What if you're already a 10 — and everything you've been trying to "fix" was never broken?
Javier sits down with Steve Barton — coach, entrepreneur, and creator of The Game of Ten®, a registered framework now used by therapists, coaches, and wellness professionals worldwide.
Steve took over his family's flower business at 22 after his father had a major stroke. Over 30+ years, he grew it past $2M and quietly built a framework presented at Harvard, taught alongside Marianne Williamson, and co-authored into a book with his son Spencer.
His premise: you're either at 10 — flow, alignment, authentic self — or you're playing "the game often played": fear, self-doubt, guilt, shame. There is no middle ground.
Inside: the radical separation between who you ARE and what you do, 33 years of A Course in Miracles, working with Marianne Williamson, and why radical self-acceptance is "the cure of everything."
ABOUT STEVE
Founder of Over the Looking Glass Coaching, creator of The Game of Ten®, GISC-certified coach with 40+ years of business leadership, graduate of Marianne Williamson's Miracle Minded Coaching, and a 33+ year student of A Course in Miracles. Co-author of The Father, the Son, and the Aha Moment with his son Spencer.
WHAT WE COVER
(00:21) The origin of The Game of Ten® and the two games we're all playing
(02:33) Why high-performers rate themselves 7s, 8s, 9s
(05:29) Why "less than 10" is its own form of arrogance
(06:55) Separating who you ARE from what you HAVE or DO
(08:32) Taking over the family business at 22 after his father's stroke
(11:22) Why family businesses struggle with healthy boundaries
(15:48) Presenting The Game of Ten® to a Harvard case team
(17:44) "Don't do bullshit. Do THE bullshit."
(18:07) Co-writing a book with his 18-year-old son
(18:47) 33 years of A Course in Miracles and meeting Marianne Williamson
(25:11) Licensing The Game of Ten® to coaches and therapists
(28:11) Why radical self-acceptance is "the cure of everything"
(30:11) Stay curious — every belief is a limiting belief
MEMORABLE QUOTES
"Ten is flow."
"You have thoughts. You are not your thoughts. These are tools — what are you using them for?"
"You can always improve what you do. But who you are is a constant."
"Radical self-acceptance is the cure of everything."
CONNECT WITH STEVE
🌐 OverTheLookingGlass.com
🔟 thegameof10.com (free digital book)
📚 Amazon: The Father, the Son, and the Aha Moment
REFERENCES
The Game of Ten® · A Course in Miracles · Marianne Williamson · Difference Press · Gestalt International Study Center · iPEC Energy Leadership Index
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