What if the values you’re most proud of are also the ones keeping you stuck? In this episode of Stronger Standards, I explore how “good” standards like reliability, resilience, discipline, and independence can quietly become fear-based safety strategies.

I talk about:

• When “good” values quietly keep you stuck
• The 'Cage of Unquestioned Standards'
• Values shaped by safety, not authenticity
• Same actions, different motives: toward vs. away
• What your values are costing you
• Recalibrating values with compassion, not fear

This episode invites you to notice how you relate to your values and whether they’re serving you, or keeping you stuck — and how to recalibrate your values with compassion.

Timestamps:

00:00 - Introduction: The cage of unquestioned standards

01:00 - Safety strategies and identity formation

02:25 - Examples of limiting standards

04:06 - Intellectualization as a safety strategy

04:44 - Resilience and overcoming tolerance

05:57 - The impact of discipline on body image

06:43 - Reevaluating your relationship with values

10:18 - Practical steps to recalibrate your values

12:25 - Conclusion: building a better relationship with values

More Resources:

• Grab the free mini-course: Emotion Systems Audit – Download here
• Connect with Shannon on Instagram: @coachshannonbeer
• Learn more about compassion coaching: get the details here
• Join Body Image Fundamentals: learn more here