𝐐𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 & 𝐀𝐧𝐬𝐰𝐞𝐫🔔 from Last Reel “Faux Window of Tolerance & Why Not all Distress Tolerance Tools are for Everyone” 
The discussion revolves around understanding distress tolerance tools, regulation, and the relationship between the body and mind in response to trauma or stress. 
The key takeaways are as follows:
𝐑𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐑𝐞𝐠𝐮𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐯𝐬. 𝐅𝐚𝐮𝐱 𝐑𝐞𝐠𝐮𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧: Real regulation involves feeling calm, clear, connected, and confident, while faux regulation (or a freeze response) may result in numbness, isolation, and disconnection from emotions.
𝐁𝐨𝐝𝐲-𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐃𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞: Feeling calm in the body while having a distressed mind can be due to compartmentalization, where the mind takes on the role of protecting you from feeling distress in the body.
𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐝: It’s important to understand the mind’s role, build trust with it, and consider it as a protector. Exploring the mind’s fears about relinquishing its protective role is crucial.
𝐏𝐨𝐥𝐲𝐯𝐚𝐠𝐚𝐥 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐨𝐫𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐇𝐲𝐛𝐫𝐢𝐝 𝐒𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬: The polyvagal theory is discussed, highlighting that hybrid states in the nervous system are natural. These states can explain why the body may feel calm while the mind is distressed.
𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐓𝐫𝐮𝐬𝐭: I recommend gradually increasing the nervous system’s capacity for distress, seeking professional help, and building internal trust to move towards genuine regulation.
In summary, the conversation provides insights into recognizing and addressing the interplay between the body and mind when dealing with trauma and stress, ultimately aiming for true regulation and healing. 💜