"My kids never help", "It's like pulling teeth", "Our family life feels disconnected", "They don't care about me or what I do for them"; frustration over the lack of help in our homes from our children can send us into a spiral of hard days. The sentiment that "kids will be kids" and we need to cater to their whims can topple the structure of our families. In this episode, with the help of Hunter, Gather, Parent by Michaleen Doucleff, we are going to challenge the Western assumptions we all hold about parenting to bring a breath of fresh air and an ease to our parenting that just may revolutionize the way you think about your home environment! 

Time Stamps

• 8:00 - Intro to Hunter, Gather, Parent

  
  



• 10:13 - The silo parenting present in western culture (WEIRD)

  
  



• 15:51 - The drive to help and belong is naturally present in our kids from the beginning

  
  



• 20:30 - In the long run, forcing your kids is detrimental

  
  



• 21:30 - Example of five year old girl from the Nani Gandi Tribe

  
  



• 23:00 - Never force a kid to stay and work

  
  



• 25:00 - Less praise, more acknowledgement

  
  



• 26:38 - Independence vs. Autonomy

  
  



• 30:01 - “We clean it up” vs. “You clean it up”

  
  



• 34:15 - Example of autonomy the Hadzabe community

  
  



• 41:05 - Chore charts and how they work against intrinsic motivation

  
  

Related Episodes

Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections (Entitlement Trap by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre)

How To: Create Pockets of Peace

Books Mentioned:

How to Raise Kind Kids // Thomas Lickona

Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff

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