A quick trailer for the new Positive Change Methods podcast - all about Appreciative Inquiry and related change methods

In this episode of the Practical NLP Podcast I interview Duff McDuffee, one of the most thoughtful people in modern NLP. He specialises in helping creative and neurodivergent people who ‘think different’, as that classic Apple ad used to say.

In our wide-ranging conversation we talk about:

Duff's first introduction to NLP - as for many people, it was via Tony Robbins

What it was like working for Ken Wilber

What it was like working for Steve and Connirae Andreas (very different)

The two 'paradigms' (or ways of seeing the world)

A technique for reducing the pain of learning from your mistakes

Reframing failure

The importance of joy in motivation

An easy 'pattern interrupt' process for loosening fears around money or getting yourself out of a stressful state

... and much more!

This episode is sponsored by Duff's Transforming Money Fears Masterclass, that starts on 18 May 2024.In this live class on Zoom, you'll learn specific methods for transforming any fears you have around money. The goal is to go from feeling worried and stuck to feeling safe and optimistic!And when you feel good about money, you're more likely to try things that will bring in more money. This is especially helpful for those of us who are entrepreneurs, as we create our own fortunes. So hopefully this class will pay for itself!PLUS - book via my link and I'll send you the Collected Practical NLP Podcast Episodes 1-78! This normally retails for $39.99 - and it includes transcripts!

Links mentioned in the podcast:

Duff's website: boulderhypnosisworks.com

Free instructions and demo for the 'Clear Your Money Fears' exercise Duff described in the podcast

The 'Resolving Grief' process by Steve and Connirae Andreas

Transcript of the interview (generated by Riverside.fm, and only very lightly edited. Its transcript AI is pretty good, although it struggled with 'Connirae')

Duration: 1h 16m 32s

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NLP has a number of ways to help people get over traumatic incidents. Let's delve into them to see how they work.

Includes:

How your brain 'pattern matches' your experience in real time to scan for danger

Why talking about traumatic experiences isn't always the best way to put them behind you

The vital structure/content distinction in NLP

Three types of cognitive reframing

Pavlov to the rescue!

How your brain's routines are like the title sequence of 'Elementary'

Why our problems are like hypnotic trances

... and much more!

Here's a transcript of this episode:https://nlppod.com/the-amygdala-hijack-nlp/

Duration: 16m53s

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Everyone wants tips on how to get what they want, but it's more important to find your direction so you get to the right place. This interview with Andy Smith tells you how!

https://youtu.be/6aYnXIGWpPk

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Andy Smith in conversation with NLP Trainer, coach and author Margaret Nash.

Here are some of the things we talk about:

Why smoking cessation or maybe weight loss is the thing to specialise in if you want to make money as a hypnotherapist, and helping people with deeper problems is probably a terrible business modelMy theory about how 'manifestation' actually works (when it does work)How to improve your performance and be your best self more often with self-modelling - three easy stepsThe crucial importance of exploring your 'recovery strategy' (if there's something you think you're not good at, maybe it's because you don't have one in that context!)Why 'Good job!' should be the start of the conversation when a team member does something you like, rather than then end as it so often is (hat tip to Marcus Buckingham here)'Uptime' and 'downtime' - and why you need to be in 'uptime' when you're talking with a client or presenting to an audienceThe importance of persistence (this reminded me of Carol Dweck's work on 'mindset')How Margaret 'found her Zen' as a coach, and some tips on how you can too, as described in her latest bookThe difference in approach between coaching and 'classic' NLP changework.

Here's my take on the three steps of 'self-modelling', to improve your performance and be your best self more often:

Think of something you do well. And really examine in detail what you're doing when you perform that skill - not just what you do and say, but what you're thinking about, what you're saying to yourself, how you're feeling, how you're standing, how you're breathing, what feedback you're looking for that tells you if you're doing well or badly - everything.In particular, what's your recovery strategy if you're knocked off track? (for example, if you're doing an important presentation and there's a technical failure on your PowerPoint)Now do the same thing with a skill you want to improve. Notice the differences between all these aspects of how you do this, your recovery strategy, etc, and the way you do the thing you're good at.Now map the qualities of the way you do the thing you're good at over to the thing you're not so good at. What happens if you start doing this thing with the same confidence, internal dialogue etc that you use with the thing you're good at? Then try it out!

You can contact Margaret here: margaretnashcoach.com

Margaret has written seven books on various aspects of personal development, managing the stages of your life, and coaching - you can find them at her Amazon author page.

Duration: 44m 07s

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https://youtu.be/4LEQl3Mu7jU

A bit of a rant this week, inspired by the many, many posts I've seen on NLP forums from rookie NLP practitioners who ask what technique they should be using with a particular client problem.

They're going about it all wrong, and their NLP trainers should have showed them the right way!

Here's how to approach any client problem so you'll know what to do...

(for SEO purposes I should probably mention that it's to do with strategy elicitation)

You can find a transcript for this podcast, or pretty close anyway, here.

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Mentioned in the podcast: my Kindle ebook, Practical NLP 5: Strategies (now in its second edition)

Also worth reading: Magic In Action by Richard Bandler

Andy Smith in conversation with Debra Heslin, NLP Trainer, High Performance Coach, and Yoga teacher.

Here are some of the things we talk about:

Jack Canfield's work (you may know him as the Chicken Soup For The Soul guy) is mostly based on NLPCorporates can benefit from NLP (even something as simple as a representational systems test)There's some interesting real-time interactive technology out there now for corporate training'Cause and Effect': reasons and excuses vs resultsWhat to do when you're hanging off a cliff and you can't find your next handholdAll of a sudden, a decent online NLP Practitioner training is possible after all!An exercise for using submodalities to enhance a resourceful stateHow to use questions to influence someone's stateA brief intervention from Dakota the golden retriever... and much more!

We talked extensively about submodalities for enhancing a resourceful state - here's a submodalities checklist you can download for visual, auditory, and kinaesthetic submodalities.

(For more about submodalities, check out this introductory article)

We mentioned a couple of previous interviewees - you can hear the interview with Doug O'Brien here, and Gemma Bailey of NLP4Kids here.

You can find Debra, and details of her upcoming online NLP Practitioner training, at https://debraheslinwellness.com/.

Duration: 32m 44s

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gRQQA5StB1M&list=PLTPfitvHf-yqV6P9F4Lq2TrwiS-yGbBJW

Andy Smith interviews coaching specialist and NLP and Ericksonian hypnosis trainer Doug O'Brien.

In this interview:

Doug tells us about NLP Practitioner training with Tony Robbins in the eighties

Takes a dig at the shortness of most NLP Practitioner courses these days (compared to the 28 days they originally took)

Shares the basics of one of his favourite client interventions, the 'Havening' technique

Talks about modelling the skills of a great jazz pianist

... and much more!

You can find Doug at https://ericksonian.com and his Essential Coaching Skills membership site is at https://www.essentialcoachingskills.com/

See Doug's introductory video about the Havening Techniques here (it also includes a good, accessible overview of the amygdala's role in how trauma responses are formed).

Doug also has a new podcast, Essential Coaching Skills. (Episode 5, where he interviews Andy about using Appreciative Inquiry for coaching teams and individuals, is particularly good)

Episode duration: 36m 00s

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This week we have the second half of an interview that we did about how to apply the principles or ‘presuppositions’ of NLP to improve your life and work.

In the first half we explored the principle that “The map is not the territory”. In this interview we look at another principle that flows naturally from that one: “Respect for the other person’s map of the world”.

Among other things, we talk about:

Why you can't change someone's mind unless you start from where they are now

The importance of establishing credibility in a business context

If you focus too much on achieving a desired outcome from every communication, you will miss out on more open conversations where both parties learn from each other.

Appreciative Inquiry, a method of change that focuses on doing more of what is already working rather than trying to analyse problems, and the difference that can make in your life (OK it's not NLP but it's worth knowing about)

How to use the ‘scaling’ tool from the related field of Solution Focus in coaching and self-improvement (also not NLP, also worth knowing about)

How to use ‘chunking’ to overcome inertia

... and much more!

My interviewer is NLP coach Deb Johnstone, and the interview was originally conducted as part of her ‘Better Balance Greater Business’ summit - contact her at debjohnstone.com.au to find out more about that.

The free gift she mentions is my audiobook Practical NLP: How to use NLP principles to improve your life and work, even if you’re not NLP trained yet - download it from nlppod.com!

More about the 'Respect For The Other Person's Map Of The World' presupposition

More about establishing your credibility

More about outcome-focused persuasion versus learning conversations here: 'Is NLP Manipulative?'

More about how to use scaling questions

More about Appreciative Inquiry here - I run a two-day course in how to get started with using it in group facilitation or one-to-one coaching.

Duration: 25m 40s

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This week’s episode is something a bit different. Instead of me interviewing a prominent member of the NLP community, it’s someone interviewing me – about the principles or ‘presuppositions’ of NLP and how you can use them to be more effective in your life and work, even if you’re not NLP trained.

My interviewer is Deb Johnstone, an NLP coach based in Cairns City, Australia. Deb specialises in helping women business owners to achieve more with less stress, and to this end she put together the ‘Better Balance Greater Business’ summit, a series of video interviews with 23 experts, one of which was me.

You may have seen my messages and blog posts about this last month – it was a wonderful opportunity for people who signed up to get a lot of knowledge for free.

Now that the summit has finished, my interview has become available for release. I think it’s the best interview I’ve done so far.

This is the first half of the audio from the interview – if you want to see the video (it’s pretty much two ‘talking heads’), I have now put that up on my YouTube channel.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kS2LQSpZTDE&t=3s

It was supposed to be a half-hour interview, but we ended up talking for over an hour. That’s a bit long for a podcast (or longer than my listeners are used to anyway) so this episode is part one, with part two coming next week.

This episode is all about the most important (in my view) presupposition of NLP, the idea that ‘the map is not the territory’.

In other words, what you are experiencing right now, your reality, is not actually the real world around you, but a filtered and partial representation of it, that bears the same relation to objective reality as a map does to the territory that it represents.

Most people confuse the map with the territory. In the interview, we talk about the various problems that can cause, and how to avoid those problems.

To explore this topic further, you may be interested in the earlier article about this presupposition, the story of ‘The Ultimate Map’, and of course my free audiobook ‘Practical NLP: how to use NLP principles to improve your life and work, even if you're not NLP trained’ that covers this and the other 'presuppositions' of NLP in depth.

Duration: 31m 16s

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