The Fram Oil Company ran a series of oil filter ads in the 1980s that resonated with buyers. Oil filters were cheap. Engine rebuilds were expensive. You can pay me now, or pay me later.
It is this way with the heart. If a child suffers trauma, they build their lives on a faulty landscape. By airing and treating that long-ago wound the child increases his chance of a satisfying life. But the heart is not easily fooled. It will get the person's attention by whatever means necessary. That's what my friend Thomas Wade had to learn to earn back one of his most cherished possessions: his beautiful singing voice.