Most parents believe their children are safe online, or they look the other way because “it keeps them quiet”. The reality is far more confronting.

⚠️Content Warning: This episode discusses suicide and sextortion. Please take care while listening and step away if you need to.

In this episode of Raw With J, I sit down with Ben Gillenwater, The Family IT Guy, a former cybersecurity expert who has spent decades working with governments, defence organisations, and intelligence agencies, to unpack what is really happening online and why so many parents are being left in the dark.

We talk openly about cyber safety for parents, the real internet safety risks for kids, and why platforms like Roblox and social media are far more dangerous than most families realise.

Ben explains how children are targeted online, what sextortion actually looks like, and why bans and parental controls alone do not solve the problem.

This conversation is not about fear or control. It is about awareness, education, and helping parents understand what they are up against so they can make informed decisions for their family.

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Website → https://familyitguy.com/

In this episode, we cover:

• Cyber safety for parents and why internet safety for kids is more complex than most realise

• The real dangers of social media and online gaming for children

• Is Roblox safe for kids and what parents need to know about Roblox dangers

• What sextortion is and why children are being targeted online

• Why parental controls and bans do not address the root issue

• Screen addiction in children and its impact on mental health

• Practical steps parents can take to better protect kids online

If this episode resonated, follow Raw With J and leave a review. It helps this conversation reach more parents navigating parenting, technology, and online safety in a rapidly changing world.

Parenting is not hard because you are doing it wrong. It is hard because it asks you to face parts of yourself you were never taught how to regulate.

In this episode of Raw With J, I sit down with Dr Shefali, world-renowned clinical psychologist and author of The Conscious Parent, to explore emotional regulation, parenting triggers, and what conscious parenting really means in everyday life.

This episode is for parents and carers who notice their child reflecting their stress, anxiety, or dysregulation, and who are ready to explore conscious parenting beyond techniques and quick fixes.

Connect with meInstagram → https://www.instagram.com/jacinthafield

Happy Souls Kids → https://www.happysoulskids.com/

Connect with Dr Shefali

Website → https://www.drshefali.com/

In this episode, we cover:

• What conscious parenting actually is and how it differs from gentle parenting
• Why emotional regulation in parents shapes child emotional regulation
• Parenting triggers and what they are really about
• How children borrow a parent’s nervous system
• Supporting kids through divorce and major life changes
• Parenting and technology and why connection must replace control
• Why self-love in parents matters more than perfection
• Re-parenting your inner child while raising your own
• Breaking generational patterns without blame or shame

If this conversation resonates, follow Raw With J and leave a review. It helps more parents and carers find honest, grounded conversations about parenting, emotional regulation, and conscious connection.

RAW With J is a podcast for parents and carers who are navigating the emotional reality of raising children while carrying their own unspoken struggles.

Hosted by Jacintha (J), a family and child counsellor, mum, and founder of Happy Souls Kids, this podcast creates space for the conversations many parents need but rarely hear. The ones about burnout, emotional overwhelm, identity loss, loneliness, grief, and the pressure of holding everything together for everyone else.

Each episode dives into the real experiences behind parenting and caregiving. J sits down with therapists, authors, and everyday humans who have lived through the hard seasons and are willing to speak honestly about what helped them survive and grow. Alongside these conversations, J also shares her own raw stories of breakdowns and breakthroughs shaped by solo parenting, heartbreak, and emotional exhaustion.

This podcast is not about quick fixes, surface-level advice, or pretending everything is fine. It is about emotional well-being, mental health, connection, and truth. The kind of conversations that help parents feel seen, understood, and less alone.

If you are looking for support with parenting stress, emotional regulation, family relationships, or mental health, or simply trying to make sense of the messier moments of life, RAW With J is here to meet you where you are.

Because sometimes the truth you did not even know you needed is the one that sets you free.

Connect with J on Instagram: @jacinthafield
Learn more about Happy Souls Kids: https://www.happysoulskids.com/