Healthy relationships are just as important as a healthy body and a healthy mind. Spencer Feldman, the author of four amazing (and free!) e-books we are going to introduce to you, says: “We want happily ever after, but our DNA has other plans.  It pursues its goal of maximizing genetic diversity by manipulating our neurochemistry and thus how we feel about our partners.  To regain control of your romantic destiny, you’ll need to understand the three phases every relationship goes through, the neurochemistry associated with each phase, and the counter-intuitive actions we need to outwit our DNA and get to our own Happily Ever After.” Listen to Spencer and Martin chatting about the importance of healthy relationships and personal growth in this two-part interview!

Podcast 400: Relationships, Kingship, and Personal Growth – Part 1

MARTIN: Hi everybody! This is Martin Pytela for the Life Enthusiast online radio network! Today I have Spencer Feldman with me, I would say he is a dear friend by now. Spencer supplies us with products by the brand Remedy Link, which you will appreciate. They are phenomenal detoxification and energy raising tools. But today I thought we would try and explain that most of us are multifaceted human beings. Spencer is no exception. One of his facets is that he is a writer and he has written several eBooks that he has published on a website called Spiritual Secret Agent, and I would like to ask him a few questions about that. Spencer Feldman, welcome to the show!

SPENCER: Hey, thanks for having me, Martin. Nice to see you again.

MARTIN: Hey, you sound so low key as if you took some relaxing substances.

SPENCER: Yeah, yeah, I’ve been working on keeping my cool and staying relaxed, so yeah.

MARTIN: Oh, so this is actually intentional! You are just simply doing a cool dude thing.

SPENCER: Well, you know, it is a meditative practice. You just try to remember that you are here to keep your calm and help other people.

MARTIN: Well, I am sure we will get the conversation to that part as well. What popped into my mind was seven years ago, I got seduced by this advertisement that talked about meditating like a Tibetan monk with this gadget, and the gadget was some kind of a set of flashy LEDs that you put over your eyes, and some kind of sounds that you play into your ears. I brought it home, set it up, turned it on and said, okay, show me what that is like. And so I thought, well, can I try medium setting, then I tried deep, then I tried the ultimate and I am thinking: what’s up? It is just regular meditation, I do this every day!

SPENCER: You know what you might like if you ever have a chance to try? Lucia light and sound machine. If you ever get in front of one of those, that is an interesting experience, that can definitely put you into some interesting states. But yeah, you know, at the end of the day, it is just calming down your nervous system and relaxing you.

MARTIN: Well, I am naturally very keyed up. In my studies of metabolic typing, I came across the fact that some of us are in the acidic, sharp twitch or fast-twitch rapid response, more on the sympathetic side of things, and others not so much. They would be on the other side, more on the parasympathetic, more relaxed, slower. Of course, most advertising these days is done in the keyed up hot to trot, stress, respond now, because if you don’t, you miss out on life kind of way. So talking to you right now I am thinking: oh, okay, let me see, maybe I can just ratchet it down a few notches.

SPENCER: Well, my attempt to ratchet it down initially was trying to figure out what parts of my life were not working properly. And the first thing was I did not have relationships figured out. So I know you thought it might be interesting for us to talk about that. So we can talk about my first book,