When you change the way you see things, the things you see change!

The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.

-Einstein

I have a disproportionately large number of people asking for their numbers, whose soul correction is 'Sexual Energy'

I could ponder why the Kabbalists named the soul correction that... but instead of that I'll say:

How you do anything is how you do everything...

meaning whatever your attitude to one thing in life, will be visible in every area of life, including sex.

The main attitude of this soul correction, 'Sexual Energy' is: It is my due. One may say 'I deserve it'. I heard the expression 'Magiya li' in Israel a lot.

Entitlement: the belief that one is inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment.

We all think about certain things, we all view certain privileges as a right, as a due, as an 'of course', but the nature of reality dares to differ.

So the attitude of 'It's my due' results in a thankless delusional relationship with life.

If demanding didn't do it an escape to daydreaming (hoping that that will do the trick.)

Maybe you'll do mind movies, or Christie Marie Sheldon, or any Law of Attraction program... they are for entitled, 'it is my due' people who will NEVER AMOUNT TO MUCH until they give up, to one degree or other, their attitude.

Because we view our dues as a foregone conclusion, we rarely do anything for them, or if we do anything, we do them fast and shabbily, only to demonstrate to the Universe (or to other people) so they pay attention.

No systems, no practices, no consistency, no efforts, no real work... because it is not necessary. Why? Because getting what we want is a foregone conclusion.

It's not working. So we engage a coach, a friend, an intermediary... and see if that gets the trick done. Maybe they will GIVE us what should have come naturally...

But the attitude 'It is my due' interferes in that relationship. The Universe may not care, but another person does!

So albeit we may get a lot from that person, we also get grief. Because we still don't do our work... because inside 'it's my due' there is no chance to do any work for any length of time.

Only when you can get that there is no free lunch, and you have nothing due to you, nothing that you didn't specifically negotiate for, only then will you be able to do work.

The standard relationship to reality is 'I am an object in the world of objects.' With the attitude of 'it's my due' it gets a twist:  I am more special than others. Therefore it's my due.

The measure in the Starting Point Measurements, #11 (the about-me score) gives you the best clue to tell you if you are gaining ground on your soul correction.

Soul correction is the number one stumbling block. The soul correction is always an attitude. And conquering it is your job in this lifetime.

It's wicked difficult. It is hardwired. And it is very difficult to see on yourself. I even dare to say: it's impossible to correct.

But that doesn't mean it is not worth going for. I have corrected mine, so far, to 70%...

#11, To what degree you think of yourself, says to what degree you put yourself front and center. How much of what is happening you think is personal. To what degree you think that it is your due to be happy, be loved, get rich, spend time with, catered to... and obviously to what degree you are angry or disappointed when you don't get your due.

The 'solution' is not the obvious: 'if my life isn't about me, then it must be about others.' Looking back, 30 years ago I also thought that if my life wasn't about me... then it must be about others.

But that isn't a solution: you are already too interested in what others think of you.

My most influential teachers teach new expectations through invalidating the ones that create a life of misery.

Ben Settle is one of those teachers.

I subscribed to his newsletter and then quit it after a year or two. Why? because for a time he was more interested in world building and world domination than what concerned me more: a healthy business that served me. And he was more political than I could stomach... so I quit.

I had benefited from my subscription... How? I managed to double my monthly income and at the same time reduced the amount of work it took. I also doubled my self-respect... hm.

Without having done the Moneyroots workshop on the 19th I would have never known what produced that doubling. I would have thought that it was because I now 'religiously' offer something for sale every single day, rain or shine, holiday or not.

And many of his subscribers, in my experience, think the same... wholly and completely missing the roots of the teaching... the worldview... Even though he knows that is what he is teaching. A different worldview... a more profitable one.

Ben's worldview is 10% accurate... but in the area of business and money it matches what works in reality 70%.

My worldview, according to Source, matches reality 91%. But in the area of money and business it is only 70% accurate.

It seems, by the numbers, that the missing 9% is all in the area of money... or related to making money, spending money, saving money, investing money.

I have been looking to map those missing unreality sentences... And I have, so far found one... According to Source there are 30... so I will keep on looking.

But even this one has the potential to make a difference for me.

What is that sentence I found?

It says: You can make a lot of money if you sell people what they want but don't even talk about what they need. So you sell them a mirage... and you cheat them. This is what most people sell... They sell to greed.

I am starting to feel the resistance. What is resisting? Surprisingly it is your stability component resisting, the ego. It says that if you change your mind about it, it will wreak havoc. The feeling is fear. I feel fear in my stomach.

The identity, the personality/worldview/self-view is threatened: I am a good person. I live from 'we', not from 'me'. Blah blah blah.

Identity is rigid... It is a rigid construct, giving you little to no freedom to be.

Identity is part of the worldview... through the 'myth' of is. I AM this way... add the tone of voice of self-righteousness.

On another note:

Progress is a human predatory genes concept...

Wanting more than what you can consume, wanting to kill for the sake of power, dominating and enslaving others for predatory reasons...

One could say that this is the concept: homo sapiens.

Destroying a planet just because you can... That is the concept: homo sapiens. An invasive species.

I started to get interested in the predatory genes a few years ago after I read a book, a fiction.

Most every question I have ever had, the questions that penetrate the invisible, come from a book, a video, an article, some even from commercials.

There are 10 predatory genes. They are the type of genes that can be turned on or turned off.

70% of humanity has 10 predatory genes active in their DNA.

10% have zero... meaning: NO predatory genes.

91% have more than 3...

Three predatory genes, according to Source, is where one has enough pep to take care of themselves and their families... but not more. No power trip, no killing to be right, etc.

More than 3 predatory genes, interestingly leads to the person not being able to see the consequences of their action.

In life you get what you negotiate. Not what you need. Not what you want. But what you successfully negotiate.

Some truths pop out when you least expect them.

None of my students know how to negotiate. My students are a microcosm... A mirror of the whole damn world.

You demand, and sulk when you don't get what you demand.

You expect, and you sulk, or yell, or attack when you don't get what you expected.

Even the idea, the concept of negotiating is missing.

I have been no exception... Only lately have I started to consider that if I negotiate then the chances of getting what I want increase by billion-fold.

It started with my landlord.

My landlord reminds me of my mother: he is a screamer... So I was afraid of him. My behavior was the belligerent, resistant child's who was beaten one too many times.

I live on the upper apartment of a two-family house. It used to be nice. But by the time I moved in, 16 years ago, it hadn't been painted in decades, and the floor wasn't refinished for exactly the same length of time. The roof leaked when it rained, and the stove was on its last leg. Then its burners died, one after the other, until there was one functioning burner.

I bought a standalone burner... I was not going to ask him to get a new stove... For years.

Then one day I was coaching someone and got how puny I was, and how unbecoming to a coach to be a chicken.

I phoned my landlord, and he got me a chipped but working stove. Then my refrigerator broke... I phoned him... And got a new refrigerator.

I was learning. Slowly.

Then I had my predatory genes adjusted, and the world of negotiation opened up for me.

I can now ask for what I want, and eventually, through twists and turns, I can get it.

Not because I really really really want it. Not because I need it. And not because anybody owes it to me. No. Because I negotiated it.

In the Playground, my flagship program, the work of returning you to your power happens in 'partner calls'.

The partner calls are two participants telling two stories from their lives, one recent and one old. They take them through steps, one of these steps is finding a communication that had they said that, the story would have lost its charge... Upset, anger, frustration, hate, devastation, resentment.

Thus far no one has managed to say anything that would have quite done that.

My own 'foray' into communication happened in 1985. I was 38 years old, and utterly miserable. My Bach profile would have been 'willow', at the time, victim.

In willow, you don't know what you want, so you can't ask for it.

One of the goals of negotiation is to find out what the heck you want. Until then whatever you are given won't be good enough.

But more often than not, what you find you wanted is so ridiculous, that you stop being a victim... And move to another Bach profile...

My one sentence that expressed what I wanted, what I was a victim of, was this: 'You never married me!'

Said to my father.

I didn't know that was there... It was completely unconscious. But when it was said, when I could look at it at the light of day, I could see why my life went the way my life went, and I could laugh and cry and laugh and cry, and be rid of it.

Most of my students, like you, want to be treated like a king or princess. Be catered to, taken care of, excused from any and all work you don't want to do, blah blah blah.

Really? Anyone who wants that, really, would not have enrolled in my programs! So you, just like me, want something that would not make you happy... But you haven't let go.

I'll say again: the first goal of negotiation is to get clear on what you want to negotiate.

You may think that procrastination is reserved for lesser people like you, but you would be mistaken.

I have been observing this famous dude procrastinating, waiting, and not doing much for the past year or so...

He is a well-known public speaker, highly effective coach who has made many people very very rich.

So I have been puzzled why he is so good at advising and yet so bad, so weak at implementing what he teaches, implementing it in his own life.

And suddenly, in light of what we glimpsed at our Moneyroots workshop, I now have a place to look... and looking I will do.

I am suddenly looking at the dude differently. I am looking at his worldview, and am starting to see how it leads him astray. How it takes the wind out of his sail, when it comes to HIS life, HIS business, HIS actions... not those of clients. Clients he has successfully supported for the past 20-30 years.

The same expectations that have paralyzed him as a wrestler in his childhood now paralyze him in his business. And there are more expectations, there is a whole worldview. And unless he identifies it as a worldview... his life will remain the same. He'll support others in getting filthy rich, but not him.

If someone wants to know your worldview they only need to pay attention to what you consider as something that can be expected.

The more of what you say can be expected because that is how reality works, the lower your vibration.

But to be able to hear an expectation, you really need to be able to hear it, see it, smell it, detect it in every one of its shapes and forms. Recognize it.

In every should. In every 'is'. Regardless of the topic.

Very few has this distinction:

Your expectations are the detectable expressions of your worldview...

And why this is important to know?

Because your journey through life will be either easy, smooth, or chunky, rough, and miserable... depending on how far fetched your worldview from reality.

You can call these expectations beliefs... but that doesn't change the fact. If just conveniently cover up the fact that you are expecting the world, people, society, nature to be one way, and it isn't.

When you cannot get beyond belief... you cannot really see that if it were that way, the world, then your expectations would always bring the same results... and when they don't, you would buckle down and question your belief.

Do you? Have you?

I know more people who questioned their belief in some personal god, than I have known who question their belief that people are good, or bad... or they are good... or they deserve anything.

When people say: you deserve... they express the tip of the iceberg, the visible part of an expectation, that deserving means you will get it.

There is no deserving in reality. Even if it were a more interesting world... deserving is an entirely human invention, and has no validity in reality.

In reality, and just look an the animal and the plant kingdom, things get what they can take and keep.

Cruel? If you call it cruel, you'll be a putz. It is what it is. It is the laws by which reality operates... not by the rules of nice humans.

I have asked my core study group to inventory their 'expectations', their warped personal reality. I expect them to see only 3% of what constitutes their personal reality. The 97% they'll miss will FEEL true to them, even though they are not true in reality.

I found this in Reddit today:

Hard work pays off,

Dreams come true,

Bad times don't last,

But Bad Guys Do!

It was in a thread about a Putin speech. Putin AND everyone live in a personal reality that has nothing to do with reality... or not much. So every step of the way the clash is certain.

I am re-reading a book I read years ago. Happiness is a Serious Issue

It has a truth value of 10%. Relative to other books, it's high truth value.

Sometimes truth value is low because the author propagates deliberate lies, or personal misunderstanding.

Other times the author looks just on the surface, and hasn't penetrated deeper layers of reality.

Most of the time the book reflects the current worldview... and of course the current worldview is and has been and probably will be for a long time, maybe forever, low truth value.

Not consistent with Life, with nature...

It's personal reality: people make it and and then call it reality.

One of the things I can find out from books with low truth value is what is the current and dominant worldview... what they consider important and relevant and potent.

Unless I take the time to see what water my clients swim in, unaware of the water, I can't connect with them where they are.

I am only a third of the way through the book at this time... it is slow going because I HATE non-fiction.

I don't only read, I also watch University Professors lecture on youtube... ditto. Low truth value... and also tedious.

Everyone is dealing with the same issue I am dealing with: the stuff we teach doesn't go through. Doesn't create the wanted effect in the listener's brain. It doesn't take residence and make changes in the listener's life. They may be able to repeat what we said, but that is worthless.

The more persuasive the speaker, I am noticing, the less the truth value or what they say.

What's that about?

Why things heard don't become part of the tapestry of the backdrop... the backdrop that contains your whole worldview... including your self-view?

The answer, I say, is that

the filter, your unconscious filter, doesn't allow anything that doesn't MATCH what's already accepted in the backdrop to get through the filter.

If the filter doesn't allow it through, then for you, it is as if it never existed.

I am sitting here half naked in the not humid air very early in the morning.

I hear a bird, probably a bluejay, caw-ing desperately, half complaining, half trying to rouse sympathy, maybe support.

I hear her pain. And I hear pain over the loss. My guess is that my resident raccoon has robbed her nest. And I hear her pain over the indifference of the other birds... She is alone, and she needs to fend for herself.

She just flew away, and it is now quiet... Everyone about themselves, everyone for themselves. That is how the world works. Birds know it.

Humans refuse to get it. Humans refuse to adjust their worldview to how it is.

They keep on having expectations and never learn. Expectations are the mother of misery.

The word 'should' is the visible part of an expectation... It should be this way, it shouldn't be that way.

When you expect: you'll either get or don't get what you expected.

But no matter which way it turns out because even when you get what you expected, you are still miserable.

Why? Because when you expect something you rob yourself of the most essential ingredient of happiness: gratefulness.

Gratefulness comes when what you get is not expected. When it is a gift. When it is a surprise. And when you don't take it for granted.

And gratitude, appreciation fills the empty space within... you know the emptiness you find when you look inside...

People who have everything are not happy. They are empty. Because only gratitude and appreciation fills the emptiness within. Not love, not stuff, not pleasure.

And of course I am not talking of fake gratitude... real gratitude.

The more expectations you have,

Real Royals... Like Muhammad Ali...

Real Royals take it on the chin... If you were really a princ(ess), you would too.

Disappointments, slights... yeah, those are what I am talking about.

I read every book some writers write. Or have ever written.

One of these is Neal Stephenson.

He newest book, Termination Shock, is about the global warming threatening most of the people on the planet. 104 F in England?

One of the main characters in the 716 page book is the Queen of the Netherlands.

Because we are talking about expectations, and entitlement, and 'due to me' I am looking at the book and the character of that Queen.

I have no idea and haven't checked if the Queen of the Netherlands is at all similar... this is fiction, and I am working with what I read in the book.

No one SHOULD be more entitled than the queen of a country... right?

This queen isn't... so it begs to ask the question...

I ask Source!... Is this normal?

And to my utter surprise Source says: yes. Hm. Why would that be?!

If you are a queen, it is due to the title to get whatever you are supposed to get.

But that doesn't include love, doesn't include good weather, doesn't include success, doesn't include much of anything that we, mere mortal expect... if we do.

The 8 billion does. If you are now part of the 8 billion, you'll need to consider if you have the title to expect things due to the title. If not... expect nothing. Neither success, nor failure.

Our Queen crashes their royal jet... and has not a bad word to say about that. She attends to what she needs to attend to so they can be OK... and have no public echo to the crash.

Then she joins in with some off the grid people who can safely take her to Texas where she is due in a few days for a meeting. She eats what they eat, she sleeps where they sleep, she is totally and 100% stoic... nothing pulls her out of her equilibrium. Not even inside.

She expects nothing, so when she gets anything, she is grateful.

You don't expect that from royalty, do you?

Some of you fancy yourself special. Why? F... knows. No title, no position...

Some of you may even fancy yourself prince or princess.

You only know how off you are when you actually study an actual prince or princess... instead of imagining some innate right to expect anything other than what anyone can expect... which is preferably not a thing.

Unless your job is king of a nation. CEO of a corporation. Head of a church. Your expectations have never been put into an executive order... that everyone agreed to.

Your family didn't agree to treat you as a prince or princess. The world at large didn't agree to give you privileges. And lastly: the weather, global warming, didn't agree to treat you special.

We could look at the Royal family in The United Kingdom... and explain a lot of things... what we would find there, underneath any unpeace, is expectation that is unfounded in the system.

If you are really loyal, you take it on the chin. If you aren't... but somehow, by marriage, you are part of the royal family, you are sulking, and unhappy.

Or if you, as it happens, just made it up that you are a prince or a princess and the world owes you... then, of course, if nothing else, your behavior betrays you.

I had a fascinating (for me) workshop yesterday, called Moneyroots.

Everyone, I felt, expected to learn about money, to have more... and discounted the title... that we'd learn about the roots of your money situation.

I think nothing gives me a clearer picture of the roots than looking at money.

I have never met a person who, when asked,

Poetry, poetic, poetic mind... not part of the fabric of culture in our times.

JFK was inspiring. Trump, Biden? coarse or boring.

At the same time there is a  quirk to human nature: A result that is not poetic, a result that is not uplifting, a result that is not inspiring doesn't register as a result. So people are left with a sense of nothing important got done. No happiness, no fulfillment. Nothing to be proud of, nothing to be inspired by.

And then the second quirk: that the skill people have for poetic language is completely undeveloped.

Humans are a marriage of earthly: drab, common, selfish, and near-sighted. And the heavenly: the magical, the powerful, the beautiful and inspiring.

An artist's job is to show that heavenly to people who have no eyes to see, no ears to hear, and no tongues to speak the beautiful and inspiring.

Most societies that have lived on Earth have been 99.99% drab and self-serving. But man's path was designed for this marriage of the drab and the etherial.

But the etherial, the inspirable part is neglected like a towheaded stepchild. Drab recognizes itself only in drab... grabby in grabby, taker in taker. The spirit self is denied.

The work of soaring, the work of becoming really who we were meant to be: created to the image of god leads through awakening the poetry in our eyes, in our ears and in our tongues.

Inspiration is a funny thing... One would expect it means that there is something out there with an extreme pulling power. But that expectation comes from a complete misunderstanding of the inner dynamics of creation.

What created the physical universe is hate. Defiance and not some desire or even love.

The more that people believe that looking at their desires, whipping them into a frenzy can take them to soaring, the less the poetic, the spirit part of them is alive and operational.

Motive power = power that moves

There are two possible power sources to anything that wants to move: one like a propeller that pulls, or a jet engine that pushes.

Desire is a propeller. Weak, and gets weakened as you approach the object of desire. It fizzles out, like passion or hunger when satisfied.

Fear, defiance, hate, are jet engines. They don't fizzle out, they keep pushing the person all the way to heaven.

Love, interestingly, is neither. Love is a stabilizing force... allows and encourages one to remain put. No movement.

I bet that every producer that ever was lacked love in their childhood. Why? Because love tends to kill the fear, the defiance, the hate that is needed to soar. To strive. To move.

That missing love can be rocket fuel, or can be the roasting fire that uses the life as fodder.

You can get wings from it, or you can get complaining and wretchedness to spend your life with.

The ordinariness is like a planet with strong gravity force. Some people break gravity fast, some people take decades, most people don't even go for it.

I was complaining and wretched until I found a way to redirect that self-burning energy to rocket fuel. And it still took me 30 years to break out of the 'atmosphere' of this planet wretchedness fully.

I was 38 when I started... I am 75 now...

In a way all the years not lived like a Man: created to the image of god, doesn't seem to matter. I do now. And I'll die as one.

Grief, regret, remorse, self-hate are not suitable rocket fuels. In our session yesterday where I asked people to tell me what they hated, the ones that don't seem to have any energy to move hated how they have been.

You want to hate how being earth-bound limits you. You want to hate gravity. Huh? Yeah.

Birds... only an empath can feel it, hate gravity and that allows them to fly.

What do you expect? Perfection? Winning every time? Never making a mistake?

I caught myself this morning saying something really intelligent. (probably because of the movie I watched last night)

I always learn marketing. So I just participated in a 3-day event... I have three things I want to implement. Three things that I just learned at this event. The event that ended last night.

Of course, most of the things I learned will replace my ineffective marketing actions from before the event.

And there is a moment of reckoning:

I have been doing it all wrong. And I have spent a lot of money advertising the wrong way. I have been doing a lot of work that is now all wasted.

Sinking feeling in the stomach.

And then came the intelligent saying: 'What did you expect? You don't know what you are doing.' And then this created an even stronger sinking feeling in the stomach.

This is what this article is about: that sinking feeling and you

I've been observing, in my own life and in the lives of my students, I am noticing that the BIGGEST barrier to growth, the biggest barrier to learning, the biggest barrier to action is the gap between your expectation of yourself to be perfect. Your expectation to know everything without learning. Your expecation to do everything without mistakes, to never fail at anything.

It isn't part of genetics: it is definitely a societal, cultural expectation that came from your parents and guardians.

Expectation is the mother of disappointment

When I was eight, my mother was in the hospital. I cooked a three-course meal: I needed a foot stool to be able to do it, but I did it.

I only remember the desert, because I screwed that up. It was similar to bread pudding, except instead of bread it had noodles in it, crushed poppy seeds, crushed walnuts, apricot jam... a yummy dish... except...

You cook the noodles in water. The water needs to be salty or the whole dish is ruined... I forgot to put the salt. You can't salt a sweet dish on your plate.

This was 65 years ago, I still remember it with a sinking feeling in my stomach.

Human culture is such that you only pay attention to your failures, your mistakes, your misses, your errors, your screw ups, and never remember your successes. Why? Because you expected to succeed... So it is a non-issue.

Context is decisive, so let's look what's the context, and let's see if we can change it, by design.

The context (I am speculating!) must be something like 'unless I am perfect my mommy will not like me'. Because, believe it or not, it is all about being loved... and underneath it, it all boils down to survival.

As societal creatures, our survival depends 90% on what others think of us, whether they like us or not... at least that's how it feels, doesn't it? In some countries it is even 99%, like Canada.

This societal expectation to be perfect, therefore lovable, is a poison that we, knowingly, administer to ourselves.

Perfection doesn't buy you liking, you, yourself, hate people who are perfect, you want to tear them down, it's irritating! Whether it's perfect looks, whether it's perfect education, anything.

Perfection is not attractive, and yet, stupid as the mind is, the mind keeps on telling you that if you could just be perfect, you would be liked, invited to parties, get married, whatever.

So you shrink, and you die a little bit every day.

Trying to be perfect is a stumbling block: you won't want to do anything that you don't already know how to do.

To be alive is to grow. Life wants more life...

Two things to the rescue:

You could say: I am expecting myself to be perfect, but that is not natural.

Instead I want to be growing. The more mistakes I make the more I grow...

A man survived at open sea adrift clinging to a partially deflated volley ball...

What allowed him to survive? It was the hate of the idea of dying.

Yesterday I watched, again, the amazing Danish movie 'After the wedding'.

The dynamics were played out with good acting and good directing: The one with strongest hate wins. You hate to die, but you hate to leave your loved ones with no father figure more than death.

Weak people call it love. I call it the hate that makes love love...

We all want smooth sailing. And we are taught that smooth sailing is through love love love... Bullshit.

And today there is no love in the world... or hardly any... because love is IMPOTENT... unless hate is underneath it to fuel it.

What is underneath smooth sailing?

We all want that... It feels sooooo good.

So most people go to magical thinking... religion, law of attraction, manifestation and luck.

I have been going a different direction... mastery.

So smooth sailing doesn't happen TO ME, I am moving in step with how it is, reality, life, processes, patterns, what have you, and the experience is smooth sailing.

The experience. Not traveling as a passenger, but traveling as the 'driver'. And because I am in tune with the environment, the requirements of the job, the patterns, the rules, I drive smoothly.

It's not innate to me.

My base nature is hasty, jumpy, impatient, all-knowing. Disrespect all around.

So I needed to tame my base nature to be able to look, and learn, and practice, so that I can do the job smoothly.

I had to borrow principles, like slow is smooth and smooth is fast.

But, of course, slow is smooth and smooth is fast is for people who get things done.

To my utter horror I am finding out that most people never actually do anything, let alone get things done.

Especially my #2 backdrop people.

What is this #2 backdrop?

Well, for starters, humans, the species, live through words. Helen Keller, until she learned words, lived exactly like any animal... instinctively.

But humans live through words. See through words. Hear through words.

Nothing that has no words doesn't even occur to humans.

And all those words are 'written' into a tapestry I call backdrop. So as the person grows, less and less wonder is going on: everything is already seen and named. Already and always.

Some of those words are more significant, more defining of the person's life than other words.

And those more important words tell the person almost exactly how to live, how to behave, so nothing will change.

Those words awaken emotions that are either motivating the person or the opposite: make them continue being the same way that they have always been.

The only thing that motivates is pain. Anger. Hate of how it is.

The idea that is taught but is not true is that desire motivates. It doesn't.

What motivates is hate. What motivates is pain. The idea that how it is is unbearable, intolerable, and must go.

The average motive power, I measure from 1 to 100 is 7. In North America: it is 3.

The minimum motive power needed for someone to move is 30.

So what's going on?

What's going on is most people, maybe because of positive thinking? tell themselves that it's OK, they are already good enough. That it's not bad.

And if it is not bad, then you won't be MOTIVATED to move away from it.

Unless an individual can whip up anger, hate, defiance, fury in them, they cannot change their inner swamp into a dry ground they can take off from.

It seems that without some defiance,

Imagine you are driving down the highway at 65 miles per hour, and your car's hood (bonnet?) pops up and suddenly it is all over the windshield.

Now that is some conundrum, wouldn't you say so? It is a problem asking to be solved? What would you do? Better yet: What could you do? What would be the consequence of the different actions you take?

Now imagine how you sound when you actually do your thinking?

You'll sound like a retard.

Try to do some thinking...

the what,

the in what order?

to what end?

what way?

If you sound coherent, then you are not thinking, you are rearranging the furniture.

Problem-solving uses the gray matter of the brain.

This, using your gray matter, is the next challenge we need to climb.

Decades of comfort, decades of someone putting the chair under our asses, decades of 'education' that put the emphasis on knowing, having the 'right answers' rendered humanity not even see opportunities to use the gray matter of their brain.

The book I read about a week ago, 70% truth value, says that consciousness is only present when the gray matter is doing work... when the gray matter heats up. Otherwise your immense computer, your brain doesn't do any problem-solving type of work... i.e. it doesn't heat up. No consciousness.

So when in the movie Defending Your Life...

...they talk about how much of someone uses their brain: this is roughly what they are talking about. How much actual problem-solving type of thinking is going on.

Now, in my knowledge which is irrelevant, because I don't know, nobody expressly teaches activating your gray matter. If anybody does... I don't know about it.

Most books, most non-fiction books are written by people who have moments of consciousness and then decades of using what they have.

It is mostly due to the setup... your work either needs you to be conscious, i.e. problem solve, or not.

Yesterday in on of our weekly meetings I was looking with my students for opportunities for them to problem-solve in their normal daily work.

It didn't go well. Because the goal is to get to a place where you are mostly conscious... So you can live your life consciously. That you can choose consciously. So you can cause your life, yourself, what comes out of your life consciously.

So, of course, I am now reading a book that may become helpful. And my dreams are working feverishly on the problem...

So when I woke up I saw something that muscletest says is on the money.

Problem-solving thinking always has an 'if this then that' element...

An 'if this and then that' element where the brain is forced to think through what happens when you choose this... what is the that then. The work of 'consideration' in the sentence: Choosing is selecting freely after consideration.

Of course the 'then that' part is playing it out fully in your gray matter... the whole darn movie of what will happen.

The more complex the conditions, the more the gray matter has to work.

And then do it again with a different 'if this'

If you live life not consciously, i.e. this 'if this then that' isn't used, then your life feels flat, meaningless, not fulfilling, and a dead end.

You have things you like, many more things you don't like, and the things you want are not available to you through your own effort, because the value you have to offer to get them can be done by a drone. A machine. Maybe even a trained dog.

And everything you do is a reflex. Instinct. No consciousness in it.

This, including the emotions you feel. No power, no design, no Self, no consciousness. Whatever comes will take over, and you have no power over it,