When you picture a successful fundraiser, do you imagine someone who commands the room, speaks eloquently without hesitation, and thrives in crowds of donors? That stereotype has dominated our field for decades—but what if the most powerful fundraising superpower isn't being heard, but truly hearing others?

Carissa Konesky, CFRE and advancement officer at Simon Fraser University, challenges this outdated notion through her remarkable career journey. Recognized as a Top 30 Under 30 by BC Business and Woman of the Year rising star, she's built meaningful donor relationships not by dominating conversations, but through the quiet strength of deep listening and genuine connection.

This eye-opening conversation explores how fundraising environments often favor extroverts—from rapid-fire brainstorming sessions to expectations around networking—and offers practical strategies for both introverts navigating these spaces and organizations wanting to support them. Discover the critical distinction between introversion and shyness, and why assuming quiet team members can't handle donor relationships might mean you're overlooking your most effective relationship builders.

Carissa shares powerful examples of how listening transformed challenging donor interactions, built lasting trust, and ultimately secured significant gifts. For introverted fundraisers who've wondered if they belong in this field, her message resonates with validating clarity: your quieter approach isn't just valid—it might be exactly what today's donors are seeking.

Whether you identify as an introvert seeking strategies, an extrovert wanting to better support colleagues, or a leader building a balanced team, this conversation offers invaluable insights about embracing diverse fundraising styles. Connect with Carissa on LinkedIn to continue this important conversation about making space for all voices in our profession.

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