Quick Tips For Dads

Have you ever been inexplicably afraid? So afraid of something, but you had no idea what it was? Was it a vague fear in the future that crippled you? Today I discuss how articulating your fear can help you combat them.  Think about what is the worst that could happen and compare it to the best. 

Have you ever had momentum going when all of a sudden you miss one day and everything comes to a screeching halt? I had that happen to me this week with the gym.  The baby woke up in the middle of the night, so I slept in (accidentally) and missed the gym.  The next day it was so easy to not go to the gym... then finally today I was able to pull myself out of bed and get to the gym. Today's discussion revolves around how having momentum can really help in any discipline. Activation takes a lot more energy than continuing.  If you can avoid that activation energy use, you will probably continue further. 

I've heard a lot lately about having the courage to leave a marriage.  I admit marriage is hard and it takes work.  What I haven't heard is people qualifying why you need the courage to leave. If there is abuse, infidelity, fraud, then yes you need the courage to leave. If there isn't, and you just can't get along, do you have the courage to stay and work it out? Do you have the courage to try and reconnect with your wife? Can you be less selfish, or giving? Can you be better? Today I discuss these things and encourage you to have the courage to stay. 

How can you tell the quality of a crew? Today, I discuss how the quality of any crew is measured by how well it performs through adversity.  Adversity can kill us or make us stronger.  Our families are our crew that we are trying to make high quality. Be better to make your crew better. As a dad, be the captain of a high-quality crew. 

If going to law school has taught me anyting, it is that there is nuance in everything, and it can be beautiful.  As law students, we are tasked to see both sides and try to understand arguments for and against certain points.  It can be difficult sure, but it changes the way you see the world.  For example, whenever I hear someone use an argument that could fit on a bumper sticker, I cringe. I want to dig deeper and see the underlying reasoning behind what people way.  Today I discuss how nuance can benefit you as a person, and a parent.  Enjoy!

Only you see the world the way you do, so share it.  Today I discuss something I read about our impact on the future of the world. If we keep the way we see the world totally to ourselves, the world could be missing out on something great.  Imagine if Walt Disney had thought his view of the world was ridiculous. Our world would be drastically different. 

Today, I discuss my thoughts on a quote I heard a while back. Rising tides lift all boats.  When we improve our lives, the lives of those around us improve. Our example will hopefully inspire those around us to improve themselves.  Be the rising tide. 

Today I discuss whether going back to school as a dad is a good thing.  For me, it has changed my life.  I love learning but school isn't necessarily for everyone.  School can be hard, and adding a wife and kids to the mix makes it even harder. I believe it is a very personal decision, but a potentially very rewarding one. 

Living life in a pandemic was rough. Sometimes it feels like it will ruin our lives, but as Marcus Aurelius has said "it can only ruin your life if it ruins your character".  Today I discuss my experience with this quote.