Ramblings of a Mad Woman

As human beings, we want people in our life who will be with us through every event that happens in our life. What we don’t realise is that, just as much as we want those people present in our lives, the people around us also expect us to be present in their lives; going through every moment with them in the best way we can. This building and growing with one another requires a lot of grace, patience, forgiveness and accommodation. People have to be willing to be held accountable and be committed to this process of give and take.

This episode looks at how we should learn to be thoughtful and caring manner we show for the next person’s needs, emotions and/or circumstances. It touches on how it is important ti think of the next person and how certain things impact them; what appreciation or reciprocation might look like to them.

Today’s episode looks at how I have had to hold space for every good thing that has happened to me. For the longest time, I thought that I had to be perform extraordinary things to feel like I deserved good things happening to and for me. It took away a part of who I am because I felt inadequate and the way other people’s wins looked bigger than mine. I had to learn how to hold space for my wins and accommodate them. Celebrating myself has been a big challenge but it has helped me love myself and my journey. I hope you can celebrate yourself and appreciate how far you’ve come and grown as a person.

This is a little pep talk from me to me. This is me saying goodbye to my 20s and looking for every good thing my 30s have to offer. It’s embracing the fact that moments have broken me but they’ve also made me rise up. It’s looking at moments and seeing how they’ve taught me to live the parts of me I deemed as unlovable. NB: My voice sounds the way it is because I was crying.

This episode looks at giving (yourself) in every relationship dynamic you encounter. I referenced myself and experiences heavily in this because as someone who thinks of themselves as a giver, I thought it was important to note that I was giving to everyone except myself. This created a great imbalance within myself which may or may not have contributed to how I was showing up for others.

In this episode I cover dating as a single mom (from my personal experience/perspective) and how there has been certain phrases that have made me double down my approach to dating in its entirety. Like I mentioned, I don’t categorise myself as insecure or anything of the sort, but certain words make you feel like having a preference and expectation as someone with a child is something that should be eliminated because for starters, you should feel honoured that someone approached you. And I am NOT EXCUSING women who abandon their children just for the promise of a better relationship. Also if you’re a mom who feels the need to have the men in your life do things for your child, please do not think of this as judgement but rather, those are your terms. And once again, I didn’t exhaust all the points I had in mind, I don’t want to get called for a family meeting y’all.

I was probably going on and on but overall, this episode looks at giving the people in your life room to grow; this may include mistakes but it’s not inclusive of detrimental mistakes. And this is a different season altogether!!!

This episode looks at choosing what you want in gourmet relationships and understanding your core values, dos and donts as well as your negotiables and nonnegotiables…in a very haphazard way lol.

In a world full of rules and regulations on what sort of people you should date or form relationships with, I think one thing that has gotten lost in translation or isn’t spoken on is the need to be the things we want to experience.

This episode looks at how we should learn to like, love and appreciate the people we call friends. And it touches on how as individuals we should be able to define what friendship means to us. Just like a romantic relationship, friendships are to be nurtured and an amazing experience through it all.