In love we make compromises, sacrifices, we adapt, we make changes to accommodate our spouses differences. It's not just about spending money. It's about doing what it truly means to love.
You cannot give what you do not have. Find yourself, love yourself, acknowdge yourself then you can appreciate when someone loves you and you won't feel drained when you love someone.
The currency of life is relationship. No one is designed to be an island. We are social beings and God designed us to interact. Appreciate everyone God brings your way regardless.