Jay and Sara continue their 101 series, this time to discuss sex toys! How do you find safe sex toys? What different types of sex toys exist? What the heck is an erogenous zone?? Answers to these questions and more on this week's QSE.

Show links:

http://dangerouslilly.com/toxictoys/

https://grapeshotmq.com.au/2016/11/the-ovipositor-the-infamous-egg-laying-dildo/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0wOGqyYFjf0

Sex toys shops we trust:

www.toolshedtoys.com

www.smittenkittenonline.com

www.tantusinc.com

www.bad-dragon.com/shop

www.selfservetoys.com

www.vixen-creations.myshopify.com

www.myspare.com 

Get your own #buttbase sticker here: https://www.redbubble.com/people/queersexed/works/32901037-buttbase-sticker?p=sticker&size=small&size=small

You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sara and Jay finish their discussion from last week with how modern laws, policies, and structures continue to fuel queer criminalization today. Also discussed: ICE and immigration enforcement, BDSM criminalization case law, HIV laws, SESTA/FOSTA, mass incarceration, and more. Thanks for sticking with us through a pair of difficult and important episodes. Show links:

http://www.blackandpink.org/

https://blacklivesmatter.com/about/our-co-founders/

https://www.raicestexas.org/

https://lgbtbookstoprisoners.org/

https://www.thenation.com/article/heres-how-to-cop-watch/

https://www.aclu.org/know-your-rights/what-do-if-youre-stopped-police-immigration-agents-or-fbi

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1oqggi1nJ-xrGaWZeBagc3W9QXeBj1AAisttB2seR3i8/edit?usp=sharing  Additional links:

https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/qvnyzq/central-america-atrocities-caused-immigration-crisis 

https://truthout.org/articles/seeing-dystopia-and-dreaming-abolition-at-the-us-mexico-border/

http://www.latimes.com/local/lanow/la-me-ln-lawful-resident-20180628-htmlstory.html

https://www.mercurynews.com/2018/06/13/california-woman-in-shock-after-ice-agents-detain-father-a-legal-resident-outside-home/

http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/nationworld/ct-trump-immigration-strip-citizenship-20180613-story.html

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/brynn-tannehill/and-then-they-came-for-tr_b_9258678.html

http://www.brynntannehill.com/drums-in-the-deep/

https://thecorrespondent.com/5696/were-heading-into-dark-times-this-is-how-to-be-your-own-light-in-the-age-of-trump/1611114266432-e23ea1a6

http://www.nybooks.com/daily/2016/11/10/trump-election-autocracy-rules-for-survival/

https://www.policyalternatives.ca/publications/commentary/whos-boss 

You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sara and Jay cover a brief overview of ways that colonialist states have used police, incarceration, and state violence to criminalize and punish queer and trans people.

Show links: https://www.npr.org/templates/transcript/transcript.php?storyId=622972320

https://www.amazon.com/Transgender-History-Studies-Susan-Stryker-ebook/dp/B004KPLWHG

https://www.amazon.com/Transgender-Warriors-Making-History-Dennis/dp/0807079413/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1530395938&sr=8-1&keywords=transgender+warriors+feinberg

http://bilerico.lgbtqnation.com/2008/02/transgender_history_trans_expression_in.php

http://www.transadvocate.com/so-what-was-stonewall_n_8424.htm

You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sara and Jay sit down with Chris Barcelos, a researcher studying queer sexuality, teenage pregnancy, and health messaging. We discuss many different things including whether to double down on a moderate message in times of crisis or transform, messaging around teen pregnancy, how sex health is racist, the untold history of sexual health education in the USA, and much more.

QUEER AND TRANS SAFER SEX PROJECT - Chris's archival project of trans and queer sex ed: www.qtsafersex.omeka.net 

Apply to be interviewed for Chris's research here, especially if you are a queer person of color and/or trans woman or MAAB non-binary person: https://queersafersexproject.youcanbook.me/

Learn more about Chris Barcelos at www.tinyurl.com/queersex 

Lou Sullivan Biography: https://www.amazon.com/Lou-Sullivan-Daring-Man-Among-ebook/dp/B06XBM61VQ

You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

This week we talked about a few different topics that have been in community conversation lately, but part of a much longer history: bisexual, pansexual, omnisexual, and polysexual as sexual identities are not transphobic. We also discuss how dating preferences are informed by cis white heteropatriarchy, challenging your own assumptions, and dealing with the difference between a bigoted preference and a response to past trauma. (As a side note, we recorded this before the hoax campaign to "drop the B" was started by 4chan and spread by other false social media accounts, but yeah... that's crap and don't share it or give them any more spotlight than it takes to debunk the memes when you see them on a friend's wall.) Other links: 

Does Race Affect Your Dating Life? | Decoded | MTV News: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=reuxx06KgMw

Racism in Gay Dating?!? Ft. Dylan Marron | Decoded | MTV: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wTyDGiFZk98

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Sara and Jay dive into a deep discussion of femme as an identity, expression, and way of being in the world. Also discussed: being femme in public, femme invisibility, non-binary femme, androgyny as a masculine default, and more.

You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sara and Jay are back from a mini-break to answer your questions! Thank you to everyone who sent in a question, which you can also do at [email protected].

Topics discussed include: STI disclosure, cutting a glove to make a dental dam, building a personal/community safety plan that doesn't involve police, icebreaker games for sex education groups, cis allyship, and dating at work. "Game On! The Ultimate Sexuality Education Gaming Guide" - https://books.google.com/books/about/Game_On.html?id=C49fMwEACAAJ

You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

JAY IS HERE! We will be recording episodes in person to release over the next few weeks, but in the meantime, I wanted to share another article I wrote on Medium with you. This one is about dating and transphobia.

Content warning for discussions of transmisogyny, violence against trans people, and queerphobia

Read along at https://medium.com/@QSE/when-you-say-i-would-never-date-a-trans-person-its-transphobic-here-s-why-aa6fdcf59aca

You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

This is the second part of our conversation about sex ed! This week Jay and Sara discuss what it means to center education on the most marginalized identities, content we would like to see in sexual education, and some conversation about how openly exploring sexuality has changed our lives. For more on the FRC from Brynn Tannehill: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/brynn-tannehill/and-then-they-came-for-tr_b_9258678.html

You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sara and Jay reflect on their first year of the Queer Sex Ed Podcast in addition to talking about the politics of what we call "comprehensive" sex ed. This discussion went over three hours, so we split it into two parts. The second part will be available next Thursday.

Please send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.