Quit Happens | How (and why!) to strategically quit your job, leave your relationship, or part ways with toxic mindsets.

There's a phrase in the song "Wait for It" from Hamilton that has always spoken to me. It's sung by Aaron Burr, who just can't seem to get the success that Alexander Hamilton has achieved in the same time frame. He sings,

"I am the one thing in life I can control I am inimitable I am an original I'm not falling behind or running late I'm not standing still I am lying in wait." On today's episode, I discuss the often painful wait for success in any area: career, hobby, relationships, etc. And hopefully, provide some respite for those for whom the wait has gotten exhausting.

Quitting the American dream as an NFL player to focus on what you're really passionate about sounds crazy, right? Well, that's exactly what retired football player, Nick Murphy, has done! He's creating the lifestyle of his dreams where he can prioritize his family while helping others actualize their goals.

Nick is a coach who works with you to create and grow your own lifestyle business, so you can live a life you feel comfortable with and have a business you're passionate about. He's an author and avid podcaster, and I'm so excited to share this interview with you.

When he was in the NFL, Nick signed seven different contracts in four years. He felt like he lacked control in his life, and while a part of him liked feeling like he just had to show up, a bigger part felt like he'd rather be in charge. So he quit the NFL to create a career that works for him.

Time is one of the biggest things that can hold you back from achieving something. When you put a time limit on a goal, you're not allowing your true potential to shine through. You can't put a time control on something that should be full of love and passion.

But what you can do is learn how to prioritize your project and career so that you work within your zone of genius. Finding what you're truly passionate about often means outsourcing the things that don't bring you joy. That's why I outsource my podcast management to the amazing Counterweight Creative and Nick makes use of Upwork.

How do you prioritize what matters most to you in both work and home life? Do you ever outsource tasks you don't love? What kind of goals do you set yourself? Let me know in the comments on the episode page!

In This Episode:

• Why you need to find a good spot of control in your life
• How professional sports can lead to a complete lack of control
• How you can create a career that is balanced with your home lifestyle
• Why setting annual goals doesn't always work
• Why you need to have love and passion in order to be a successful entrepreneur
• How you can prioritize staying in your zone of genius
• How you can make more money working for yourself than for a corporation
• Why you need to reprioritize what matters to you in your career

Quotes:

"It just got to the point where I was like, I can't control anything. Like, I could work my face off on a high school field and keep these kinds of meaningless side jobs to just keep playing the game and try to do the thing. My phone may never ring, or I could sit on my ass and do nothing and my phone could ring in an hour. And I just couldn't handle that lack of control. I knew I could do more than that, so I just quit pursuing football." (3:14)

"Let's take time out of the equation for a minute. If this is the thing you know you're going to do and success is guaranteed, and you're doing the work and you're trusting the process, it's gonna happen." (7:56)

"No one sits down when you're in high school and says 'how do you most profoundly want to use the rest of your life? What is the coolest thing you can come up with doing?' Forget how to get it paid for or how to make money out of it and how to get a degree in it - what do you want? What fires you up? We don't start there. So we're constantly backtracking from this place that was fake to begin with. Some of us find an authentic way to do what we want and some of us don't, so they stay and they settle and they suffer. And it's sad." (24:00)

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In the first of what will be every other week Lynnbetweenisodes (shout out to Tim Ferriss for coining the term 'inbetweenisodes' that I just stole and bastardized), Lynn Marie tells a story about the importance of engaging in activities that bring you joy so that you can more clearly feel when something doesn't light you up.

One of the more unique quitting stories I've ever heard comes from today's guest, Nurse Jonathan Mendoza! Imagine being at the top of your field after years of schooling only to decide there's more that you want out of it. So you strategically quit to go back to school to study for another degree that will basically downgrade your title.

That's exactly what Jonathan did. He got an undergraduate degree and then studied to become a Doctor of Chiropractic. But he quickly realized that being a chiropractor alone wasn't fulfilling his healthcare vision. Jonathan quit his high-paying job and started a second undergraduate degree to become a nurse practitioner.

He received a lot of negativity from fellow students as he was already a doctor, and embarking on this new career path. And then when he skipped working as a nurse to complete his Master's and become a Nurse Practitioner. All to enable him to truly create the type of holistic healthcare practice he envisioned.

Now, Jonathan is the master of injections. He opened his own clinic, the MSW Lounge, just outside Austin, to provide his patients with vitamin infusions to boost their health. Combined with his chiropractic background and supported by a talented and diverse team, Jonathan and the MSW Lounge are revolutionizing healthcare.

When you stop working for the money and start finding your own path towards fulfillment, magic can happen. So many opportunities open up when you embrace stress and changes as they come your way. And truly practicing what you preach makes all the difference.

Are you working to your full potential and fulfillment? How have you strategically quit something to incorporate all your academic letters into creating your perfect job? Have you learned to listen to your body? Let me know in the comments on the episode page!

In This Episode:

• What can happen when you strategically quit
• How you can combine your multiple credentials to create your perfect work
• What happens when your body decides it's time to take a break
• Why you need to work for self-fulfillment rather than money
• How you can make a responsible and realistic decision to quit
• How opportunities open up when you're facing entrepreneurial stress
• Why you need to embrace the changes you make in your life
• Why you need to follow your own advice when you're teaching wellness principles

Quotes:

"Technically, I do this and this, but my credentials are this. Those letters don't define who I am, they allow me to practice and work a certain way." (6:38)

"I think that's why entrepreneurs love the start-up game. I think that's why people love quitting because there's an opportunity and there's fun that comes with it. That stress that I had was a completely different kind of stress than I had when I finished my master's degree. The stress of opening a business is fun stress. It sucks, but it's fun stress." (15:54)

"I molded my lifestyle to the point now where I think we're thriving, only because things are more in balance and I think that's the only way life can be. And that's the only way to work." (23:17)

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Last Fourth of July I did a solo episode on Five Quits to Find Your Freedom - and well, let's just say I did it again this year:) I recently did some transformational work and found five quits I'm going to implement in my life, and maybe they might spark some thoughts as to similar quits you may want to implement in yours.

You don't need to know where you'll end up at the end of the road if you quit something that's not right for you. Taking that first step can be daunting. But as today's guest, coach, and podcaster Mike Bledsoe, shares, exploring so many different avenues has led him to be a more well-rounded person who is 100% passionate and dedicated to his work.

Mike is a lifelong student who works with coaches to completely transform their careers. After his entrepreneur journey featuring the military, sales, physical training, and more, he's well-equipped to help coaches find their place in the world.

Today, we're talking about why it's so important for every aspect of your life to incorporate play into it. Play lets you explore different areas and just have fun… both of which leads to a happier existence, which shines through in your work.

It's okay to quit opportunities that don't align with where you are in life. Most of the time, when you do this, you'll actually reposition yourself closer to your values, interests, and passions. When you're feeling inspired, it's often a good idea to take a chance - you never know what will happen.

Are you driven by money and your finances or your inspiration and passion? How do you feel when you're on the right path? When's the last time you took a chance on something you feel inspired by? Let me know in the comments on the episode page!

In This Episode:

• Why you need to play more every day
• How to face the people who told you 'you wouldn't make it'
• How a book can completely change your perspective on yourself
• Why it's okay to quit something to pursue opportunities more in line with your passions
• Why you don't need to see the destination to take steps along the path
• What the difference between a serial entrepreneur and a serial quitter is
• How to take a chance when you're feeling inspired
• What a difference asking for something makes
• How not letting the pressures of needing money dictate what you pursue in life
• How quitting can make you a more well-rounded person

Quotes:

"More is not better. What you need is space, and play creates space." (2:32)

"I never thought that I could get paid so well to do something I love so much. And that would not have happened if I hadn't quit." (19:39)

"People that love you will give you the worst advice." (25:02)

"What I realized during the retreat was that I didn't know how many of the choices I'd made in my life up to that point were actually my choices or some type of belief that was planted there from a previous moment."(48:05)

"Even when things were going well, I was still behaving desperately. So I decided I would only act out of inspiration, no matter what happens." (53:02)

"I let curiosity be my guide and I'm not limited by trying to fix something. To me, that's one of the biggest keys to moving quickly." (1:11:51)

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If you're not happy with your job now, you won't be happy with your job in 30 years. Think about that and decide if you're really okay with spending the rest of your life doing something that doesn't resonate with you. Today's guest, Dr. Natalie Crawford, decided she didn't want to spend 30 years doing something that didn't make her happy, so she quit.

Natalie was in her first-year residency in emergency medicine when she realized that something was missing. Because of the type of life she wanted, she asked for and received advice from others that influenced her decision to enter into emergency medicine. She didn't like the thrill of a new patient everyday and she actually found herself trying to follow cases through, even after they left her care.

She watched her peers thrive in this environment but knew it wasn't right for her. Natalie approached her advisor and transparently let him know that this wasn't the right career path for her. Facing her fear and speaking up allowed her to begin the search for what was right, and her advisor turned into her biggest advocate to get where she wanted to go.

For Natalie, putting that extra effort in was beneficial to her finding what type of medicine she actually wanted to practice. She knows that every step she's taken, even the ones that weren't right, were necessary to get her to where she ultimately wanted to go.

After all, what's the worst that could happen?

Are you happy in your career? Have you pictured the worst case scenario if you quit? Do you know what you want out of life? Let me know in the comments on the episode page!

In This Episode:

• How input from other people can affect where you head in life, even if it's not the right way for you to go
• Why something that's right for someone else isn't always what's right for you
• How transparency and honesty can help you get ahead in life and connect with other people who can help you navigate what the right path
• Why it's worth putting the extra effort in to get to your goal
• How every step along the path leads you to where you're meant to be, even if that step wasn't the right one for you
• What happens when you name the absolute worst thing that can happen if you quit

Quotes:

"We only have this one life to make things matter and if we spend our time on something, it's innately time away from other things: family, free time, other interests. So it needs to be worth it. And the only way to make it worth it is by knowing what really matters to you and making sure your choices are in line with that." (1:39)

"Sometimes you have to be in something to get a better grasp of what is important to you or at least the things that are not." (7:52)

"When you're in that unknown period, that 'this isn't right for me but I don't know what is,' you start to doubt yourself." (11:27)

"By quitting, sometimes you're advocating for yourself in the strongest way that you can." (26:33)

"The time is gonna pass, we might as well be happy while we do it." (32:19)

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Learning to trust yourself can be a challenge, especially when you're struggling with imposter syndrome. Feeling like you're not good enough, or experienced enough, to compete with the experts in your industry is a very real thing. Today's guest, Dayne Barkley, tells us how he challenged his imposter syndrome and came out on top.

Dayne started his working life as an actor in Los Angeles. He loved making people laugh, being the center of attention, and bringing someone else's story to life. What he didn't love was the process of acting: learning lines, rehearsing, and living to someone else's schedule just wasn't for him.

He knew he had to leave, but he was afraid to follow his passion for health and biohacking. Instead, he told his friends that he was taking a break… but this break led to him quitting. Dayne says he felt like a failure, but he realized that just because he was getting better at acting didn't mean he was going to like it again.

In this episode, we're talking about Dayne's transition from acting to biohacking. The hardest change for him was going from a career focusing on the outside appearance and performance to something that looks purely at the inside. And because he was new to health and wellness, Dayne was challenged with imposter syndrome.

Though feelings of defeat were high, Dayne wasn't about to let imposter syndrome keep him from his dream. He learned ways and techniques to work through it and proved that his experience and ways were different from anyone else in the industry, and that difference is what sets him apart from his competitors.

Have you ever felt imposter syndrome? Do you know where your inspiration comes from? How do you know whether you should push through something or quit? Let me know in the comments!

In This Episode:

• How a life event can trigger an insight into health and wellness
• How a break from something can lead you to never go back
• Why getting better at something won't necessarily make you like it more
• Why you need to quit worrying about other people's opinions of you
• How to transition from a career focused on the outside, to one looking at the inside
• What it's like to work through imposter syndrome
• How to reframe your imposter syndrome and see it as a positive
• Why you might still have breakdowns when you're on a path that you love
• How career inspiration can come from unexpected places
• How to know when to push through wanting to quit

Quotes:

"I transitioned to a whole other field of work which was hard to navigate and understand. I didn't really have a lot of life experience to be able work my way through things, or find out how to keep things going. The most important part was that I found something I was really passionate about." (9:34)

"The past 12 months I've been on a spiritual awakening that has helped me understand my place in this world and how I have to deliver my gifts and talents, which are truly unique and different from any other practitioner out there. I might have learned from a lot of them, but I've digested differently." (15:30)

"What helped a lot was having support. If I was just by myself and without this idea out to the world and sharing it would have been enough for me to throw the towel in, because no one would know and no one could keep me accountable and support me. Having that support around me, friends and family, and sharing my intention kept me going." (25:47)

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Quitting is always difficult, but quitting the only life you've ever known comes with a unique set of obstacles and hurdles to overcome. Today's guest, Coach Tara Garrison, was living the perfect Mormon life, but deep down, she knew something didn't feel right. This is her story of how she listened to her gut, quit her life, and changed her destiny.

Tara had it all - the marriage, the 4 kids, the community and friends, the Mormon education… but something didn't feel right to her. When she started learning more about health and nutrition and living a more natural life, she started to feel more awake and aware of where she was in her life. It helped her realize that everything she questioned since she studied the Book of Mormon at university was her body telling her she wasn't living where the Universe wanted her to.

Following a divorce with her husband, Tara braved the consequences of leaving her Mormon life behind and left the church. She didn't have a plan, literally zero dollars to her name, and ended up couch surfing, before finally hitting a break with a personal trainer friend of hers.

After taking her life into her own hands, Tara is now working as a successful health and wellness coach. And once she made the decision to start her own coaching business, all the pieces started fitting into place.

In this episode, we're talking about why you need to feel and experience the pain you're going through in order to understand what a situation is trying to tell you. Tara also explains what happened to her social and community life when she left the Mormon church, but why going through this hardship was still the best decision for her. Plus, how taking risks and quitting can lead you to take on new experiences you never would have considered in your old life.

Knowing how to break down the stressful thoughts and feelings you're going through is so beneficial to working through them and understanding other perspectives. But regardless of how other people feel about a situation, it's more important to live in your truth and follow what you need to do to be a healthier version of yourself. When you do this, the Universe will start providing bountiful opportunities for you.

How do you feel when you're in a situation you don't like? Do you know how to deal with emotions that arise, even after you thought you left them behind you? Have you ever quit the only life you've ever known? Let me know in the comments!

In This Episode:

• Why you shouldn't disconnect from emotional pain you're experiencing
• How quitting something can contribute to intense social anxiety
• What new experiences quitting something can lead to
• Why it's important not to replace what you've left behind with the first opportunity you come across
• How to handle the emotions that resurface when you meet someone from the life you left
• How you can take a stressful thought and break it down to understand where it comes from
• Why you should do whatever you need to do in order to come out the other side as a healthier version of yourself
• What it's like when you start living with your heart
• How to recognize when you fall back into old patterns
• Who the most important person for you to rely on is
• How to know if you've made the right quit in your life

Quotes:

"I've had to learn to speak up and talk when you're going through pain and you're going through hard times." (5:00)

"It's my job to have forgiveness and compassion and love, no matter what. And to not give or surrender my power to them." (19:10)

"The Universe just started saying yes, and yes, and yes, and yes as soon as I started putting myself out there and acting." (32:20)

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Reinventing yourself to live closer in line to your values is something we should all strive to do, especially if we've been following a path that doesn't feel quite right. And the brilliant thing is, it's never too late! Today's outspoken and hilarious guest, Alli Waddell, is over 40 and states, without a doubt, that she is quitting herself!

Alli has been in the wellness industry for 17 years, starting as a fitness instructor and exploring careers as a nutritionist, attending culinary school, and realizing that true health comes from within. She's now opened her own ketamine infusion clinic, Illumma, where they provide alternative mental health treatments. It's been a long journey to get to where she is now, but Alli has faced both her supporters and naysayers with a casual, and sometimes crass, nonchalance.

But now that Alli has found a career path that fulfills her, she's turning her attention to being a voice for those who can't speak up. In this rare politically fueled episode, we talk about the recent war against women's reproductive health and Alli opens up and shares the many reasons why having an abortion was the right choice for her.

Alli's passion for women's reproductive rights is rampant in this episode. She shares that when she hits menopause, she might mourn the children she never had, but she made the decision to be childfree of her own free will, and with complete confidence. It's okay to mourn our choices and still be satisfied with them.

We need to break the stigma of what your life has to look like in order to have an abortion. Unwanted and unexpected pregnancies can happen to anyone, and there is no shame in making a tough decision. Education and healthcare are paramount to reducing the number of abortions, not bans.

How do you live in accordance with your values? Have you ever felt you want to start over again, even when you're hitting later in life? Do you stand up for the rights of others? Let me know in the comments on the episode page!

In This Episode:

• What it's like to step away from your life and reinvent yourself
• How you can be brave and help others be brave
• Why you need to let go of your past self to grow forward
• Why it's okay to start over when you're "over the hill"
• What it means when you feel relieved when people cancel on you
• Why you need to consider every aspect of life when it comes to an unexpected pregnancy
• Why it's okay to still mourn your choices, even though you made them with confidence
• Why access to healthcare and education will reduce the number of abortions
• Why we need to break the stigma of what people have an abortion look like

Quotes:

"I have to let go of her in order to fully embrace this new thing. To me, feels like the next evolution of me, in this higher version of myself." (5:49)

"That unease is just because I don't know that I've done the work that I need to do to kind of solidify, or that vision hasn't fully come into what exactly that is gonna look like." (10:53)

"[When I got an abortion,] it was f*cking hard, it was hard and it was sad and it was traumatic… but it was the best choice. And it was the best choice for everyone involved. It was the best choice for him, it was the best choice for me, and it was the best choice for that baby." (19:34)

"I think if you believe in pro-life and you haven't adopted a kid from foster care, you need to shut the f*ck up." (22:46)

"I feel like we're living the la-la land. But the only thing that I can say, is I think this is the final death grip of a bunch of old white men who are f*cking terrified about the storm that is about to come raining down on them. And this is their last ditch effort to grab onto all they can have because their time is coming to an end. And they know it, and they're scared shitless. Because that's what happens when people are scared, they go after f*cking power." (23:31)

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