Rowan Garlow is a private practice trauma recovery practitioner. She sees clients 1:1 and in group settings for masterclasses and workshops. Click the website link below to see previous class recordings, meditations and explore options for 1:1 support.

Rowan Garlow is a private practice trauma recovery practitioner. She sees clients 1:1 and in group settings for masterclasses and workshops. Click the website link below to see previous class recordings, meditations and explore options for 1:1 support.

The body never lies, and it never does anything against your own best interest. Here is how to reverse engineer, a dis-order or a dis-ease within the body that clearly has emotional physiological or trauma-based roots. You want to look at how having this dis-ease in your body makes you feel.
So often how we feel about having chronic pain, chronic migraines, autoimmune etc is the same emotional signature that was suppressed and over a long enough period of time became physically manifest. The body physically manifesting a condition. Is it last attempt to be heard and to have a need met. 
So if it were true that your body couldn’t actually act against your own best interest, then what is your body trying to tell you? You see for most people because we are so stubborn and we have been so conditioned to turn against ourselves, it’s not until the body starts to break down that we actually do something to change. 
These suppressed core wounds directly impact the choices we make and how we subconsciously interact with the world around us. I have seen people get very sick to meet a need of being taken care of. It doesn’t have to get to that point, but it will if we ignore ourselves long enough. I am all for holistic health and treating the physical component of a dis-order or dis-ease. But hyper focusing on symptoms does nothing to treat the root cause.
Most of these things have deeper roots which if not heard and integrated will continue to manifest as the bodies last attempt to be heard, physical symptoms. And if you wanna talk about disorders or diseases that a person came into this life, with, sometimes we’re looking at generations of suppression, creating an mutation in the genetic coding.
And once again, it is an attempt at shifting the dynamic within the family. There are also soul contracts to come in with specific limitations as this is a particular type of experience the soul agrees to take on as part of their own evolution.

Rowan Garlow is a private practice trauma recovery practitioner. She sees clients 1:1 and in group settings for masterclasses and workshops. Click the website link below to see previous class recordings, meditations and explore options for 1:1 support.

Rowan Garlow is a private practice trauma recovery practitioner. She sees clients 1:1 and in group settings for masterclasses and workshops. Click the website link below to see previous class recordings, meditations and explore options for 1:1 support.

Stick around the full 8 minutes for this gem 💎 
These studies on conditioning—like the Little Albert experiment and Seligman’s research on learned helplessness—illustrate how our reactions and behaviors are shaped by associations and perceptions formed through experiences. They show how neutral stimuli can become linked to fear or helplessness, impacting our responses to similar situations.
Moreover, these studies shed light on generational trauma, suggesting that the effects of such conditioning can be passed down through descendants. However, the discussion also emphasizes the power of breaking these patterns by reconnecting what needs to be connected and disconnecting what doesn’t belong, allowing us to reclaim our authenticity and agency. It’s about taking responsibility for our narratives and working towards personal transformation and empowerment.

Rowan Garlow is a private practice trauma recovery practitioner. She sees clients 1:1 and in group settings for masterclasses and workshops. Click the website link below to see previous class recordings, meditations and explore options for 1:1 support.

In our world today, it often feels like we’re engaged in zero-sum games where one person’s gain is perceived as another’s loss. This mindset has consequences, including conflicts and wars. We tend to attribute these conflicts to leaders with narcissistic tendencies who seek global dominance.
However, beneath these geopolitical issues lies a deeper problem: a collective state of narcissism. Many individuals exhibit self-centered behavior, and this is often rooted in their early socialization by narcissistic figures. As a result, most people operate with a degree of narcissism on a spectrum.
The greatest challenge we face today is learning how to truly love and build meaningful connections. Love involves accepting others as a part of ourselves while also honoring our own interests and finding mutually beneficial solutions. Unfortunately, this skill is not widely taught.
When we struggle to feel loved and safe, we resort to defensive mechanisms, often expressed as fear and hatred. This fear-driven hatred leads to a cycle of conflict and division, where we speak and act from a place of separation.
To break this cycle, we must choose to see others as part of ourselves and consider their best interests, even when they don’t reciprocate. This is not easy, especially when we feel that our own interests are being disregarded. Our fear often masks itself as hate, but it’s essential to recognize that fear is the opposite of love.
By becoming more self-aware and adopting an observer’s perspective, we can better understand our actions and their impact on others as well as others actions and what is motivating them. This self-awareness can pave the way for more harmonious interactions.
In conclusion, true peace on Earth can only be achieved when we prioritize love, empathy, and understanding in our relationships. While it’s a significant challenge, it’s crucial for our collective well-being.

Rowan Garlow is a private practice trauma recovery practitioner. She sees clients 1:1 and in group settings for masterclasses and workshops. Click the website link below to see previous class recordings, meditations and explore options for 1:1 support.

Rowan Garlow is a private practice trauma recovery practitioner. She sees clients 1:1 and in group settings for masterclasses and workshops. Click the website link below to see previous class recordings, meditations and explore options for 1:1 support.

Rowan Garlow is a private practice trauma recovery practitioner. She sees clients 1:1 and in group settings for masterclasses and workshops. Click the website link below to see previous class recordings, meditations and explore options for 1:1 support.

𝐐𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 & 𝐀𝐧𝐬𝐰𝐞𝐫🔔 from Last Reel “Faux Window of Tolerance & Why Not all Distress Tolerance Tools are for Everyone” 
The discussion revolves around understanding distress tolerance tools, regulation, and the relationship between the body and mind in response to trauma or stress. 
The key takeaways are as follows:
𝐑𝐞𝐚𝐥 𝐑𝐞𝐠𝐮𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐯𝐬. 𝐅𝐚𝐮𝐱 𝐑𝐞𝐠𝐮𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧: Real regulation involves feeling calm, clear, connected, and confident, while faux regulation (or a freeze response) may result in numbness, isolation, and disconnection from emotions.
𝐁𝐨𝐝𝐲-𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐃𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞: Feeling calm in the body while having a distressed mind can be due to compartmentalization, where the mind takes on the role of protecting you from feeling distress in the body.
𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐝: It’s important to understand the mind’s role, build trust with it, and consider it as a protector. Exploring the mind’s fears about relinquishing its protective role is crucial.
𝐏𝐨𝐥𝐲𝐯𝐚𝐠𝐚𝐥 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐨𝐫𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐇𝐲𝐛𝐫𝐢𝐝 𝐒𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬: The polyvagal theory is discussed, highlighting that hybrid states in the nervous system are natural. These states can explain why the body may feel calm while the mind is distressed.
𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐓𝐫𝐮𝐬𝐭: I recommend gradually increasing the nervous system’s capacity for distress, seeking professional help, and building internal trust to move towards genuine regulation.
In summary, the conversation provides insights into recognizing and addressing the interplay between the body and mind when dealing with trauma and stress, ultimately aiming for true regulation and healing. 💜

The opposite of emotional dysregulation is not just staying calm but involves self-expression. Being regulated means effectively and appropriately communicating in various situations. It’s about having a sense of power, choice, and the ability to navigate life’s challenges. A regulated system allows a full range of emotions, helping us thrive and return to baseline when needed. Unhealed systems may struggle with this clarity and healing is essential.
Coherence, often seen as systems working together, can also include moving from a frozen state to expressing trapped energy during healing. Stress, when managed appropriately, can contribute to alignment and growth. Self-expression, regulation, and empowerment lead to a connected and empowered life. So, it’s not just about being calm; it’s about effectively navigating life’s ups and downs while staying true to yourself.
@betsi.oliver was the person who made the Tik Tok I was referencing in my video