Sherry and Carla kick off this week talking about the difference between openly sharing your life and oversharing on the internet. They then take a Love Fix question on how to self-soothe during an argument and welcome Sandra Brown, M.A., field pioneer, author and former psychotherapist. Sandra talks about the rerelease of the award-winning and highly popular book, Women Who Love Psychopaths. She talks about what traits typically make up a psychopath, why some women tend to be drawn to them, and advice on treating trauma after healing from a relationship with one.

 

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

 

• You can be an open book, but it’s important to respect your partner’s privacy if they aren’t as open to sharing their life details.
• A Love Fix question on how to self-soothe during and after an argument with your partner.
• Sandra has worked her whole career of 30+ years with narcissists, anti-social, and psychopaths and the women and children who have loved them. What are the patterns she has seen time and time again?
• Her book Women Who Love Psychopaths is updated from the 2008 first edition and explores the real-life relationships and stories between survivors of trauma and what exactly makes a psychopath.
• What are personality trait elevations that are a risk factor in potential pathological relationships?
• What led Sandra to become interested in what she calls “Danger Zone personalities” or lower conscious individuals?
• Are psychopaths aware of what they are doing?
• With 1 out of 100 people being a psychopath, you probably know one. Hopefully, you haven’t yet dated one.
• How is psychopathy usually created? Is it nature or nurture?
• Is there a type of person or characteristics that tend to date psychopaths?
• Resources to learn more from Sandra about Women that Love Psychopaths, along with ways to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, healing from toxic relationships and gaining confidence.
• What type of treatment for women that have trauma for dealing with psychopaths?

 

Tweetables:

• “I’m an open book, and I’m okay with that.” - Sherry
• “Psychopaths are sicker than we are smarter. If we aren't on top of who will be targeted, we are still at risk.” - Sandra
• “If there is one thing I want you to learn to trust, it’s the presence of cognitive dissonance.” - Sandra
• “It’s important that we as therapists differentiate. How you treat codependency, or how codependency is different in working with someone’s personality to raise awareness of trait elevations.”  - Sandra
• “What a psychopath can do to someone psychologically is way more than your average jerk.” - Sandra

 

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Sherry

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Carla

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Sandra Brown 

Women Who Love Psychopaths | Website 

Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love. 

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.