In this episode of The Escape Pod, we confront a sobering truth: the legal shield meant to protect victims of domestic violence can sometimes be little more than paper. Protection orders—also called restraining orders—are often hailed as a first line of defense, but as we’ll hear in today’s stories, their promises of safety are not always enough.

Through real cases, data, and expert insights, we explore the deadly gaps in enforcement, the scenarios where orders fail, and the ways the system could evolve to truly safeguard those at risk.

Protection orders are court-issued documents intended to keep abusers away from victims, sometimes requiring surrender of weapons and forbidding contact. They can provide relief—but only when they are enforced. Studies show 10–12% of female intimate partner homicide victims had active protection orders at the time of their deaths. Globally, the UN reports that 51,100 women and girls were killed by intimate partners or family members in 2023, revealing the lethal stakes when safety measures fail.

We dive into the harrowing cases of women whose protection orders weren’t enough:

These stories show a stark reality: orders can fail due to poor enforcement, abuser defiance, or gaps in protective measures.

Filing a protection order can sometimes provoke abusers, especially in cases involving firearms, stalking, or past severe violence. Research shows that violations often spike shortly after issuance—turning a legal tool into a potential trigger. Risk is especially high where abusers have history of ignoring authority, access to guns, substance abuse, or rural isolation.

Protection orders are most effective when:

Orders are not a standalone solution, but part of a broader safety strategy.

While protective orders save lives and reduce costs—NNEDV notes $85 million in savings in Kentucky alone—they are far from foolproof. Survivors and advocates stress that orders must be enforced consistently and combined with resources like shelters, monitoring, and risk assessments.

The takeaway is clear: paper protections are only as strong as the teeth behind them.

If you are in danger, reach out to the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE or text “START” to 88788.

RESOURCES:

Femicides in 2023 

Woman Slain; Suspect Sets Himself Afire 

Husband Kills Wife at Work, Himself 

Despite Escorts, Woman Slain by Stalker Husband 

Four Shot, Killed After 911 Call Fails to Summon Police 

Court Orders in Abuse Cases often Fail to Deter Violence 

Operation for Hope Reminds Victims of Violence That Goal is 'Safety, Not Justice' 

Are Restraining Orders Really the Best Option? 

Perspectives on Civil Protective Orders in Domestic Violence Cases: The Rural and Urban Divide 

Domestic Violence Protective Orders Are Effective in Reducing Homicides, Study Finds 

Intimate Partner Violence, Firearm Injuries and Homicides: A Health Justice Approach to Two Intersecting Public Health Crises 

Civil Protection Orders: Victims’ Views on Effectiveness 

One Woman or Girl is Killed Every 10 Minutes by Their Intimate Partner or Family Member 

Judge Reportedly Denied Protection Orders For Woman Cops Say Was Killed By Ex 

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