QueerWOC

We are back together this episode... well, sort of (thanks to physical distancing!). Money talks glimmers, and why we should be able to identify those as easily as we identify triggers. Nikeeta is still essential, but she was already that to us before coronavirus! She drops another hit jingle and tells us about a transformative book in her life. We celebrate AfroBrazilian vocalist Liniker Barros as QueerWOC of the week and discuss why we're over dating apps.

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QueerWOC of the Week: 00:10:50

Ase to Trans activist and Justice worker Lorena Borjas. She was such a pillar in NYC, especially to Queens undocu, queer, and sex work activism! She set up an HIV testing site out of her ouse back in the day! She was 60.

Liniker Barros - afrobrazilian singer and image activist - is our queerwoc of the week. Check out her Tiny Desk here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tCrLnfwX088

Read more about her and e os caramelows here: https://remezcla.com/features/music/liniker-e-os-caramelows-interview/

https://www.npr.org/sections/altlatino/2017/01/31/512470018/alt-latino-extra-liniker-barros-a-woman-who-resists-by-existing

Community Contributors: 00:21:44

Shoutout to Asteir for always supporting!!!

Shoutout to the New Patron Kyla and Christine upped their pledge

Borders are Fake Shout outs: Grass Lake, MI; Maryville, TN, & San Rafael, CA

Mental Moment with Money 00:28:33 (NIKEETA HAS A JINGLE!!!!)

Triggers have become part of our everyday vocabulary as trauma becomes more of a social norm to speak about, but the other side of that polyvagal theory hasnt gotten nearly enough shine - glimmers. Glimmers are essentially the opposite of triggers!

If a trigger brings us into a survival state, and is also known as a cue of danger,, glimmers are what bring us back into our window of tolerance and safety

Glimmers are any experience, person, place, or resource that creates the possibility of safe connection with ourselves, others, or the environment

Here are some guiding questions to begin to identify Glimmers:

What people, places, feelings, smells, sensations glimmer me back into feeling safe and connected?

What brings up happy memories for me? Is there a smell, book, or activity that instantly reminds me of good days?

What are my safety survival responses? Meaning when I have completely had it, what to i do/where do i go/who do i run to?

What glimmers are most effective when I am in a survival state? Which glimmers bring me back to center from fight? Flight? Freeze?

What do my different states feel like in my body? How do I know a glimmer is kicking in and I feel safe?

What does a glimmer feel like, what sensations does it bring up, what feelings?

Share your glimmers with us!

Word 00:45:50

Nikeeta talks a book that transformed her world view - Black Feminist Thought by Patricia Hill Collins

Topic: / Curved Chronicle: 01:20:50

Nikeeta is newly single, and already over dating apps. Welcome to Money's world!

Send us your curved chronicles to [email protected]

How many times can Money say "pandemic" in an episode? She goes for the world record on this solo episode with 5 tips for surviving social distancing during COVID-19. Money celebrates Éthel Oliveira as #QueerWOC of the week, talks about becoming a WHOLE PhD, and reads a Curved Chronicle on moving beyond chatting on dating apps.

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QueerWOC of the Week: 00:06:06

Afro-Brazilian filmmaker, activist, and producer, Éthel Oliveira is on a mission to ensure that the life of the late Marielle Franco and the resistance and resiliency of Black people in Brazil are documented.

https://www.blackwomenradicals.com/blog-feed/meet-thel-oliveira-the-afro-brazilian-filmmaker-and-activist-who-is-working-to-keep-marielle-francos-legacy-and-the-politics-of-black-people-in-brazil-alive

Community Contributors: 00:13:15

Shoutout to the New Patron Alli, Kai, and Monix

Borders are Fake Shout outs: Honolulu, HI; Pitt Meadows, Canada, & Cary, NC

Mental Moment with Money 00:17:00

Dont Let ‘Rona Ruin Your Relationships! Ways to avoid social isolation while social distancing

Info on social distancing: http://www.cidrap.umn.edu/sites/default/files/public/php/185/185_factsheet_social_distancing.pdf

Here are Money’s P’s for the Pandemic!

Pick up the phone

Plan video dates with homies: ShareTube to watch YT together, Netflix Party for Chrome users, &Chill https://andchill.tv/

Practice those self love languages!

Prepare for mental health check-ins

Put stuff in your to watch queue

Word 00:41:36

Stay vigilant and stay up on what representatives are and are not doing. What world change is possible after a pandemic? Now is not the time to give up our politics!

BYP100 NYC COVID-19 Need Request: https://tinyurl.com/nyccovid19need

BYP100 NYC COVID-19 Donation: tinyurl.com/NYCCOVIDDONATE

North West Bronx Dry Food Donation $10 to Venmo: @ariane-kannan

Topic: 00:50:30

Money is officially a PhD!!!!!

Curved Chronicle: 01:13:20

Chronicle from Pearl

Hello Dr. Money and Nikeeta,

I match with cute girls all the time but I have no idea what to do after that. I’ve talked to a few of them for a week or two but it never goes anywhere. I don’t understand how people make connections on dating apps. I’m the kind of person that likes to look people in the eyes, I’m a good judge of character that way. I don’t know how to do that through messaging. Am I overthinking it? I really want to meet new people. I would appreciate any wisdom y’all can share.

Send us your curved chronicles to [email protected]

Money and Nikeeta are back for another jam packed #QueerWOC episode. Money shares self-love languages and gushes over Black legends Lucy Diggs Slowe and Mary Burrill. Nikeeta might not have a hair routine, but she talks all things linked to liberating our locs, and we give some tips on how to find Black queer community in college.

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QueerWOC of the Week: 00:06:57

Lucy Diggs Slowe 1885-1937 (Black Women Radicals) and Mary Burrill

Lucy Diggs Slowe was, among other firsts, the first dean of women at Howard University, the first principal of the first black junior high school in Washington and a founder of Alpha Kappa Alpha, the first sorority established by African American women.

Her partner of 20 years, Mary Burrill, was an English teacher and a playwright well respected by writers of the Harlem Renaissance. The plays she wrote were mostly dramas about the cultural activities of the Black elite during the 1920s. She was the play director of the high school play for 30 years at Dunbar High School - one of the leading Black academic schools in the country

https://www.washingtonpost.com/history/2019/03/26/this-pioneering-howard-dean-lived-with-another-woman-s-were-they-lovers/

Community Contributors: 00:16:00

Shoutout to the New Patron Dennis

Cashapp: Ernestine (x2) and Sherri

Smalltown Shout outs: Glouscester, VA; Yaounde, Cameroon, & Naperville, IL

Mental Moment with Money 00:39:00

Self love languages how are we intentional in the ways we love ourselves? Do we know what things register to us as self love? Here are some suggestions, inspired by brown girls who bruja “Embracing your own self is the hardest thing to do, but one of the biggest lessons of being human”:

Feel Self-Love (Physical Touch)

Absorb Self-Love (Gift giving)

Do Self-Love (Acts of service)

Think Self-Love (Words of Affirmation)

Word 00:58:24

Black hair: Punishment and Politics

Topic:

How to make Black gay friends? Letter from Femme (they/them)

Curved Chronicle:

Send us your curved chronicles to [email protected]

**Audio distortion at beginning**

Community contributors came through to give us a jam packed episode! We celebrate writer and director Dee Rees as QueerWOC of the week, Money gives 10 ways to be your own Bae for V day, Nikeeta shares 4 ways to be in solidarity with Palestine at your university, and we reply to a letter about finances in relationships.

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QueerWOC of the Week: 00:06:57

Director, writer, and producer extraordinaire Dee Rees. Here's the Jenna Wortham article on her:

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/02/06/magazine/dee-rees-black-female-director.html?fbclid=IwAR3Rlcu1COhs0cndR6E_IOrh-9mVFLbSgKajGkTtjAYRR4XVNSQ1RGlVnb4

Community Contributors: 00:16:00

Shoutout to the New Patrons Kijafa

Donations to Money: Megan, Jennith, Romo, Nicole, Diedrick, Doune, Lacey, Amanda, Erin, Emmett, Folayan, Domonique, Sam, Monix, Zena, Cassndra, Liali, Elizabeth, Carla, Crystal, Marimar, Tyrone, Widline, Bernadette, Sarah, Kayalyn

Smalltown Shout outs: Hendon, UK; Renton, WA; Elkridge, MD honorable mention to Buffalo!!!

Letter from Ren Ep 77

Letter from Daphne

Letter from Roz

Mental Moment with Money 00:39:00

Be your own bae for V-day

Make a list of what youve learned from past relationships

Write a love letter to yourself

Wear something that makes you feel desirable

Listen to music

Tanerelle - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z5GbmFsViGA

Brent Faiyaz - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zOsbPZRlEHs

BbyMutha - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Ufh0h1boR8

Buy yourself the thing you want for V-day!

Challenge your self talk all day

Spend time with someone

Have a massage/pedi

Add a social movement/cause to your bio, and swipe on someone who has the same

Organize a galentines, queerentines, or other meetup

Word 00:58:24

How do I stay in solidarity with Palestine on campus? Nikeeta gives 4 suggestions for engaging political work at universities.

1) Find out what sort of political organizing is already happening on your campus and how receptive students have been, and how engaged students are in the work on the campus are. 2) The second thing is connecting to and finding others that feel the same way you do about the issue.

3) Students have been playing a very important key role in Boycott, Divestment Sanctions (BDS) movement in pushing their universities to cut ties with Israel. Look at Students for Justice in Palestine.

4) Mondoweiss which is a progressive media outlet that covers issues related to the fight against Israeli occupation, 2016 article a group of Italian students doing BDS organizing. It would be good to find out if there are students at nearby universities who you could talk to and link up with.

Topic: 01:14:32

Letter from theeee Broke Great Hoe from Omaha, Nebraska!

Finances in a relationship?

Curved Chronicle: 01:33:53

Nikeeta gets hit on and possibly insulted in a laundromat

Follow Money: @BettaThanMoney

Follow Nikeeta: @AfroBlazingGuns

Ep 79: Twenty Twin Twinn (Sharpen up, Sanders!)

Money and Nikeeta are back with the first episode of 2020! Money helps us re-energize our resolutions. Nikeeta clears up tensions between Bernie and Warren...and even considers voting democrat! We celebrate chef Nikeisah Newton and Meals for Heels. How can you tell if you have a crush?

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QueerWOC of the Week: 00:06:28

Lesbian chef

https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2019/12/meet-lesbian-chef-creating-gourmet-meals-delivering-sex-workers/

Community Contributors: 00:12:00

Shoutout to the New Patrons Jesse, Kandace, Adonay, Sharon, and Stephanie

Smalltown Shout outs: Upland, CA; Parker, CO; Antioch, TN

Mental Moment with Money 00:27:50

Reenergize those Resolutions!: 4 tips to keep your 2020 goals on track

Set learning or change goals instead of achievement goals

Pretty well known 1979 Harvard study of MBA students - those with learning oriented goals had higher GPAs on average and reported a better experience overall in their programs

Generally, we feel more positively about learning or acquiring than we do about thresholds (why you think we love a good YouTube tutorial so much?)

Achievement - I want to pass my licensure exam; Learning - I want to study 3 therapeutic theories outside of the one I love and use regularly

Achievement - I want my locs to reach mid back this year; Learning - I want to figure out which oil helps my locs retain moisture

Achievement - I want to read one book a month; Learning - I want to discover my favorite Toni Morrison novel this year

Make it a challenge rather than a threat

Threat - I need to practice for my defense or I will fail it; Challenge - I need to prepare to have the type of defense I want

Threat - I need to lose weight or I will get diabetes and have a heart attack; Challenge - I want to find healthy habits that will support my wellbeing

Make it meaningful

Tie it to a personal value, bc then its internalized

Write it down!

Writing encourages better memory recall bc it involves neuro senors and fine motor skills. Activates more parts of our brain

Writing is grounding!

Writing is manifesting

That same Harvard study found that those who wrote their goals down out earned their peers by 84%. This is obviously correlation, not causation, but shiiiiiit! I believe in the power of manifesting!

Word 00:47:51

Its on sight for Butigege! Nikketa breaks down important differences between the Bernie and Warren campaigns. She highlights 3 tensions between the two candidates. Bernie needs Nikeeta!

The Dig on how private insurance limits who becomes doctors

.https://www.thedigradio.com/podcast/single-payer-now-with-tim-faust/

Topic: 01:29:06

How do you know when you have a crush on someone?

Curved Chronicle: 01:45:23

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Ayeee yall 2019 is nearing its end and we couldn't leave yall without another episode of QueerWOC! Money finished her dissertation and honors Dr. Margaret Lawrence for paving the way. Emotional abuse is the mental moment this episode, followed by Nikeeta breaking down conflict. We respond to a letter from a community contributor about labels and being clocked. Nikeeta has a salacious story to end the year. Thank yall for sticking with us and always encouraging us to continue QueerWOC the Podcast!!! See yall in 2020!!!

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QueerWOC of the Week: 00:13:28

Lesbian Luchadora Fabiola Ortiz-Valdez from Chiuwawa, Mexico, Anthro Doc Candidate

Coauthor of Milked report

Workers Center vs. NY State

NY Immigration Coalition

Most recently, Green Light Win!!!

And, she has the cutest kid!

Community Contributors: 00:22:00

Shoutout to the New Patrons Leigh, and Addis, and Kandace on Cashapp

Smalltown Shout outs: Wylie, TX; Hollywood, FL; and Harrison, NJ

Mental Moment with Money 00:29:06 (RIP Dr. Margaret Lawrence (Morgan))

Emotional Abuse

What makes it abuse? Abuse is a pattern of abusive and coercive behaviors used to maintain power and control over someone or a relationship (Economic abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, technological abuse) Pattern usually follows the abuse cycle: Calm honeymoon phase, tension buiding, abuse incident, reconciliation.

http://stoprelationshipabuse.org/educated/power-and-control-tactics-used-in-lgbtqi-relationships/

http://stoprelationshipabuse.org/educated/types-of-abuse/emotional-abuse/

Withholding affection, alienation from other significant people in your life, Giving - followed closely by a fight

Word 00:49:08

Conflict

Deoccupation statement

Fumbling towards repair

Kelly hayes

How to survive the end of the world ep

Topic: 01:19:06

We talk through a letter from “Toni Childs” about being clocked and labeled by others.

Curved Chronicle: 01:49:09

Nikeeta can’t tell when someone is flirting with her and Money gives up dating.

On this episode of #QueerWOC, Money and Nikeeta are back from an unplanned break caused by white supremacist attacks at Syracuse University. We're both fine, but Kent gotta resign! We discuss fiction that inspires us to dream of other worlds, the #NotAgainSU movement and THE General Body, and being asked questions about hygiene on dates... because it wouldn't be Money's dating life without the weird!

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QueerWOC of the Week: 00:05:54

*Robyn Crawford

Dr. Edna

https://www.thenation.com/article/debt-is-holding-black-americans-hostage/

https://decolonizationinaction.com/

Community Contributors: 00:15:21

Shoutout to the New Patrons Liali, Space, and LG

Smalltown Shout outs: Greenbrae, CA; East Lansing, MI; and Bloomington, IN

Shout to Missy for all of the amazing topic ideas (b/c lord knows we need ‘em)

Email from Howie. Info on the Nap Ministry:

https://thenapministry.wordpress.com/?fbclid=IwAR1f18kdJdFZWJ2FYs6oRu7RjgmFCItRSQ4EEx4ZZF3T2C1xxRZkpCCMaCs

https://www.facebook.com/Thenapministry/

Mental Moment with Money 00:22:36

Money gives some fiction suggestions that will help you imagine another world!

The Simplest Equation by Nicky Drayden

https://www.stitcher.com/podcast/stitcher/levar-burton-reads/e/63173750

Sula by Toni Morrison

Bitch Planet by Kelly Sue DeConnick

Black Girl Love by Anondra Kat Williams

Word 00:37:37

#NotAgainSU We discuss our history organizing against Kent's white supremacist campus climate at Syracuse University, and the wins the current undergrands have achieved through #NotAgainSU

Topic: 01:30:57

Life updates. Nikeeta is in love with her job and her bae. Money... is tired!

Curved Chronicle: 01:53:07

Is asking about personal hygiene typical for dating or is it a fat girl thing?

Ep 76: Tinder Tomato Date

On this episode of #QueerWOC, Money is solo again to talk a Botswana Baddie, 7 rests we need, and a tinder date that cost her a tomato!

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QueerWOC of the Week: 00:07:31

Tshepho Ricki Kgositau is a well known name in the global LGBTQ+ activism community. (Shoutout to AfroQueerPodcast!)

Follow her on twitter @RickiKgositau

https://soundcloud.com/afroqueerpodcast/how-to-raise-a-woman

Community Contributors: 00:12:24

Shoutout to the New Patrons Ayan, New Patron #1, and Mel! Ashley CS hit us on the cashapp and Angela purchased some QueerWOC merch!!!

Smalltown Shout outs: Willmington, DE, and Alexandria, VA

Group therapy suggestion for women of color in NYC from Crystal

Can I Get a Witness therapeutic support group. $60 per session. Contact Water & Stone A Creative Art Therapy PLLC At 914.341.2063 to sign up today or email [email protected]

New Reviews from Abijah and Candace_Upstate

Mental Moment with Money 00:21:01

7 types of rest (follow up on 7 dimensions of wellness from ep. 58)

https://advice.shinetext.com/articles/the-7-types-of-rest-you-need-to-actually-feel-recharged/

Once you’ve figured out the type of rest you need, it’s time to adapt your rest to fit that specific need.

Physical Rest - cant stay awake, coffee not helping

Mental Rest - re-reading the same sentence 10x and still not retaining it!

Social Rest - balance draining interactions with restorative ones

Creative Rest - always making or doing, try being in nature or surrounding yourself with inspiration

Emotional Rest - snapping for no reason? Activated? Crying? Emotional eating? You are in need of emotional rest.

Spiritual Rest - 6th house

Sensory Rest - eyes feel strained, ears ringing

Word 39:42

Ep 63 queerwoc of the week Staceyann Chin will be on Ya Gay Aunties Soon!!! Listen to her poem “All oppression is connected”. CONTENT WARNING for sexual assult and language

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4XfvZPG32-g

Topic: 49:09

Questions from Tumblr and a quick gushing over the Qinfolk Festival!

Curved Chronicle: 01:03:27

Tinder tomato date. Yall… help!

On this episode of #QueerWOC, Money and Nikeeta celebrate 75 episodes of leftist lesbian commentary and mental wellness tidbits! Money shares a tea that can help with depression and cramps. Nikeeta teaches us how to have a good Q&A. We celebrate the living legend Cheryl Dunye as #QueerWOC of the week and talk our pet peeves in the topic segment. Also: Tinder sucks!

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QueerWOC of the Week: 00:08:31

Cheryl Dunye!

Historic making, ground-breaking Black Lesbian filmmaker, director, writer, actress. Born in Liberia.

Community Contributors: 00:20:24

No New Patrons, so be sure to become a patron!

Smalltown Shout outs: Fort George G Meade, MD, and Skyesville, MD

New Reviews from Abundance Bohnson and Jamyza

Mental Moment with Money 00:29:27

Hibiscus

Hibiscus is a superfood that has been used for hundreds of years by South American and Carribean communities for everything from a dye, to a fragrance, to a hair conditioner!

Hibiscus tea has been known to prevent hypertension, lower blood pressure, help with menstrual cramps, and help with depression

Word 42:18

How to have a good Q&A

Eve Tuck thread: https://twitter.com/tuckeve/status/1141501422611128320?s=20

Topic: 1:08:39

Pet Peeves

If anyone has single ply toilet tissue hanging under, run!

Curved Chronicle: 01:31:22

Tinder is terrible. Burn it down

On this episode of #QueerWOC, Money talks accountability in hopes of repairing relationships. Nikeeta breaks down the Youth Climate Strike and shouts out some of the radical babies leading the charge. We do a Bag Ladiez inspired topic and reply to a curved chronicle from someone who wants to know if being put on pause is a thing… NO! .

Happy Bi Visibility week!!!

Happy Latinx Heritage Month! - Check out our homies Lena and Estephanie, the Bag Ladiez Podcast @Bag_Ladiez

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ANNOUNCEMENTS!

Qinfolk Festival in Ithaca,NY on Saturday October 5th. The Qinfolk Festival is a film, art, and mental health day long fest for queer and trans folks of color. Find out more at Qinfolk.com or if you’re as hype as we are, purchase tickets starting at $15 and going up to $30 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/qinfolk-festival-qtpoc-film-art-and-mental-health-tickets-69215233627

The homies at Inner Hoe Uprising are having Sex Trivia Sunday, October 6th at 5pm at Luv Story Bar. If you like trivia, drinks, talking about sex, fun, and winning free stuff, you should be there! This is a FREE event, but you gotta RSVP. Here’s the link:

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/sex-trivia-sundays-hosted-by-inner-hoe-uprising-tickets-60513338023

QueerWOC of the Week: 00:

Canadian YouTube star and comedian Lilly Singh! (Happy Birthday!)

Catch her weeknights at 1:30am on NBC

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfm4y4rHF5HGrSr-qbvOwOg

https://www.out.com/television/2019/9/21/lilly-singh-first-bi-woman-color-host-late-night-show

Community Contributors: 00:21:16

New Patron: SJ became a patron

Smalltown Shout outs: Waukegan, IL, Albany, NY; and Bound Brook, NJ

New reviews from Urelaxed Missy and CarlitaCookie

Mental Moment with Money 00:25:48

Accountability

http://bcrw.barnard.edu/building-accountable-communities/

Inspired by Mia Migus. Accountability has become almost a buzz-word in contemporary social movements. What does it mean? How do we work toward it?

4 components of accountability by Mariame Kaba:

Apology - you may need to apologize more than once! Remember, apologizing is not about you it is about the person/s you harmed/hurt.

Repair - take action! Follow through on what they said they needed from you when you apologized.

Restore- Fumbling towards Repair Workbook by Kaba and Shira Hassan to learn about accountability within community and Care Work by Leah Lakshmi to learn about emotional intelligence

Changed Behavior - Dont do it again! Sure, but also, build your own support network to ensure you won’t do it again. This is YOUR responsibility.

Word 45:25

Youth Climate Strike

Topic: 1:10:53

If we could make our own Queer series, what would they be? (inspired by Bag Ladiez telenovelas)

Curved Chronicle: 01:23:24

Letter from ‘Packing up my feelings and my summer clothes’. Is there a difference between being curved and put on pause? Would you want to reconnect with someone who had you on pause?