This is episode #12 of a 20 episode series on raising confident children and the characteristics + habits confident children embody.

Special guest Debbie Wheeler joins us in this episode sharing her wisdom and experience as a councelor in drug and alcohol addiction on the importance of observing thoughts.

In this episode, Debbie and I will show you how to guide your child in becoming aware of their thoughts and observing them.

References:

1. Reene Jane Psychologist and creator of GoZen tool called the 5c's

2. https://gozen.com

This is episode #11 of a 20 episode series on raising confident children and the characteristics + habits confident children embody.

Special guest Debbie Wheeler joins us in this episode sharing her wisdom and experience as a councelor in drug and alcohol addiction on the importance of creating healthy boundaries.

I love this quote by Dr. Shefali from the book The Awakened Family:

"Life enhancing boundaries help our children cope with life. They strengthen their reslience and help enable them to feel secure."

In this episode, Debbie and I will share with you how you can guide your child in creating their own life enhancing boundaries.

References:

1. Quote by Dr. Shefali from the book The Awakened Family

This is episode #10 of a 20 episode series on raising confident children and the characteristics + habits confident children embody.

As parents we naturally want to rush in and fix things for our children the second we see them uncomfortable and in emotional pain. 

One of the best gifts we can give our children is to pause, let the emotions settle, come back to center, and see the situation for what it is.

Learning to shed jaded lenses and see a situation for what it is, allows you the parent to guide your child and give them the gift of strengthening and adding tools + skills to their tool belt that will empower them to navigate this life rather than be paralyzed by it.

The truth is when we guide and empower our children to navigate what they go through using the tools and skills that are accessible to them, you create an environment for your child's confidence to grow!

This is episode #9 of a 20 episode series on raising confident children and the characteristics + habits confident children embody.

When your child goes through something or has big emotions, how does that make you feel?  What is your mama bear instinct to do?

If your anything like me, I naturally want to jump in to fix and take control of the situation with the hopes that I can take away the unpleasant feelings or even pain.  Seeing our children hurting or in pain breaks your mama heart into a million little pieces.

But heres the deal, when we try to fix and control our children naturally disconnect from their true authentic self and instead learn to manage and suppress their emotions to make the parent comfortable.

One of the greatest gifts we can give our kids is to be present in the moment attuning in to what it is that our kids need and then consciously guide them.

You see when we learn to be present, sitting with our kids in the midst of what they are going through, it allows our children to have their own experience rather than an experience manipulated and directed by the us the parent.

I love this quote from the book The Conscious Parent By Dr. Shefali, “Rather than psychologizing your children, simply allow. To allow and witness will enable your children to learn the art of self reflection instead of fostering dependance on you.”  

This is episode #8 of a 20 episode series on raising confident children and the characteristics + habits confident children embody.

The truth is we all have solutions and answers to the things that we go through.  The solutions and answers can be found in our heart space.  

However we as human beings are so in our head space with our thoughts and beliefs that we start to believe we don’t know what we should do causing us to feel paralyzed or stuck and unable to create change.

We as parents can give our kids a beautiful gift of helping them navigate solutions to whatever it is they are facing.

In this episode I will show you how you can navigate solutions with your kids allowing them to feel empowered and confident.

This is episode #7 of a 20 episode series on raising confident children and the characteristics + habits confident children embody.

What is empathy anyways?  Empathy according to Websters Dictionary is “the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.”

Why is empathy so important in the parent child relationship?  Empathy builds connection and where there is connection their confidence in the relationship and in the child.  Why?  Because they know that whatever they go through, they are not alone!

In this episode we will take a closer look at what empathy truly is and how you can empathize with your child ultimately creating an environment for their confidence to grow.

This is episode #6 of a 20 episode series on raising confident children and the characteristics + habits confident children embody.

We all grow up carrying with us our deeply engrained beliefs.  Typically from the age of 0-7 is when our beliefs systems were created. Our belief systems are created based on culture, religion, parental upbringing and our earliest experiences. It's these beliefs systems that were created that become the lens in which we see the world, relationships ect. It is also our beliefs that create our feelings, thoughts and reactions.

Truth is our children also have these belief systems and their behaviors are a clue for us the parent to help them navigate.

In this episode I will show you how discussing your childs feelings, thoughts and beliefs will allow them to shed what no longer serves them setting them free and building their confidence.

This is episode #5 of a 20 episode series on raising confident children and the characteristics + habits confident children embody.

All to often as parents we miss the underlying root or need beneath our child's behavior and find ourselves reacting to them based on our perception or judgement of the situation, circumstance or behavior.

In this epsiode I am going to show you how you can identify the underlying root and need of your child to create an environment of healing and peace.

This is episode #4 of a 20 episode series on raising confident children and the characteristics + habits confident children embody.

“Our expectations are a disguise for our fears and unmet inner needs.”  Dr Shefali The Awakened Family

If I were to ask you what are three things you expect of your child, you would probably be able to give me three expectations right off the bat.  

Here's the deal we all have expectations whether we are aware of them or not.  Not only do we have expectations, we are often deeply attached to them.  Our attachment to expectations, what we think our child "should" do and be creates disconnection.

When we free our child from our expectations, we create an environment that welcomes engagement and connection.

So how then do we create an environment that welcomes connection and frees our child from our expectations?  We become aware of what our underlying unmet inner need and fear is.

You see expectations are a way to control and quite simply a coping skill we have developed to ease our fear and unmet inner needs.  

Come hang out with me and I will show you how to discover your fear behind your expectations and how to free your child from them.

We all have deeply rooted beliefs! From 0-7 years of age is typically when our core beliefs were created and influenced by culture, religion, parental upbringing, relationships, environment ect. We carry these beliefs with us throughout our whole life, they become the lenses in which we view the world and relationships.

When we have children all to often these deeply rooted beliefs unconsciously get projected onto our children.  

Come hang out with me as I share how you can become aware of your judgements, deconsctruct how they got there, shed them and heal so both you and your child can live in a judgement free zone!