In this episode, I sit down with Merilee(also known as “Solana”) for a deep conversation about love, ego, trust, boundaries, and what it means to live from virtue in relationships. Merilee shares why she identifies as a “child of the Most High,” how she received the name “Solana,” and why she believes most people misunderstand love because they’ve never learned how to define it beyond culture, emotion, or attachment.

We explore the difference between divine love vs ego-based behavior, why recurring relationship conflicts repeat (assumptions, accusations, and defensive communication), and how to set boundaries without trying to control other people. Merilee breaks down her perspective on trust using a powerful “treasure chest” metaphor, explains how to recognize character early by listening to everyday speech patterns (blame, complaining, assumption-making), and shares a real-life story of staying grounded during a hostile confrontation.

We also debate expectations vs standards, emotional expression vs projection, and monogamy vs polyamory, with Merilee arguing that virtue-based love requires a higher standard of self-accountability and discernment.

Merilee's work is focused on teaching people how to “win by virtue,” one move at a time, and she shares where to find her book and contact her directly.

Links mentioned:

• Merilee / Solana’s website: merrileesolana.com
• Book: The Game: Winning by Virtue One Move at a Time (email her via the website for access/details)

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