Demian and Lenart, continue with chapter 6: How we make sense of our lives: Adult Attachment - from the book "Parenting From the Inside Out" by Daniel J. Siegel. and Mary Hartzell.

We open this podcast by reflecting on our past week and we share some of the joys, of being dads. 

We discuss some of the processes we are going through with our children and reflect on what we've learnt. 

Dealing with and making sense of our child's, and our own anger seems to be a theme in both our lives.

Attachment is a BIG topic and with the help of this chapter, we try make sense of what attachment means to us. 

Previously we learnt about the different categories of attachment in children and in this episode we discuss the 4 categories in adult attachment.

The four categories of adult attachment are

• Secure
• Dismissing
• Preoccupied
• Unresolved Trauma or loss / disorganized

The chapter discusses how the dominant category that an adult can have is determined by the experiences of their childhood.

Your childhood attachment affects how you attach as an adult and also how your child attaches to you.

One can have some elements of several categories and what is important to know is that it is possible to change your attachment status to what is known as an "earned secure attachment".

Making sense of your own life helps you understand others more fully!

How you make sense of your own life story is a direct predictor of how your child will attach to you.

There are numerous exercises one can do to find out more about your attachment category.