Practically Speaking Mom: Intentional Mom, Strong Family

This bonus episode is fire!

Want more? Listen to episode 61, 37, and 2 for more on this topic. 

Episode 61 Giving Our Kids SMALL Steps to BIG Results & Littles Who Won't Listen

Episode 37 MISBEHAVIOR: Opposition or Opportunity. Plus, Potty Training and Other Fun. A Talk with My Daughter Becca, mom of four.

Episode 2 Mom is Master Gardener and Manager of the Monkeys (and I Don't Mean Your Kids).

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Consequences, Discipline, Rules, Boundaries, Standards, Principles - what are all these key words in parenting?
 
I'm feeling like I should walk on eggshells over here because we are looking at a touchy subject - discipline. Should we ever discipline a child? What does that mean? How should it look? When is it okay?

Episode 223 will bring clarity to the complicated role that consequences play in the life of a child or teen.

We're going to jump into the issue of consequences and discipline so buckle up!

Please remember, while sometimes I do a series where it doesn't matter if you listen to the episode in order or not, this is not one of those series.  For diagramming a difficulty or dealing with a struggle in your child or teen, it is important to listen to Part 1 first.

This is Part 2. So if you haven't listened to Part 1, please stop here and go back there first. Here's why. In today's episode, we're talking about consequences and discipline. Consequences come second, not first when we're parenting, when we're dealing with a major difficulty with our child especially.

What comes BEFORE consequences?
What's gumption got to do with discipline in parenting?
We're also going to talk about our big parent mouth and how to keep it under control! 

Episode 222 - Diagraming A Difficulty Part 1
Episode 4 - Dealing with Lying in Your Child Pt 1
Episode 12 - Dealing with Lying in Your Child Pt 2
Episode 83 - Four Stages of Discipline
Episode 25 Root Parenting vs Surface

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Does your child seem to hold on tight to their unhealthy behavior? Every child or teen struggle is an opportunity for equipping them for life. In fact, there's a simple method you can teach your child or teen so that they learn how to step out of their struggle, their weakness, their stubborn obstinance even. Join Val Harrison, the Practically Speaking MOM, for a method she calls Diagramming a Difficulty.  This four-step method also works for pretty much any life situation and any aged person. So, pull up a chair and take a few notes about how you and your child can learn how to Diagram a Difficulty with Val Harrison, in episode 222 of the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast, the place for intentional parents to build strong families.

This episode mentions an earlier episode about helping your child to set goals and achieve them and also how goal-setting in marriage is also helpful. Listen to it here: Episode 17  Episode 18 is a great follow-up to this theme as well.

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As intentional parents, we must cut through the confusion and get back to the basics - creating a strong foundation for our kids. How do we say NO and YES to our kids in effective ways that equips them for a thriving future? What does your child need from you when it's time to tell them "no" or "yes" to a request? In episode 221, Val Harrison, The Practically Speaking MOM is sharing parenting basics for a strong foundation for your kids.

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Do you long for more meaningful relationships for your family? Is it difficult for you or your kids to build new and deeper connections with others? The entire family can benefit from the principles in this episode. Especially you, your teens, college students, and adult children will get a lot of practical help. In episode 220 of the Practically Speaking MOM Podcast, Val Harrison and her college daughter Abby have a conversation about how to mentor those who are coming after us and how to find a mentor for us as well. You'll learn step by step how to build impactful relationships. This is a new series to help parents equip their children to CONNECT better with those around them, and to establish more meaningful, healthy relationships. 

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How do we help our kids on their path to wholeness in a broken world? Daily our kids are facing the same world that we are facing. They're trying to navigate a world that is constantly pushing and pressuring. Our kids are facing burdens and burnout while dealing with their own insecurities, fears, brokenness, and overwhelm. What should our journey with our child toward wholeness look like in a broken world? This is the final episode in the series Clarity for the Mission of Parenthood. 

All eight episodes have focused on something Val calls wholeness. 

A whole heart is not depleted but thriving, not stagnate in our brokenness but growing healthier, not closed off but open to giving and receiving love. It is fully engaged in living out God's unique design. A whole heart isn't remaining hindered by lies, insecurities, deficiencies, wounds, unrepented sin, or fears. A whole heart has been freed from those hinderances.

First, let me remind you about where we have traveled in this series. We began this series (called Clarity for the Mission of Parenthood) in episode 212, where Val shared how developing a parenting mindset of wholeness SIMPLIFIES your parenting decisions. 

Then, Val's husband, Rich, joined in for a few episodes where Val and Rich discussed wholeness in marriage, wholeness in sibling relationships and in our family unit. Finally, last week, Val began her top 10 tips for walking WITH YOUR CHILD toward wholeness.

In episode 218, Val covered #10 thru #6. They were:
10. Give your child a vision of the concept of their own wholeness
9. Pray more than you pester
8. Help your kids interpret their failures and wounds
7. Ask and Listen
6. Be impeccably trustworthy

Resources mentioned in this episode:
Audiobook of Wearing All Your Hats without Wearing Out $10
Your Love Becomes Their Strength workshop $12  

Unfortunately, the preschool songs

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How do we help our child grow in wholeness? How do we help them to flourish in God's design for them? How do we reach their heart for maximum impact?

In this series, we parents have been learning how to be ambassadors of wholeness for our own lives, in our marriage, to our family and among sibling groups. Now, in episode 218, we are looking at Val's Top 10 Tips for Growing Our Child Toward Wholeness.

Here's three resources that Val referenced in this episode:

Episode 129 about Circles of Influence
God of the Garden, Andrew Peterson
Freedom in Christ study

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How can we foster healing and wholeness for our family unit when sibling conflict is a real thing? How can we improve the family culture and the atmosphere of the home? Val's husband Rich joins Val on the podcast as they cover a lot of various issues and practical solutions in our journey toward Wholeness in the family unit. Be sure to all the way to the end because there are two important concepts that could change the way you parent.

In this episode, Val referenced an earlier episode that she said you'd want to listen to - Episode 149 Life-giving words episode w/ Dakota Hammond

She also introduces two impactful concepts: The Hebrew word Shema which means "to listen, pay attention with your heart and head, and take action." 
Then Val shares a parenting concept she has coined "Expectant reciprocity."
Shema and Expectant Reciprocity are two keys to a family culture that supports healing and wholeness. 

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The Key to a Lasting Marriage and a Family that Heals, Mends, Rests, and Restores...episode 216, Operation Wholeness for Marriage and Family w/ Rich and Val, part 5 of Clarity for the Mission of Parenthood.

This is the day! 32 years ago, we made a commitment to forever.
We didn't know what all we were committing to, but that's kind of the point.
The first half of the 32 years we didn't know how to do commitment from a place of nurturing one another, blessing one another, seeking each other's wholeness and health.
The second half of the 32 years, we've been living as ambassadors of wholeness for each other, ourselves, and our family.
An ambassador is on mission for the leader. We are on God's mission of restoring and healing. Everything we say and do either hinders or helps restore and heal another person and ourselves. We choose to heal. This has changed everything about our lives, our marriage, our family, and anyone that God brings along our life journey.
Every day we strive to build up, mend, and bless. We don't get it right all the time, but I can tell you this - having a partner in life that is committed with me to creating a life that heals means that every day, little by little, our relationship becomes stronger, we become more stable for those around us, and we are more committed to each other than ever before.
We began to prioritize taking time to mend and nourish one another.

Arguments stopped being a tug-a-war for power and instead were discussions to find common-ground solutions. 

We no longer were willing to make little "one-up" zingers at each other that would jeopardize healing. 

Nitpicking was replaced with encouraging words and having grace for one another's imperfections. 

Because my goal was Rich's healed heart, mind, body, and spirit, I no longer was willing to compromise his progress just so I could "win" an argument or get my way.

Likewise, because Rich's goal was my healed heart, mind, body, and spirit, he gave more effort in finding ways to affirm me and restore my injured areas. 

We both began digging deeper into unhealthy emotions, facing past tr

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Make "Broken Becoming Whole" the Measuring Stick for All Aspects of Life

As individuals: What will help my broken parts to heal? What will strengthen me and help me to grow? What barriers to growth need to be removed? What hinders peace in my spirit? What distracts me from healing?

Within our marriage: What will help our marriage to become stronger? What actions and words heal the insecurities, tension, and wounds between us? What are obstacles to oneness?

For each of our children: What do they need from us as we partner with God in their wholeness – to help them heal and flourish? 

For each relationship within our family: What does each relationship need to heal, to be strengthened, to grow?

Within our family unit: What brings strength to our family as a whole? What tears it down? What increases unity?

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THANK YOU for partnering in this ministry to strengthen families and encourage intentional moms.
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