in the last few years. If you’d like to hear all the episodes with Wendy (including the one about the Full Moon Partnership Ritual), check out the Playlist on PleasureCentralRadio.com or search your podcast player for all episodes with the guest Wendy Newman).

Technical production by Catharina Joubert (Creators Abroad) with advice from our podcast consultant Sandy Waters.

Rebecca gets significant creative feedback from her Beta listeners group. For this episode, special thanks goes to Chet, Sara, Josh and Bob. And to anyone else we might have missed, you are loved.

Rebecca looks forward to your company on the next episode!

PHOTO CREDIT for show’s main artwork to JodyRaePhotography.com

RESOURCES

Access Wendy’s Partner Have-to-Haves DIY workshop

RATED R: Language

Rebecca talks with Elle, a tantra teacher from NYC, about forgiveness, healing your heart after a bad breakup and how to move on WITH the gift of the experience. Rebecca and Elle open up and share how they have learned and grown, and where they are now…

Guest Details

Connect with Elle

Website

Bio

Elle Mountain Deer is an Elite Level Certified Advanced Tantra Educator, a dakini and practicing Buddhist. In addition to studying tantric energy practices, she studies shamanism and complementary healing modalities.

In her practice, she blends Tantric yogic techniques with modern methodology to reconnect your body and intuition, so that life can be lived in true communion with self and others.

Prior to creating Essence Love, her current practice, she spent 20 years as a CEO of a multimillion-dollar company and worked as an executive coach for leading business luminaries, focusing on accomplishment within the corporate world.

Yet, with all her achievement, there was something missing. She yearned for more depth and connection. Through her studies, she discovered that it was possible to have both success in the material world and a life of meaning.

She redefines success to include both worldly achievement and connection to self and spirit. If you want to realize your personal power and truly manifest your desires, Elle awakens you to a life of heart-centered illumination.

Think about this:

• Forgiveness does not mean letting someone off the hook.
• Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and thinking the other person will die.
• If we are treated in a way that is unkind and uncompassionate, that is about the person who is being hurtful. When we let it happen to us, it’s our responsibility. It’s our job to take care of ourselves and maintain our self-respect.
• What is your model of love? For example, is it accepting intense adoration, then being thrown under the bus, and being blamed for it?
• Without integrity, we don’t have respect and without respect, that’s not a relationship.
• Love and Compassion Prayer

Keep Exploring

Listen to Episode 98 – Love Courageously BONUS – where Shawn and Rebecca introduce a curated playlist that will help you understand what you truly want in your romantic life.

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CREDITS

Thanks for listening to Pleasure Central Radio hosted by me, Rebecca Beltran. My guest was Elle Mountain Deer of Essence Love. Technical production by Creators Abroad (Catharina Joubert).

I also get significant creative feedback from my beta listeners group. For this episode, special thanks goes to Shawn, Val, Josh and Bob. Thank you for your input. And to anyone else I might’ve missed, you are loved.

If you’ve listened to this episode today and were intrigued by something, I would love to hear about it. What really hit home for you? Or surprised you? or maybe something from this episode helped you shift a perspective about something important?

There’s a voice message button on the homepage of PleasureCentralRadio.com. I would love to hear what made a difference, and it’s as easy as leaving a message on my answering machine!

I’m especially interested in any new concepts that motivated you to do anything different in your own life. I’m looking forward to hearing from you.

Thank you for being a part of the conversation. And I look forward to your company on the next episode. 

PHOTO CREDIT for show’s main artwork to JodyRaePhotography.com

RESOURCES

Download Essence-Love Heart Healing Ritual (open to more connection and love in your life).

Are you looking for more love, support, and powerful partnership right now?   Want to dive deep into the topic of getting what you truly want in your romantic life?    To celebrate nearly 100 episodes of Pleasure Central Radio, Rebecca has curated a playlist from the show to help you dive deep inside yourself and come back with more clarity, love, and pleasure!   In this short BONUS episode, Shawn and Rebecca introduce the playlist, give you an idea of what episodes will be included, and tell you how to listen.   "I wanted to make a collection of classic episodes from the show and powerful insights to help you find your deepest joys and pleasures faster. Getting the love and support you need is worth it. I'm rooting for your happiness too! Enjoy!" -Radiant Rebecca  

Keep Exploring

Listen to the whole Loving Courageously playlist on PleasureCentralRadio.com

 

WORK WITH RADIANT REBECCA

How different would your life be if you could love yourself courageously? What if you could experience the clarity, joy, and growth that comes from prioritizing your own pleasure?

Most people making a big change spend too much of their time, effort and money trying to figure out how to transition gracefully out of their business or into an empty nest situation — only to feel like their lives are falling apart from all the strain of trying to hold it together.

Well, Radiant Rebecca is a renowned work transition coach and pleasure guide. She specializes in helping people love themselves courageously through life transitions so they can use pleasure in their lives as a basis for growth and fun. 

So if you need help with your sex life, partnership, or body issues, get in touch with me.

I've helped people all over the world to reclaim their pleasure, and I have a few slots for VIP Coaching days coming up. Through a casual day full of connecting experiences one on one, I will personally be guiding you through the most important steps to reclaiming your pleasure so you can truly live life happily and on your terms — once and for all. 

To learn more, go to:

A VIP Coaching Day With Rebecca

It might just be the best decision you ever make.

RATED R: Language

This episode features me interviewing Dawn and Jody, two amazing women who run a boudoir photography studio together in Redmond, WA. The three of us share stories of unexpected intimacy in our work, thoughts on how we intentionally build intimacy with our clients, and a few deep, intimate moments ourselves.

Also includes the episode Epilogue: Hear how Rebecca’s photoshoot went, and what she thinks every day as she walks by her boudoir prints!

LINKS ———

To learn more about this week’s guests, find them on the web at https://blackswanboudoir.com/ and come visit them in their studio in Redmond, WA.

Instagram: @black_swan_boudoir

[email protected]

Call: 360-957-6833

 

CREDITS Thanks for listening to Pleasure Central Radio hosted by me, Rebecca Beltran. Shawn hopped in to co-host an intro and epilogue today, and my guests for this sensuous episode were Jody and Dawn at Black Swan Boudoir in Redmond, WA. Technical production by me, with plenty of branding advice from our consultant Sandy Waters.

I also get significant creative feedback from my beta listeners group. For this episode, special thanks go to Chet, Shawn, and Bob. Thank you for your input. And to anyone else I might’ve missed you are loved.

If you’ve listened to this episode today and were intrigued by something, I would love to hear about it. What really hit home for you? or surprised you? or maybe something from this episode helped you shift a perspective about something important?

There’s a voice message button on the homepage of PleasureCentralRadio.com. I would love to hear what made a difference, and it’s as easy as leaving a message on my answering machine!

I’m especially interested in any new concepts that motivated you to do anything different in your own life. I’m looking forward to hearing from you.

Thank you for being a part of the conversation. And I look forward to your company on the next episode.

PleasureCentralRadio.com (to send Radiant Rebecca a voice message or listen to old episodes or playlists!)

PHOTO CREDIT for show’s main artwork to JodyRae.com

 

 

RATED R: Language

Rebecca has gotten to be on some really cool podcasts that other people have posted this year. Recently she was on one called It Goes Both Ways.

The hosts, Christy and Steve are a married couple and they’ve been married for many years and have high school-aged children. Part of the reason why they wanted to have Rebecca on the show was to ask for some sex challenges to put some sexy times back into their learning long-term monogamous relationship.

CREDITS Thanks for listening to Pleasure Central Radio. Today’s episode is courtesy of Kristy and Steve at the It Goes Both Ways podcast. Check out their show at https://www.itgoesbothwayspodcast.com/podcast.

If you’ve listened to this episode today and were intrigued by something, I would love to hear about it. What really hit home for you? or surprised you? or maybe something from this episode helped you shift a perspective about something important? There’s a voice message button on the homepage of PleasureCentralRadio.com. I would love to hear what made a difference, and it’s as easy as leaving a message on my answering machine! I’m especially interested in any new concepts that motivated you to do anything different in your own life.

I can’t wait to hear from you! Thank you for being a part of the conversation. And I look forward to your company on the next episode.

PHOTO CREDIT for show’s main artwork to JodyRae.com

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LINKS

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To learn more about this week's guest, click here:

It Goes Both Ways - https://www.itgoesbothwayspodcast.com/

RATED R: Language

Shawn (original co-host of Pleasure Central Radio) and I are back together again to talk with my coach (and our mutual friend Morgan Oaks, in fact, the reason we started supporting each other).

We talk about men’s leadership programs, rites of passage, the space we’ve created in our lives to stop and listen within, and what Morgan is putting into his new support group for men.

These are two of the most heart-centered men I know, and it was a pleasure to be back in the studio with them again! -Radiant Rebecca

CREDITS Thanks for listening to Pleasure Central Radio. Hosted by me, Rebecca Beltran. My cohost was Shawn (Perry?), and our guest was Morgan Oaks. Technical production by me, with plenty of branding advice from our consultant Sandy Waters.

I also get significant creative feedback from my beta listeners group. For this episode, special Thanks goes to Bob and James and Rowan. Thank you for your input. And to anyone else I might’ve missed you are loved.

If you’ve listened to this episode today and were intrigued by something, I would love to hear about it. What really hit home for you? or surprised you? or maybe something from this episode helped you shift a perspective about something important? There’s a voice message button on the homepage of Pleasure, Central Radio dot com. I would love to hear what made a difference, and it’s as easy as leaving a message on my answering machine! I’m especially interested in any new concepts that motivated you to do anything different in your own life. I’m looking forward to hearing from you.

Thank you for being a part of the conversation. And I look forward to your company On the next episode.

PHOTO CREDIT for show’s main artwork to JodyRae.com

LINKS ——— Dr. Morgan Oaks is a transformational speaker, coach, and healer who empowers the conscious cultivation of body, mind, and spirit through the process of intuitive listening and courageously inspired action.

Dr. Morgan’s motto is “I want for you what you want for yourself”. His tools and skills include being a chiropractor, Certified High Performance Coach, NLP practitioner, shamanic healer, and energy worker. Dr. Morgan blends ancient wisdom with the tools of modern transformation to bring synergy to healing and evolution!

To learn more about this week's guest, Dr. Morgan Oaks, find him on: https://www.drmorganoaks.com/ FACEBOOK - https://www.facebook.com/drmorganoaks https://www.instagram.com/drmorganoaks/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/drmorganoaks/ https://twitter.com/DrMorganOaks

PleasureCentralRadio.com (to send Radiant Rebecca a voice message or listen to old episodes or playlists!)

OraCacao.com

SHOW NOTES RATED R: Language & sexual concepts 

Rebecca explores with a poly couple how they talk with their kids about sex, bodies, and relationships.

Hear their perspectives about lying to kids, telling their son about tampons, and the curious things kids say about condoms… 

Rowan and Athalie have been guests on the show before. 

CREDITS  My guests today were Rowan and Athalie.  Technical production by me.  I get significant creative feedback from my Beta listeners group.  For this episode, special thanks go to Tom and to Becky. Thank you for your input. And to anyone else I might have missed, you are loved.  Thank you. And I look forward to your company on the next episode!

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To learn more about this week’s guests, check out Rowan and Athalie on their podcast, The Social Cure https://thesocialcurepodcast.com/

Candid conversations about the intersection of social and health issues

LINKS Episode 086 – Meet Rowan and Athalie https://pleasurecentralradio.com/podcast/086-meet-rowan-and-athalie-2/

It’s So Amazing!: A Book about Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies, and Families (The Family Library) Paperback – Illustrated, August 8, 2014 https://www.amazon.com/dp/0763668745/ref=cm_sw_r_sms_api_glc_fabc_BH6HM7GRAC7N1N53YPWX

What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety Paperback – October 25, 2011 https://www.amazon.com/What-You-Really-Want-Shame-Free/dp/1580053440/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=what+you+really+really+want&qid=1638137386&sr=8-1

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Tell me what really helped you, what hit home or what surprised you in this episode.

There is a voice message button on the home page of pleasurecentralradio.com. I would LOVE to hear what made a difference for you, and it’s as easy to use on your mobile phone as leaving a message on my answering machine.

I’m especially interested in any new concept that motivated you to do something different in your own life…

I’m looking forward to hearing from you! Thank you for being a part of the conversation.

-Radiant Rebecca

RATED R: Language and some sexual concepts

Rebecca and her ex-partner Rowan cohost a poly birthday party recap house concert. 

 

LINKS Artist: Val D’Alessio  Songs

-Shakey Ground  -Golden Retriever -Kindness is Everything

"Kindness is Everything" episode 091 link

PHOTO CREDIT for show’s main artwork to JodyRae.com

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CREATIVE CREDITS

Thanks for listening to Pleasure Central Radio.

Today’s episode was a joint creative effort hosted by me, Rebecca Beltran, and my cohost today was Rowan Miller.

I get significant creative feedback from my Beta listeners group, for this episode, special thanks go to James, Bradley, Tom and of course, Val D’Alessio for their sharings.

Photo Credit for the new podcast cover art goes to Jody Rae Photography in Astoria, Oregon.

I look forward to your company on the next episode.

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Tell me what really helped you, what hit home or what surprised you in this episode.

There is a voice message button on the home page of pleasurecentralradio.com. I would LOVE to hear what made a difference for you, and it's as easy to use on your mobile phone as leaving a message on my answering machine.

I'm especially interested in any new concept that motivated you to do something different in your own life...

I'm looking forward to hearing from you! Thank you for being a part of the conversation. 

-Radiant Rebecca

RATED R: Language 

Rebecca reads some audience feedback on the How to Say I'm Sorry episode number 90. 

Thanks for listening to this bonus episode! I love sharing interesting perspectives, thoughts, and conversation tangents on topics that matter to me.

For this episode, special thanks go to James for the content and Rowan for helping me with the production, and for being my hands and when I needed extras. 

And to anyone else I might have missed, know that you are loved too.

Thank you for listening... And I look forward to your company on the next episode!

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LINKS

If you have something you would like to share with me, I would love to hear from you too. The easiest way to do this is to go to PleasureCentralRadio.com. Click on the bottom right hand corner on the red button that says, send a voice message to Rebecca. 

Whether you’re on a phone or on a computer, hit record and you can leave me a voice message just like this listener did. I  would love to hear what you have to say. 

Feel free to share a bright moment from your day if you want to beat the drum of what feels good to you.  Or share what new insight this conversation has sparked within you. 

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RATED R: Language & explicit sexual content.

Rebecca shares three short, touching and unexpected stories with Rowan about her life right now. It’s dedicated to my wonderful ex, Tom, and my touchingly creative friend Val.

“[This conversation] also has a great mix of authenticity, compassion and vulnerability. Your compassion for Tom after the fact really comes through, and it was very nice to hear his comment about how you really believe in and practice the authentic approach to relationships you espouse.”

“As for vulnerability, talking about breakups and what was going through your head before and after (i.e. thinking about how to put more energy into the relationship and then seeing the bright side that you can focus your life elsewhere) is a common part of a lot of relationships that end, I imagine, so it’s definitely something [other] listeners will be able to relate to.” - BETA listener group participant

“Thanks for listening to ‘Pleasure Central Radio’ hosted by me, Rebecca Beltran. My guest / co-host today was Rowan. Today’s episode was written and researched by me, with technical production by me. I get significant creative feedback from my Beta listeners group, for this episode, special thanks goes to Tom, Eli, Bradley, and to the sweet couple who let me into their lives for an evening. Thanks also goes to Val D’Alessio for speaking her heart so that the rest of us can hear it and be affected by it.

And of course to you listening. This wouldn’t be nearly as much fun without you. I look forward to your company on the next episode.”

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LINKS Last Year’s House Concert for Rebecca Birthday, year 2020 (PCR Episode 047)

Val D’Alessio Val specializes in music celebrating the joy of living from the heart. You can find more of her Joy and Passion Powered Folk Pop on a Country Blues Backroad music and inspirations here: http://www.valdalessio.com/

068 – The Upside of Distance (REPOST) - the episode about long distance relationships that I referenced in this episode…

Mind, Body, and Soul - The Game for Any Couple

 

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And thank you for being a part of the conversation!

-Radiant Rebecca

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