Intelligent Intoxication

Reacting To Your Inner Critic Benefits You/Part 19

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We believe or react to our Inner Critic chatter because it temporarily BENEFITS us to do so. Here are those benefits:

PERFECTIONIST:

  • The excuse to procrastinate starting until you can do it "perfectly".
  • The excuse to not finish because what you're creating is "not perfect" yet.
  • Getting to feel as if you're always in control.
  • Getting to avoid uncertainty.
  • Getting to blame yourself and others for why you feel disappointment.
  • Getting tons of external approval and praise.
  • Getting to avoid your own emotions by staying really busy.

    • SABOTEUR:

    • Getting to avoid feeling negative emotions that we anticipate having to feel if we "follow through".
  • Getting to distract ourselves with the next "shiny object".
  • Using buffering as an "escape hatch" for any crappy emotion.
  • Getting to avoid failure.

    • PESSIMIST:

    • Never having her "hopes" crushed.
  • Getting to avoid "failure" or uncomfortable emotions.
  • Not being disappointed when a dream doesn't come true.
  • Getting to be right.

    • MARTYR:

    • You get to please others and gain approval.
  • You have great excuses for why you don't pursue and achieve your own goals.
  • You get attention for your good deeds by "virtue signaling".
  • You get to avoid your own problems.
  • You get to feel needed and indispensable.
  • You get credit and validation for your sacrifices.

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    Here are my favorite Inner Critic resources:

    The Courage Habit: How to Accept Your Fears, Release the Past, and Live Your Courageous Life by Kate Swobota. 

    “The Courage Habit” podcast.

    Dethroning Your Inner Critic: The Four-Step Journey From Self-Doubt to Self-Empowerment by Joanna Kleinman. 

    “Dethroning Your Inner Critic” podcast. 

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