Have you ever felt hurt by someone you love? I’m sure we all have but there’s something particularly hurtful about queer on queer crime.

I’m sitting down with Yinka Freeman — a powerhouse entrepreneur and community leader — as she shares her story of hurt by the very community she set out to serve.

We’re talking about what it feels like when the people you thought would have your back... don't. About the heartbreak, the anger— and the courage it takes to keep going. To keep believing. To stay focused on your mission even when it feels like the ground is falling out from under you.

This episode is about reclaiming your narrative —  and about finding your way back to trust, hope, and integrity. If you've ever felt disillusioned by the very spaces meant to uplift you, I hope this episode helps to bring your attention back to the important things in life.

You are not behind — because queer people don’t follow timelines. We rewrite them.

In this episode we discuss Second Adolescence — that beautiful, chaotic, and sometimes slutty season of queer self-discovery that most of us didn’t get to have the first time around. We talk talk about why this phase is essential, not immature. And we break down how internalized shame, religious trauma, and societal scripts keep us from exploring our full erotic and emotional selves — and how to finally give yourself permission to fuck around and find out.

I'll be sharing stories, some of my messiest moments, and how exploring without shame became the path to my wholeness. This isn’t just about sex — it’s about self-trust, creativity, and coming home to who you are.

So if you've ever felt like you're late to life — grab your journal, your lube, or both.

Let's talk about the adolescence we never got, and the queer joy we’re still claiming.

One of the biggest questions I wanted to answer with my podcast is how to keep our hearts open. It is too easy, especially for the LGBTQ+ community to close ourselves off from loving someone because the risk of losing it is all too real. And we've all experienced grief in some way. One moment you’re fine… and the next, a song, a smell, or a grocery store aisle takes you out...

Today’s episode is a powerful one. I’m joined by Jim Laveck—author of Life After Losses and two additional books about navigating grief, healing, and love. Jim’s not just writing about grief from theory—he’s lived it. By the age of 47, Jim had lost not one, but two husbands. And oddly enough they were both named Bob.

In this conversation, Jim shares the heartbreak, the healing, and the hope he found along the way. We talk about what grief actually looks like and how it’s not so linear and we also discuss how the importance of being gentle with yourself through the roller coaster of emotions.

Whether you’re grieving someone, something, or just trying to figure out how to keep your heart open in queer dating scene—I hope this episode serves as a reminder to keep your hearts open and to never give up an opportunity to love and be loved in return.

If we are being completely honest, before we even understand the concept of love, most of us have probably learned how to protect ourselves. We’ve got rules, we’ve got exit strategies, we’ve got brick walls… each brick represents a different story from our past about how we were hurt, betrayed, or let down by someone we love … but do we still have room for intimacy? Eh, some of us do.

But if you’ve ever found yourself craving closeness while simultaneously self-sabotaging the hell out of it—this episode is for you.

Today, I’m joined by the brilliant Whitni Miller—sex educator, pleasure coach, and certified builder of emotional intimacy at BDE Moves. Together, we’re talking about what it means to move from protection to connection—and why sometimes, keeping the walls up isn’t keeping us safe… it’s keeping us stuck, lonely, and miserable.

You’ll learn how to build your emotional security bank, balance structure without slipping into stagnancy, and create deeper intimacy with yourself and your partner(s). 

So if you’re ready to soften your guard and build something real, then I hope you let your walls down just enough to get the most out of this episode.

It’s not the end of the world… at least, I don’t think it is. Probably not. But, maybe?

We’ve been here before. We’ve felt this kind of collapse creeping in at the edges. The uncertainty, the panic, the scrolling until our eyeballs hurt.

We’ve seen it play out in cycles, and yet—every time—it feels bigger. Louder. More like an unraveling.The news cycles are intense, nervous systems are shot, and at this point, we’re either doomscrolling ourselves into an existential crisis or checking out and pretending nothing is happening at all.

But here’s the dilemma—how do we stay informed without spiraling? How do we take back our sense of safety when the systems we relied on start to crumble? And how do we keep fighting without losing ourselves in the chaos and letting it impact our livelihood and our relationships?And  if history has taught us anything, it’s that queer people don’t just survive—we unite, we build, and we make it look good while we’re doing it. 

Family relationships can be messy, especially in the queer community. But the concept of a chosen family has become such a cornerstone of safety, connection, and belonging for our community. If you’re someone who’s struggled with the complexities of family dynamics—and let’s be honest, who hasn’t—this episode is for you… because

today, we’re sitting down with one of the brightest lights in queer talent: the incredible J. Harrison Ghee. A Tony Award-winning actor, singer, and dancer, who you may know from their incredible performances in Some Like It Hot, Kinky Boots, and so much more…

but the reason they’re here today… is they are someone who’s story I’ve gotten to know personally and has been one that is so inspiring especially in the way they’ve navigated and maintained relationships in their family without compromising the beautiful, unique human, that they are.. And doing it with SO. MUCH. GRACE. And being a human THEY ARE PROUD OF… Idk how many people can say that… Are you proud of the human you are? A question you can ponder while you sit back and listen up.

Performance anxiety is no joke and can show up in so many different ways depending on your gender, upbringing, and education and no, it’s not just a later in life thing. Whether it’s nerves, pressure, or a total mental spiral, it can turn what’s supposed to be a fun, intimate moment into something you’d rather avoid… And for the LGBTQ+ community, the lack of real sex education only makes things harder—or, you know… not.

In this conversation, Nathan Serrato and Dr. Jennifer Litner, Certified Sex Therapist and Educator, explore the complexities of performance anxiety in sexual experiences, particularly within the LGBTQ+ community.

You’ll learn why performance anxiety happens and simple strategies to feel more at ease, more connected, and more in control of your own pleasure. So if you’re ready to say no without guilt—and invite intimacy without pressure, keep listening, this episode… might just do it for you. 

When was the last time you truly felt alive in the bedroom? Whether you’ve been with your partner for years and feel stuck in a rut, or you’re cycling through quick connections that leave you feeling unfulfilled, this episode is here to reignite your spark.

Somatic Sex and Intimacy Coach, Court Vox, joins us to explore how embracing your eroticism can reconnect you with your most authentic and vibrant self. In this conversation, we dive into the challenges of stagnancy in relationships, the impact of hidden desires, and the difference between codependency and true intimacy.

Court shares practical tips for reigniting passion, creating novelty, and fostering deeper connections through open communication. From exploring fantasies to understanding your erotic needs, this episode will help you to deepen your intimacy, feel sexier in your own skin, and cultivate a more fulfilling relationship.

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In this conversation, Nathan Serrato explores the intersection of workaholism and relationships, particularly within the queer community. He discusses the cultural pressures that lead individuals to prioritize work over personal connections, drawing from personal anecdotes and client stories.

The episode emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's values, setting boundaries, and making time for dating, while also providing practical tips for busy individuals seeking meaningful relationships.

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Moe Ari Brown—relationship therapist, public speaker, and love expert at Hinge—shares their journey as a queer parent.

Together, we dive into the emotional complexities of parenthood, the challenges of navigating non-monogamy, and the importance of intentionality in creating family dynamics that thrive.

Moe reflects on the profound lessons learned from their child, the beauty of love beyond biology, and how parenthood can deepen our understanding of our own upbringing. This episode also unpacks the stigmas faced within the queer community and explores the transformative power of relationships in all their forms.

Whether or not parenthood is on your radar, this conversation will leave you with a better understanding of yourself, your relationships, and the many ways love can shape our lives.