Living in the Gray

Puzzles


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I love puzzles. I do one 1,000-piece puzzle a year, but I want to do more.

I take my time setting up -- turning the pieces over, getting the edge set, and more. Then I go at the puzzle by sections I think I can do first.

It takes me months. I do them a little at a time. I like the music on and a cup of tea at my side. It's so relaxing.

My business coach shared a quote from Virginia Woolf: "Arrange whatever pieces come your way." It's stuck with me for a couple weeks.

I thought I was going to die back in May when I was a passenger in a car accident. I thought I was going to die, upside down, in the swampiest part of Louisiana an hour from home. As I drove home from the hospital later that day, I remember asking myself what I was doing with my life. What had I been doing to get in that car? There was a lot of self-blame. The next couple months were hard. I was trying to make sense of and control everything. What I needed was to give up the wondering and acknowledge I was there for a reason.

Metaphorically, I had to stop using my flashlight to look far into the dark unknown ahead, but rather shine down right by my feet to show me where I was now. Since then, my self-worth and spirituality have grown. I have started showing up the way I want to and treated others the way I want to be treated. I've focused on my circle of control.

Enter the quote: Arrange whatever pieces come your way. It comes when I'm working on this giant puzzle. If you look at the same pieces over and over, and try to cram them in where they won't fit, you get nowhere. But if you step back for a bit, you find the pieces and fit them in where they ought to be,

I've realized the way I want to live my life is to arrange whatever comes my way. To surrender to the fact that there is a path and there is a plan and I'm trusting that I'm on it. If I need to pivot, I will. If I need to turn around, I will. But I have to trust that I'm on the journey that has been planned for me.

Links from this episode:

My Book! Living in the Gray – A Memoir About Navigating Life’s Paradoxes

British author Virginia Woolf

Susie Tucker, my business coach

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Living in the GrayBy April Capochino Myers