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Roy "Flash" Gordon is a professional wrestler, fitness pro, and coach who helps people WIN by building their mindsets, bodies, and spirits through more vulnerable relationships with themselves and the world.
Today I want to talk about a big buzz word these days. Authenticity. What does it truly mean to be authentic? And why are we actually all not so good at being authentic, though we probably think we are.
It's not that I think we are out living in the world as fake people. Not the kind of fake that most of us think about when we call someone a fake. That's like the people who act a certain way because they want something from you. Or they act one way with you and then act in a way that's totally different with others. And the lack of authenticity I'm referring to can be inclusive of that. That kind of fake is totally overt bs. No one tends to be happy when they discover that quality in a person that they interact with. But true inauthenticity is covert in its nature because no one thinks they're doing it.
So what does it mean to be authentic? It means you mean what you say. It aligns exactly with what you believe and value. You also do things that line up with those beliefs and values. You express yourself, both verbally and in your actions, as freely as you like because that’s what you need to do. Your honest about who you are and what you want with yourself and everyone. And you honor who you and what you want with actions that lead take you closer to what it is you want.
"But Flash, what do you mean most people aren't good at this? It sounds like you are just saying to be yourself!" Yes, I am saying that. And most people suck at it. Grade school teachers and Disney channel taught us to be ourselves, sure, but somewhere along the line most people got off that train. Since then I'd say the average person is pretty unaware of the deviation away from who they know themselves to be and who they show the world they are.
Who we show ourselves to be in the world, or our persona, is a mask of sorts. And we might have different masks for different situations but underneath the mask is the same person, our authentic self. Take the character of Roy "Flash" Gordon the sometimes chill, sometimes asshole professional wrestler…he is pretty different from Roy "Flash" Gordon who's recording this podcast… who's even a little different from the LeRoy Daniel Gordon who might just be walking his dog around the block.
So what's the problem? Well, if I enjoy the attention or acceptance or the high flying feeling I get with being Roy "Flash" Gordon the wrestler and too that system of actions, beliefs, and values to replace those of my authentic self then I might be a little problematic to those in my life but I'd probably live a fine life still right? I'd say maybe…until I consider that my persona doesn't really have real beliefs or values, let alone those that align with my authentic self. My wrestler persona is a way I express myself. The act of wrestling is an action that brings me fulfillment and serves my authentic self but it is not all of me.
My super fake hypothetical example, which by the way we hear about having happened in history to actors or musical artists, is an extreme one but there is a real danger of you becoming the mask that you show to others. When you wear that mask all the time. When you show up differently than who you really are. When you ignore what you are here to do in the world.
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