Point Man Book Study (2 of 4)

Guest: Gabe Boyd and Michael Thornberry

Point Man: How a Man Can Lead His Family (Revised & Updated Version) by Steve Farrar

Chapter 3 Real Men Don’t

Real men don’t commit adultery.

“Affair” vs. “Adultery”

An affair is “an escape from reality, or a search for meaning outside the marriage.”

Usually happens in the life of a man who is either bored or frustrated with his marriage.

When you leave your wife to commit adultery with another woman, you take yourself with you. And you are your biggest problem.

1 Samuel 2:30 - “Those who honor Me, I will honor.”

The lure of adultery is that another woman will truly meet your needs.

Chapter 4 A One-Woman Kind of Man

Commitment - Cortes - “burn the ships”...no turning back…

Guys, if we are going to save our boys, then we must save our marriages.

Be careful of adopting the thinking of today - don’t I have a “right to be happy”?

1 Timothy 3:2 and Titus 1:6 - character qualifications for spiritual leaders in the church…

• Includes being a “man of one woman” - or a “one-woman kind of man”

A one-woman kind of man is a man who demonstrates his commitment by disciplining his eyes.

W.M. Taylor said, “Temptation rarely comes in working hours. It is in their leisure time that men are made or marred.”

Temptation itself is not sin but a call to battle…

Chapter 5 Anorexic Men and Their Bulimic Cousins

“We owe the Scripture the same reverence which we owe to God.”

John Calvin

Strategy #3 - To effectively sever and alienate a man from the spiritual disciplines that will keep him fit and effective for spiritual battle.

Problem 1 - men don’t know the Word

Problem 2 - men don’t know how to apply the Word to their lives…

Howard Hendricks - “In the spiritual realm, the opposite of ignorance is not knowledge, but obedience.”

How to fight spiritual anorexia and bulimia - Psalm 1

“His delight is in the law of the Lord and in His law he MEDITATES day and night.”

Spiritual Plan to Read the Bible:

1. Plan a time

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