Topic: POLITE EXCLUSIVITY

Guest: AJOKE F. AREGBEYEN

One of the experiences I had in the year 2020 was in the area of making friends.The lessons I learned was that when you meet people and you appear to share the same interest you engage in the same type of activities. It doesn't mean that your values are the same or the fact that they pledged to the same kind of values that you ascribe to all the approval of it. It doesn't mean that they uphold the same values in their lives or strive to keep them. People can be very, very different from who they proclaim to be, no matter how old or how experienced they appear to be. So no matter how perfecting since from the beginning and you meet people and it seems that you've known each other for a very long time. Take your time before giving them access to you as a friend.

Certain things should be earned. Take your time before opening up to them and take your time before being vulnerable to them. No matter how perfect you think um you guys are, you can't always know people's intentions with you when you just meet them. I know this sounds cliché but until it happens to you, you will not understand. So you can't always know people's intentions with you from the beginning from the get go. So take your time to really get to know them and allow them graduating that skill before they are sent to being who you call your friend who you are able to open up to and give all those privileges that you give to your friendsIf given another chance, what would I do?When I meet people for the first time, it's a great idea to be kind. It's a great idea to be welcoming. I'll be kind, I'll be welcoming, I'll be hospitable, but a lot of me will be on reserve. Uh, it will be kept for those who have earned it and I wouldn't be so hasty is to think I have the um, well I call it guts or instinct to know that, okay, this is the kind of person that this person fits into this kind of category. I feel I have a fair understanding of this person judging by what I've gotten to know about them um, during this short period of what they've told me. So it's not being rude, is not being unfriendly. We just have to allow people to earn the position of friendship is not something you just slap on somebody because you like that person. Friendship is a big responsibility and all the things that you do with your friends is not something you just want to do with someone because you have a feeling that this person is fits in the category of the kind of people you call your friends.

Well I feel like my 2nd and 3rd questions I answer, I have already given the advice, but um I'll just give an advice that is not really related to what I've said. Um the advice I would give anybody is just to have faith, just have feet and keep believing. Um don't limit what you want to achieve. Don't limit your desires to what you know, but what you feel, you know, if you knew how to get to where you want to get too, or you know how to achieve all your dreams, you already be here by now. So you have to learn to have faith in God or in a higher power on whatever you believe in. So have faith and believe. Do not limit what you think you can achieve to your level of reasoning at this time or to your level of thinking. Just keep having faith in God in um whatever you want to achieve anyway, Thank you