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"That is what I choose to identify with, and that is how I will move forward from my past. So my mind will constantly go to the things and the people that hurt me, my heartbreaks, my failures, my losses. And if you continuously identify with those things, they become habitual thoughts, habitual patterns. So even when one chooses to stop identifying with that, the habit of reidentifying with it is still there."