Hey, sis! Thank you for joining me today because this tea is hot, Chile. We’re talking about being saved and sexually positive. Let me explain.

If you grew up in the church, what messages did you hear about sex? I can recall some, like:

“Don’t do it before marriage.”

“You'll go to hell for fornicating.”

“If you have sex, you’ll get pregnant.”

Sound familiar? While those are a few examples, we also must look at what the church didn’t say about sex.

For instance, I don’t recall any conversations on addressing sexual trauma.

Or how to deal with sexual desires realistically in the well-intentioned, but restrictive purity culture.

I didn’t witness any of the church mothers pulling young sistas aside to keep it real about sexual desires; instead shaming those who acted on them.

Church, we got to keep it real in these pews. Because the saints are having sex.

Even for the married, there are still misconstrued messages about sex in the church. For the single folk, it can be more bothersome. We can miss the mark; not acknowledging singles as sexual beings. As a result, we don’t adequately help them navigate the issue of sexuality as a Christian — in a practical way.

Look, I am not negating anything God says about sex. But if we don’t address sexuality from a holistic perspective, we will continue to send wrong or unrealistic messages about sex. This is why today’s guest is pursuing a career to connect sexuality and the church.

Meet Aleisha Olatunde, future Christian Sexologist.

You read that right. (Don’t clutch your pearls, sis.) She’s passionate about combining scripture, therapy and sexology to help couples and singles alike. But it’s not just happenstance or a random idea. Her own life experiences contributed to her career path and this God-given calling. We dig deep into misnomers about sex in the church -- including sexual trauma, developing sexual positivity and more.