Real Life Mentoring

Many of us hide our struggles — from depression to fear, insecurity, and stress. In this episode of the Real Life Mentoring Podcast, Chris shares why mentoring and meaningful relationships are crucial.

Learn how a simple question — “How are you doing, really?” — can open doors to honest conversation, support, and growth. Hear Chris’ personal story of career challenges, financial stress, and finding strength through faith and mentorship.

You’ll discover:

• Why everyone has hidden struggles, even those who seem fine
• How to build trust and meaningful relationships
• How mentoring transforms both the mentor and the mentee
• The power of honest conversation in faith-based communities

Be the person who asks the hard question. Listen. Support. Transform a life

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Most people work or volunteer on some sort of team and as a team, we want to work well together and have success. In today's episode, Chris talks with Nate Brewer. He helps TEAMS in Businesses that are unproductive and feeling drained find out what kind of work brings them the most joy and energy so they can work better together.

In this episode Nate will talk about the importance of understanding tensions in teams and how to discover balance and unity so teams are healthy and strong.

He will discuss what is called the Five Fold Training and how each role is necessary and significant: Teacher, Shepherd, Evangelist, Prophet, Apostle.

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Nate helps TEAMS in Businesses and churches that are unproductive and feeling drained find out what kind of work brings them the most joy and energy so they can work better together.

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Chris and Christina originally aired a podcast called The Three Levels of Motivation (Season 3 Episode 25 on Feb. 7 airdate). While it was helpful we did receive some feedback that made us think there may be more to the story. That’s the reason for today’s podcast with Rob Schrader.

Here's a review of The Three Levels of Motivation:

1. Reference: Beyond Weight Loss Documentary by Keith Klein, Certified Clinical Nutritionist
2. Motivation Types
   1. Level One: Fear Based Motivation. It gets your attention but it’s not lasting. Example: Spouse says you have to stop drinking or they will leave.
   2. Level Two: Feedback Based Motivation. Example: Someone compliments you on weight loss
   3. Level Three: Intrinsic Based Motivation
      1. Definition of intrinsic: innate, inborn, comes from within
      2. Change from having to do something to wanting to do it.
      3. Example: Want to get healthy to be around for future grandchildren.

While all these are good this is where Rob steps in with The Fourth Motivation: Love-based motivation. Every other type previously mentioned is inherently selfish and self-serving. Biblically, the highest form of motivation is other-serving, it's motivated by love for another. Our sin nature is self-serving and our culture is centered around the individual and the self.

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Today Chris and Christina tackle the complex topic of compassion fatigue.

What is it?

What are the signs you have it?

Who gets it?

What leads to it?

How do you cope with it?

How can you keep from falling into it?

This two part series will answer all those questions and more!

References from today's episode:

Canadian Medical Association Article

Boys and Girls Clubs of America Article

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Today Chris and Christina tackle the complex topic of compassion fatigue.

What is it?

What are the signs you have it?

Who gets it?

What leads to it?

How do you cope with it?

How can you keep from falling into it?

This two part series will answer all those questions and more!

References from today's episode:

Canadian Medical Association Article

Boys and Girls Clubs of America Article

Today's sponsor: Lori E Kenney, CPA

Professional CPA advice for individuals or small businesses. If you're looking for a blend of personalized attention and professional experience, you've come to the right place. Working with them is the best thing you can do for your small business!

Loriekenneycpa.com

Have you ever tried hard in a relationship — showed up, helped, talked, served — and the other person still felt distant?

It’s frustrating and confusing. And often it leads people to one conclusion: “Maybe we just aren’t compatible.”

But many struggling relationships don’t have a love problem. They have an understanding problem.

Every person has relational needs — specific ways they experience care, connection, and security. As we grow older, those needs don’t disappear; they just become invisible. When they aren’t recognized, people feel alone even when they’re not.

In this episode, Chris and Christina introduce the idea of relational needs and explain why you can genuinely care about someone and still unintentionally miss them. This conversation is especially helpful for marriages, friendships, parenting, and mentoring relationships.

You’ll learn: • why effort doesn’t always translate into connection • why people say “you don’t listen” when something deeper is happening • how understanding relational needs improves communication • how mentors can better care for the people they serve

Healthy relationships rarely improve through trying harder. They improve through understanding better.

To take the relational needs assessment that Chris and Christina talked about today, go to The Relational Values website.

You will then be prompted to an appropriate assessment tool. Once you've completed the assessment, you may want to do further digging into your top needs by yet another assessment that you will be prompted to take following the instructions provided.

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Today concludes part three of the series: Image of a Mentor. Today's image: soldier.

In the Bible, soldiers are often seen as symbols of authority, discipline and power They are also associated with faith, obedience and spiritual warfare.

As a soldier, a mentor helps a mentee identify their enemies such as an unhealthy mindset about themselves or others. Giving them tools to fight the enemy such as addictions, insecurity and/or troubled relationships.

As Chris and Christina wrap up this series, let's take a look at 2 Timothy 2:3-7 has to say about our images of mentors:

"Endure suffering along with me, as a good soldier of Christ Jesus. Soldiers don't get tied up in the affairs of civilian life, for then they cannot please the officer who enlisted them. And athletes cannot win the prize unless they follow the rules. And hardworking farmers should be the first to enjoy the fruit of their labor. Think about what I am saying. The Lord will help you understand all these things."

Today continues the images of a mentor as Chris and Christina discuss the traits of an athlete and compare them to a mentor.

An athlete, according to Google, is most commonly a person who competes in one or more sports involving physical strength, speed, power or endurance.

Some characteristics of an athlete that can be compared to that of a mentor include:

Being intrinsically motivated

Endurance and perseverance

Special training

Knowing when to recover

The importance of exhibiting character traits of an athlete as a mentor helps mentees determine goals and helps them with a plan to reach those goals.

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Often visual images help us picture concepts in more concrete forms. Today, Chris and Christina will introduce a three part series of images to help form a picture of a mentor: farmer, athlete, soldier.

According to google, a farmer's responsibilities can vary depending on their specialty. The same is definitely true of a mentor.

Some characteristics of a farmer:

Hard physical work

patience

consistent

focus

Chris and Christina also discuss the life cycle of a farmer and how these same concepts apply to mentors.

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Mentoring should be personal, practical, meaningful and effective. That's the lens in which Chris and Christina look through one-on-one mentoring.

Today, guest Davey Blackburn shares his story through pain and suffering and how it led to a beautiful, healing and redeeming story of God's faithfulness.

In 2015, Davey lost his wife, Amanda of 7 years and his unborn baby in a random shooting spree in his neighborhood. Serving God through being church planters and ticking off all the boxes of doing the "right" things, Davey never suspected his life would unravel into such a heap of pain.

And that's where God began to write a new story. In the middle of his world being turned upside down, Davey found himself a single father trying to be a ministry leader while in the middle of grief and shock.

Fast forward to today. Davey now leads a ministry called, Nothing is Wasted.

The mission of Nothing is Wasted is to meet people in their pain and providing a pathway through.

Chris, Christina and Davey will talk about the mystery of suffering and why it's important God's people talk about suffering, its role and how it can shape us to be more like Christ.

Davey and his wife, Kristi live in Indiana with their children and lead Nothing is Wasted. To find out more about the ministry, book, podcast and other invaluable resources, check out the website: nothingiswated.com

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