Real and Raw with Ruby

Anna “La Chiri” is on the podcast and we’re talking about all things relationships, including the relationship you have with yourself and attracting what you are truly deserving of in life! Anna shares lessons from her childhood, having her daughter young, and how that gave her perspective on the relationships she wanted to attract into her life! From friendships, to career and attracting that perfect partner into your life, we dive into it all! 

02:30 Meet Anna, aka “La Chiri”!

04:00 Lessons from being an immigrant and working hard from a young age?

07:15 How did having your daughter at 20 change your life?

10:00 What was it like dealing with judgment from others when you were younger?

12:40 How did you approach relationships differently as a single mom?

14:50 As a woman, how do you get out of survival mode, heal, and thrive?

17:00 What relationships do you attract when you show up in your masculine energy?

21:15 The power of setting boundaries!

25:00 How did you delay gratification and focus on long-term growth?

30:30 What state of mind were you in when you met your husband?

33:00 How did you meet your husband? 

36:15 Do you feel like men need stability in certain areas to be ready for a relationship?

39:00 How do you not self-sabotage when the right man does come along?

41:40 What makes your relationship so healthy and how do you focus on that?

45:00 The power of stepping into your feminine energy!

47:15 How do you not lose yourself in a long-term relationship?

49:00 What you focus on is what you will bring more of into your life?

53:00 What is the one thing you hope listeners will take away from this episode?

Follow Anna on Instagram | @chiriblissliving

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Connect with Ruby on Instagram | @rubyecom

Find out more and work with Ruby | https://lnk.bio/rubyecom

This episode is all about dating and relationships! Ruby and co-host/sister, Gabby, discuss their childhood relationships with their parents in today’s podcast! How much did their individual childhood experiences with love shape who they are today, and has that affected their present-day dating life for better or worse? This episode explores the reasons behind their abandonment issues, trust issues, and the compulsion to become the “fixer” in their relationships. But there’s always a positive side as Ruby and Gabby dive into how you can grow and discover yourself after a breakup, prioritize yourself, and improve your future relationships. Between sharing stories of being ghosted and interpreting confusing dating labels, today we’re talking about spreading love and, most importantly, loving yourself!

1:00 Welcoming back Gabby!

1:45 Gabby’s childhood with Ruby.

3:20 How have their individual experiences with their parents’ love affected their dating life now?

7:10 Gabby’s first serious relationship.

8:10 How has the relationship with your father affected you?

11:30 The difference between internal vs external confidence.

14:20 How did the relationship between their mother and father influence them as children?

15:35 Gabby’s trust issues.

17:50 How has Ruby’s insecurities affected her relationships?

21:30 Why Gabby became a “fixer”.

23:30 What can you discover about yourself after your relationship?

25:20 How can parents set a good example for their children with their relationship?

29:00 How do you try to improve your relationships now?

30:20 What is going to be different and better in the next relationship you’re in?

36:35 What is it like being “ghosted?”

41:55 Interpreting confusing relationship labels and knowing when to become “exclusive”

48:30 What does “going with the flow” mean in a relationship?

49:50 How divorce and dating can intersect.

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Connect with Ruby on Instagram | @rubyecom

Find out more and work with Ruby | https://lnk.bio/rubyecom

We’re talking about relationships again on the podcast! Not only about the perfect relationship with a partner you want to manifest in your life, but THE MOST important relationship you’ll ever have. The one with yourself! Our host Ruby is joined by Kyree Oliver, an entrepreneur in his work in marketing and life coaching. Kyree doesn’t hold back as he talks about why we build up walls, and how to break the negative cycles we find ourselves in. It’s all about honest examination of why we show up in relationships the way we do, and how reaching the point of being tired of your own bullshit can become the biggest breakthrough! Tune in to find out how you can find fulfillment within yourself, success in business, and of course manifest the perfect partner for you. 

01:00 Meet Kyree!

04:20 How help men and women navigate through challenges?

05:40 How can men embrace their soft heart?

09:05 What is your inner child? How does that show up in our lives?

13:20 How do become aware of childhood beliefs and see what is no longer serving you?

16:00 What you need to do BEFORE you start working with a life coach.

19:50 What advice would you give to strong women looking to find a partner?

24:40 Ask yourself, what do you think about when you lay awake at night?

29:00 How do you work through taking your walls down and being vulnerable after being hurt?

33:10 Do you think it’s possible to find a partner while working on yourself, or do you need to work on yourself first?

36:40 How to know if you’re ready for your “perfect” partner.

38:15 How can people break from survival mode into feeling like they’re thriving?

42:15 How have you found fulfillment?

45:45 What can we do right now to become the person we want to be?

Follow Kyree on Facebook and Instagram @kyree

Check out these books mentioned in the podcast!

Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferrazzi & Tahl Raz

https://www.amazon.com/Never-Eat-Alone-Expanded-Updated/dp/0385346654

A Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl

https://www.amazon.com/Mans-Search-Meaning-Viktor-Frankl/dp/0807000000/ref=asc_df_0807000000/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312734685832&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=16608063926413758048&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9029976&hvtargid=pla-572474067015&psc=1

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Get in touch with Ruby on Instagram: @rubyecom

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Find out more and work with Ruby:

https://lnk.bio/rubyecom

How has dating shifted during this year with “Quarantine Dating”?  Ruby’s sister Gabby is back on the podcast for another episode of the relationship series! In this episode, we don’t hold back! From breaking down different dating apps, the differences between younger and older guys, and if there is a time period you should wait before having sex...we talk about it all! Including a story about one of these sisters dating their neighbor. Listen in to find out who!

01:30 Gabby is BACK! 

03:20 How has the dating scene changed this year?

05:10 Have you had any FaceTime dates?

06:40 How everything being closed sped up intimacy.

10:00 Going through heightened stress and political issues!

12:15 Getting toilet paper hook-ups from a 60-year-old neighbor.

14:40 How Quarantine forced everyone straight to pillow talk!

17:30 Do you think there is a time period you should wait before sleeping with someone?

19:20 Can you have sex without getting emotionally attached?

22:00 Catching feelings for friends with benefits.

26:40 DON’T tolerate what you don’t like.

29:15 What are your favorite dating apps?

36:20 Sisters matching with the same guy?

39:00 Have you dated any of your neighbors?

45:20 Benefits of different dating apps.

48:20 Do you date older or younger guys?

53:00 Being sexually incompatible.

58:20 Did the guys you dated still manscape during quarantine?

Connect Gabby on Instagram: @gabbymendez09

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Get in touch with Ruby on Instagram: @rubyecom

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Find out more and work with Ruby:

https://lnk.bio/rubyecom

Today there is a very special guest on the podcast, your host Ruby! We’re flipping the script and Ruby has her good friend Massiel on to interview for this episode! The most important relationship you will have is the one you have with yourself. Per usual, we get REAL and RAW on this podcast from Ruby dealing with chaos growing up, how she has built the work ethic she has, dealing with the heartbreak of a 10-year relationship coming to an end, and a sneak peek into her dating life now! It's all about building, rebuilding, getting to know and truly love yourself. 

03:00 What was Ruby (aka Brenda) like in High School?

05:15 What was your household like growing up?

09:30 Growing up in scarcity and uncertainty, straight A’s were the way to a better life.

13:00 What was your first job?

16:40 Balancing honors classes, sports, and taking the city bus to work. 

19:00 Tell us the story of how you broke your jaw in a car accident.

25:20 How did getting into a serious relationship change you your senior year of High School?

31:15 What advice would you give to others so they don’t lose themselves in their relationship?

36:00 Why did your 10 year relationship end?

40:00 The challenges of having to rebuild your life alone.

47:00 What has it been like declining 6 figure offers to pursue what you feel called to do? 

48:30 What are you doing for yourself now to take care of yourself, and be in a relationship if you want to?

51:00 What advice would you give to somebody who is wanting to dive into building a business or creating a meaningful relationship?

54:30 What doubts did you have going into rebuilding your life? What helped you through it?

58:30 What is your dating life like?

01:05:30 How truly loving yourself brings out different sides of you.

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Get in touch with Ruby on Instagram: @rubyecom

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Find out more and work with Ruby:

https://lnk.bio/rubyecom

Today, our host Ruby is diving into the painful truth of transformation! This year has been full of challenges and might be the chance to re-evaluate where you are and where you want to go, if you take the leap! Just like a Phoenix rising from the ashes when we push through our comfort zones and through the discomfort of real growth, we will come out stronger and more aligned with who we want to be on the other side. 

03:00 If you are looking for a sign that it’s time to re-evaluate your life, this is it!

05:30 What does it mean to “level up”? What does that look like?

07:50 Going through the fire of transformation, like a phoenix.

11:30 How to listen to your intuition and focus on what YOU want!

16:30 What we learn from our challenges.

21:00 What happens if you stay in your comfort zone?

25:00 Are you making your decisions based on what you want, or are you living for others?

31:00 Are you aware of the energy you are putting out in the world?

35:15 Lean into your discomfort, lean into what you feel called to do!

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Get in touch with Ruby on Instagram: @rubyecom

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Find out more and work with Ruby:

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Ladies and Gentlemen you won’t want to miss this episode with the one and only Avilia Guardiola! We dive deep into the challenges of her journey from being a first-generation Mexican-American growing up in small-town Arizona , to graduating from Harvard Business school and working on Wall Street! We talk about everything from business and finance to therapy and relationships! Including how having “screw you, money” gives you the freedom to love without fear. Avilia couldn’t be a more perfect guest to have on the podcast! She is Raw, Real, and has a big mission to help women take charge of their finances and END generational poverty!

03:40 Meet Avilia Guardiola!

13:15 What do you think about Wall Street?

15:10 What is your relationship with money like and what was your journey like to get there?

17:20 What was your first experience at Harvard like?

20:50 What was the learning curve like going to Harvard and working in Wall Street?

24:00 How did you go about making connections and networking?

27:10 Using hard work and her finance degree as leverage to get ahead.

30:30 What life lessons did you learn from pushing yourself to the limit working on Wall Street?

33:15 What was your experience with therapy and the connotation it has within hispanic culture?

36:30 How do we go deeper with ourselves and become more self aware?

39:40 How do you let go of your ego to ask for help?

41:15 What is the Life Budget Challenge you created and why did you start it?

43:30 What is it like tackling $164K of debt in 2 years?

46:30 What is the toilet paper model?

48:00 What is the most fulfilling part of mentoring women through your Budget Challenges?

49:20 What is the mindset change you see in the women that do the Life Budget Challenge?

52:00 How do you create generational wealth?

54:50 How do you think a better relationship with money affects other relationships in your life?

58:00 How has a better relationship with money and knowing you can take care of yourself change your dating life?

01:01:10 What are the goals you have for yourself in the future?

01:04:30 Creating systems to end generational poverty.

To get in touch with Avilia and find out more about The Budget Challenge check her out on Instagram: Avilia.Life

Avila Short Bio:

Avilia Guardiola is a graduate of Harvard Business School and also holds a B.S in Business from Arizona State University. Avilia is a first-generation Mexican-American and native of Arizona. Prior to pursuing an MBA, Avilia worked on Wall Street as an Investment Banking Analyst for Bank of America Merrill Lynch with clients based out of Latin American during one the most robustly unprecedented times for the region. She was also an Assistant Director for Sponsors For Educational Opportunity where she led the restructuring of the investment banking pipeline program. Currently, Avilia works in the e-commerce department for HEB, the #1 grocery retailer in the US. She launched her first of several businesses in 2016 and still enjoys the pursuit of entrepreneurial ventures. Her most recent venture is the Life Budget Challenge & Life Investment Club where she educates women on how to achieve financial freedom and empowers them to live a life in full alignment of their true authentic self. Avilia is passionate about ending generational poverty. She dedicates her free time to mentoring the next generation of women in finance & entrepreneurship. She is a super-taster and enjoys traveling and tasting the world, over 20 countries so far! She has a great affinity towards Japanese culture and business and has spent several weeks in-country supporting various organizations with disaster recovery efforts.

As an entrepreneur, nobody does the job that you do! There are endless hats to wear, and a demand on your time that can be overwhelming if you let it. In this episode, your host Ruby gives tips on how to stop winging it, manage your time, steps to creating systems, and then delegating them! 

 05:00 - You will struggle in life and business until you figure THIS out. (Hint: it has to do with TIME!)

07:30 - What is the thing you are best at? Ok, now delegate!

10:40 - The importance of surrounding yourself with the right people.

14:30 - How to scale by removing yourself from the weeds.

16:30 - Are you being “busy” or truly productive? 

19:17 - Building resentment on the distractions you allow by not respecting your time.

21:00 - How to audit your time.

23:10 - How building a communication hierarchy waterfall values your time and empowers your team!

28:20 - How to self-audit and keep yourself accountable to reaching your goals.

33:30 - In the beginning you’ll do everything, to scale you can’t keep wearing every hat!

34:45 - Why it’s crucial that you understand every role of your company to a degree.

37:50 - How to set up systems to fill in the gaps, and then get out of the way! 

39:05 - DO NOT keep everything you need to do in your head. How to brain dump, create systems, and yes...delegate!

42:30- Taking care of the warrior by creating a personal routine. Creating time to just THINK!

49:05 - The importance of understanding your why.

51:00 - Bridging the gap between where you are and where you want to be.

Connect with me on Instagram: @rubyecom

https://www.instagram.com/rubyecom/

Book recommendation:

The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida

In this episode, Ruby is bringing a little bit of Instagram stories here to the podcast! A relationship series came to life on Instagram as Ruby and her sister (this episode’s special guest!) Gabby shared REAL, personal, and sometimes hilarious stories of navigating dating! So many women have connected with these sisters over their stories and so naturally it only makes sense to share one of the juiciest relationship sister chats here on the podcast!

For this special episode, your girls are diving into the details of a past relationship of Gabby’s that is fit for a Telenovela! Tune in for this sister chat about a trip away 2 months into dating, to talks about the future, taking a break, and a surprise pregnancy!

Tune in to our first guest interview as Ruby brings on Jessica Rodela! It’s no wonder why Ruby chose her to be the first guest on the Real and Raw Podcast!! Jessica is a Food and Body Coach who focuses on helping women with self-love while balancing work with her corporate job! In this episode, they dive into the journey of self-love, rebuilding your relationship with your inner child, REAL TALK about relationships, how your energy attracts people into your life, and what it’s like to build a side hustle all while having a corporate job. 

02:15 Meet Jessica Rodela.

08:25 Self-hate and negative self-talk. 

10:00 What was the switch like changing harmful physical and emotional habits?

12:15 How do you get past thinking asking for help is a weakness? 

14:40 How do you face trauma and push through doing the inner work?

17:12 Learning from your Ex’s. 

18:35 How important is it to rebuild a relationship with your inner child?

22:20 How do you not lose yourself in a relationship...again?

27:30 Trusting your gut and following your intuition.

29:00 How to ACTUALLY change your energy and intentionally attract what you want into your life?

34:20 How do you make gratitude a focus in your life?

37:30 How do you deal with uncertainty? Especially during this time!

40:00 What brings you the most fulfillment, what do you do for work, and how do you blend them both!?

43:50 Balancing masculine and feminine energy.

45:45 How do you grow your self-confidence?

48:45 What is something you’ve learned about yourself that will help you through life moving forward?

52:10 What does the future look like for you? What are you excited about?

Connect with Jessica on Instagram: @jessrodela