How often do you find yourself pretending? You might not be conscious of it but we often don’t share how we really are, not only with others but sometimes, more importantly, with ourselves. We’ll distract ourselves from the discomfort, we’ll push down the pain, we’ll avoid the sadness…but there’s no ‘away.’ There is only repression and at one point or another, we will have to face what’s inside of us otherwise it will find a way out; most likely in an unpleasant way.

We live in a pain avoidant society. We deify ‘doing.’ We haven’t been taught how to be with and move through our emotions. How to sit with our pain, sadness, loss and grief.

In this episode I’m inviting you to think about dropping into the metaphoric dark room within you (listen to the episode to see what I’m referring to here) and listen. Listen to your feelings and emotions. Pay attention to your pain. Give a voice to your sadness, anger and even rage. All of these are messengers asking for your attention to go deeper. Deeper inside of yourself where you’ll find home, comfort and the confidence to just be you.

No more pretending.

No more needing to be something that you are not.

Just you, as you are, fully worthy of just being you.

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

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*Correction: around 30 minutes what I meant to say is:” never has it felt bad to put my ego to the side and apologise when I was wrong. When I found humility and maturity. I think my brain thought I said it out loud but I don’t think the words came out that way! 😊. A lot of our suffering comes from the over identification with our thoughts, feelings and behaviours. We believe we ARE them…but we’re not.

This human experience is a dance, a conversation, between the essence of who we truly are and the personality that gives us an identity as a person in this human experience.

Now that might sound far out, but the reason why it’s so useful to understand this, is that it creates enough space for you to be able to observe your personality, behaviour and all the thoughts and feelings that come with it, WITHOUT being run by them, or drowned by them or being taken for a ride by them.

We have to be willing to go inside. We have to be willing to observe, self-reflect and make the unconscious, conscious. Some might be thinking, “That’s a hell of a lot of work and it sounds kind of scary, why the hell would I do that?! Being “asleep” is so much easier, so much more comfy….”

Only it’s not.

Waking up to ourselves can feel challenging, confronting and like a lot of work, at first. But it really is the only path to freedom and peace. It is the way to feel the relief you’ve been seeking. Because all of a sudden we’re riding the wave vs being bashed around by it. All of a sudden we have hold of the reins, rather than being thrown around by an uncontrollable stallion.

This path of being human is a humbling one and the ego likes to put up a good fight. It likes to be “right.” But when we do the inner work and grow, when we can say in certain situations, “I’m sorry, I made a mistake, I was wrong,” we open our hearts, we create connection and we reside in a kind of “isness” that holds the pure truth of who we are. And from that place we emanate love more freely. We become the beings we have always been but only forgotten along the way.

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

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I believe that the more we get to know ourselves, the more liberation, happiness, fulfilment and peace we create for ourselves.

When I was introduced to the Enneagram in my early/mid twenties, it gave me a context to understand myself more. I felt so relieved in a way, thinking, “Oh wow, I’m not the only one that feels this way?!” But more so, it helped me understand the underbelly of who I am. How to work with my shadow, understand what motivates me and how to take care of myself better, amongst many other gifts.

Tools such an the Enneagram are not meant to pigeonhole us but to help us understand who we are better so that we can grow, evolve and move more into who we truly are in the essence of our being.

The more we cultivate self-awareness and consciousness, the more we have to work with. It’s not about judging our personality- our quirks, foibles, fears, anxieties, needs, desires etc-but the exact opposite. It’s about embracing all parts of us as a means to come closer to who we truly are. To return back home within ourselves to the place, and being that we are, that is innately worthy, loveable and significant.

The Enneagram is a wonderful way to not only get to know ourselves better, but it helps us understand others better too. When we understand our differences, we are more able to be compassionate rather than judgmental. It can be incredibly helpful in relationship as well - sometimes a life and relationship saver!

In a world so at the ready to criticise one another for our differences, don’t you think it would be lovely to turn that around and create more compassion, instead?

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

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Dating isn’t so easy these days for singles. Some of you might be from a generation that you remember what dating was like before smart phones and dating apps; it could only happen organically. Some of you might be from a generation where you’ve never met someone in an organic way but only through apps. It’s a strange time for dating for everyone.

But no matter which way you choose to date, how to do it authentically is really the core question and motivation.

In this episode I go into what some of the challenges are, how modern society has gotten very anti-social or socially awkward because many people don’t even look up anymore, let alone chat to one another. I talk about how our perception is greatly affected by the stories we tell ourselves, the emotions that enhance those stories and the beliefs that lie at the core of them.

When we recognise that our stories aren’t serving us, we get to choose to not believe in them anymore. When we stop believing in them, we stop feeding them and then we get to take on an entirely new perspective that is motivated by a belief that actually does serve us.

I also talk about just being YOU!

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

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This is really only the beginning of a much vaster conversation. Really, I’d like to speak more to women and men directly, and gather their stories and share more based on what I learn from them. Already I’ve had men especially, reaching out wanting to share their thoughts and experiences.

Both women and men alike, have their plight. And I believe much of it comes down to an unhealthy society that emasculates men and masculinises women. In the process, both the masculine and feminine within us all, have been vilified. We’ve been pulled away from our innate nature and our natural gifts, values and roles that we offer each other as men and women, have been confused.

It’s a big topic and I’m here to just start the conversation and encourage you to begin speaking amongst one another. I believe we need to share our challenges, pain and suffering, listen to them without competition, offer compassion and learn how to build a bridge back to each other again.

Because really, wouldn’t it be nice to just learn how to love each other more?

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

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Yesterday I hit the wall and I felt vulnerable for it. I had a good cry.

Today I’m sharing a little about hitting the wall. About not knowing or of knowing that somehow “here” doesn’t feel right, but I can’t yet see where “there” is and how to get there.

I don’t have answers but all I can say is that many, if not all of us, are undergoing great transition and the dragging on of it is frustrating. It can feel like we’re constantly running up again walls, that there’s no clarity, that you can exhaust every option and you still meet the wall.

Know that if you’re feeling like this that you’re not alone. We’ll get through the other side eventually. In the meantime I’m asking myself what are the lessons? How can I let go more? Try less? Trust…Surrender…Allow.

It’s simple but it’s certainly not easy, that’s for damn sure!

So some days are like this: hard, tearful, frustrating. But I believe that if we share our stories, our vulnerability, that we can support one another because we’re all carving a new path…even if we haven’t a clue where the hell we’re going!

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

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There is an illusion that comes through wanting to control others or the environment around us. What I mean by that is, we believe that if we can control someone or something else around us, that we’ll feel safe.

But safety can’t be conditional and dependent on something outside of us because the reality is we don’t have control of anyone or anything outsides of ourselves. We only have control over ourselves and how we choose to respond to situations and people in our lives.

So what we’re really look for is not to control but to feel safe and the first point of safety needs to come from within ourselves.

So when we feel pulled to control, the invitation is to ask ourselves in what ways are we scared? What do we need? How can we give ourselves that need so that we feel safe and ok in this moment.

I go much deeper into all of this along with looking at attachment styles, communication and more.

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

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Confidence isn’t something you acquire from the outside. Confidence naturally comes when you become comfortable within yourself, and in order to feel comfortable within yourself, you have to get comfy with the parts that make you feel uncomfortable.

That’s a mouthful!

You can say affirmations, sure. You can do things that make you feel good, sure. Ultimately though, confidence arises when we’ve learned to sit with our deeper discomfort: our fear, pain, sadness and wounding.

We’re flexing a new muscle when we “stay with” our experience. We’re building trust with ourselves when we stay without judgment or criticism. We’re showing ourselves that we’re trustworthy when we stay long enough that we recognise we’re not abandoning, rejecting or neglecting our inner most tender parts of ourselves.

When we get comfortable staying there, we’ll be far more comfortable in other situations, be it: dating, a job interview, being in a social group etc. If you’re comfortable within yourself no matter what arises, even if you feel terribly embarrassed, you’re going to begin to feel good within yourself because you won’t be resisting who you are. Instead, you’ll embrace who you uniquely are (quirks and all), allowing you to accept and inevitably love all parts of you and feel comfortable within your own skin. All this will lead you to feel confident and which in turn, will support you in showing up in life in more authentic, ‘true to you’ ways.

Why waste a life being someone that you’re not in order to impress someone that ultimately won’t be right for you? “A privilege of a lifetime, it to be who you truly are.” (Jung).

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

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What is intimacy?

What does it require?

Why are we afraid of it?

Why is intimacy so important?

Intimacy is all about heart and it requires us to reside in our heart so that we can connect to others. But our hearts are both powerful and tender so there is great vulnerability and even risk that comes with intimacy.

Ultimately, intimacy begins with being intimate with ourselves and being intimate with ourselves asks us to drop into our heart and be honest with ourselves.

“Into Me I See” is a term being used a lot to breakdown the meaning of intimacy. So as with most things, the journey starts within.

How honest are you with yourself?

Are you living in your heart?

Can you be vulnerable with yourself?

Can you hold and take care of your fears?

These are just some of the questions that lead us to greater intimacy within ourselves and therefore deeper, more meaningful intimacy with others (whether romantic or platonic).

In the end, intimacy leads us to human connection—a fundamental need we have as humans.

Loving you from afar,

Corinne

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You’re not a project because you’re not broken and therefore there’s nothing to fix, or even accomplish.

I wish I could give you a step 1,2,3 on how to do this life business, but if it were that linear, life would come with a manual.

For me, this work isn’t about “doing,” at least it doesn’t start from there. It’s about “being.” How are we “being” with ourselves. Are we being kind or mean? Are we critical or accepting? How we treat ourselves deciphers how “happy” or at peace we are within ourselves.

And btw, once we’ve learned how to be in a state of “being,” the “doing” naturally follows. How we are within ourselves will flow into our behaviour, it will positively affect and reframe our belief systems, shift our triggers and reactions and we’ll begin to show up very differently in life because we will be relating to ourselves in new ways. As within, so without.

Whatever you’re looking for from the outside is most likely what you are needing on the inside—from YOU.

In this episode I talk about where to begin and how a simple reframe can make all the difference.

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Loving you from afar,

Corinne

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