To make changes you want, you have to have hope that it's possible. But you can't have change without some fear. How do you balance pursuing what you want when you are afraid that it won't work out?

What can Team Martina teach us today about cutting ourselves some slack AND working toward a future we want? Lesbian wisdom from the 80's is right here for you!

Why *do* we want what we want? And if we can figure out how to be happy (or maybe just not miserable) right where we are, does that take away our desire to create something new for ourselves?

When we decide to make a change, it's because we think we'll feel better after we make it happen. So what's happening when we set a goal and don't make it? Using a desire to lose weight as an example, this episode explores where things go off track and offers a different way to think about approaching it.

We may think that the status quo is better than change, or that to make change happen, we have to throw a granade and blow things up. But what if it could unfold differently?