Demian and Lenart, continue with chapter 5 How We Attach: Relationships Between Children and Parents -   from the book "Parenting From the Inside Out" by Daniel J. Siegel. and Mary Hartzell.

In this episode Lenart and Demian talk about the benefits of applying some of the exercises recommended in the book and how rewarding it has been, and how aware they have become in the way they interact with their children. 

The exercises also reveal how illuminating it has been for their own personal development.

This chapter of the book outlines the type of attachment, or relationship one can nurse and grow with our children.  We see how all the topics in the chapters of this book come together to help create a space where we can provide a foundation for secure attachment.

We see how memory, our perceptions of reality, how we feel, and how we communicate all contribute to the way we attach with our children.

The chapter outlines the ABC’s of attachment: Attunement, Balance and Coherence.

The chapter also explains the different patterns of attachment between parents and their children:

• Secure attachment in the child is achieved when the parent is emotionally available, perceptive and responsive.
• Avoidant attachment in the child is recognised when the parent is emotionally unavailable, imperceptive, unresponsive and rejecting
• Ambivalent attachment patterns are found when the parent is inconsistently available, perceptive and responsive; and intrusive
• Disorganised attachment patterns in the child are found when a parent is frightening, frightened, disorienting and alarming.