If we’re being honest...there's two words I think most men have gotten really good at saying:

“I’m fine.”

We say it when our marriage is struggling. When money is tight. When we’re carrying bad news. When we’re angry, grieving, afraid—or when life just feels heavier than we know how to explain.

But here’s the question we’re gonna wrestle with in Part 2:

What's all that pretending actually costing you?

In this next conversation of “It’s OK...to Not Be OK!” we’re gonna look at the real cost of carrying everything alone, what vulnerability actually looks like for men, and we’ll even meet some men in the Bible who reached places where they simply came apart.

And maybe you’ll be surprised by what God did with them when they did.

Lamentations 3:22 says:

“Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for His compassions never fail.”

I love that - because even when it feels like life is coming apart, God’s compassion toward you hasn’t.

And one of the things I hope you’ll discover in this conversation is that God isn’t surprised by your brokenness either.

He already sees it.

And He’s not walking away.

In fact, 2 Corinthians 12:9 reminds us:

“My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is made perfect in weakness.”

Maybe the very thing you’ve been trying so hard to hide is the place where you finally experience just how sufficient the grace of Jesus really is.

So today, let’s talk about what the pretending is costing us, why carrying it alone was never God’s design, and what can happen when a man finally has the courage to say something other than...

“I’m fine.”

I’m really glad you’re here for Part 2 of “It’s OK...to Not Be OK!”

Let’s dive in, and see what God has for us.

If we’re being honest...there's two words I think most men have gotten really good at saying:

“I’m fine.”

Two words.

We say them when somebody asks how we’re doing. We say them when someone notices something in our eyes and gets a little too close to what’s really going on.

And sometimes, “I’m fine” becomes the quickest way to shut the door before anybody gets inside.

We say it when our marriage is struggling. When money is tight. When we’re carrying bad news. When we’re angry, grieving, afraid - or when life just feels heavier than we know how to explain.

And somehow, we’ve convinced ourselves that admitting any of that means we’re weak.

In this first part of the episode “It’s Ok To Not Be Ok,” let’s explore some of the reasons why men feel so much pressure to keep everything together, why honesty can feel so uncomfortable, and what can happen when we finally stop hiding behind those two familiar words.

Psalm 42:11 says:

“Why, my soul, are you downcast? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise Him, my Savior and my God.”

I love the honesty in that verse.

The psalmist doesn’t pretend everything is okay. He acknowledges what’s happening inside of him - and then reminds himself where his hope is found.

Maybe that’s where this conversation begins for you and me too.

Not pretending.

Not performing.

Just being honest enough to admit when we’re not okay - and trusting that Jesus is still present right there in the middle of it.

So today, let’s talk about those two little words, “I’m fine,” why men use them so often, and what God may want to show us when we finally allow ourselves to tell the truth.

I’m really glad you’re here for part one of "It's OK...To Not Be...OK!"

Let’s dive in.

If we’re being honest, most of us men like a quick fix.

If something’s broken, we want the tool, the answer, the three-step plan - and preferably something we can have wrapped up before lunch.

But healing doesn’t always work that way does it?

In Part 2 of "The Wounded Warrior", we’re gonna look at some of the parts we tend to skip when we’re trying to move past the pain too quickly. We’ll identify some of the patterns that are easy to fall into, the ways we protect ourselves without even realizing it, and why some of those old reactions keep showing up long after we thought we were done with them.

And maybe one of the most important things to remember when we’re dealing with that little guy inside of us is this:

We have to stop fighting him.

In this episode, we’ll look at some practical ways to stop fighting that wounded little boy—and begin fathering him instead. To give him some of the patience, reassurance, protection, and truth he may have needed all along.

Psalm 34:18 says:

“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”

God doesn’t ask us to overpower the wounded places in our story. He invites us to bring them close - to Him.

Because sometimes healing doesn’t begin when we finally get tougher. Sometimes it begins when we stop running, stop fighting, and allow God to show us a different way forward.

So today, let’s go a little deeper beneath the armor as we continue the conversation about "The Wounded Warrior" - learning how to stop fighting that little guy inside of us and start fathering him instead.

I’m really glad you’re here today as we wrap up this series.

Let’s dive in.

If we’re being honest, I think every man carries a story.

Some parts are easier to talk about, while others get buried beneath responsibility, toughness, humor, and those familiar words:

“I’m fine.”

But what happens when the man we’ve become is still carrying the pain of the boy we once were?

Who is this little boy—and why does he seem to be living in my chest?

In this first of two parts to this next episode, we’re going to explore that wounded warrior inside all of us as we wrestle with the inner child.

We’ll talk about what it means to carry wounds that may have shaped us long before we understood them—and how those wounds can still surface through anger, fear, rejection, relationships, or the constant need to prove ourselves.

This episode is not about blaming the past for every struggle we face today. It is about recognizing what may still be affecting us, understanding why certain moments hit us so deeply, and beginning an honest conversation about the wounded places beneath the armor.

Psalm 147:3 says:

“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”

God is not ashamed of the wounded parts of our story. He meets us there—and He offers the healing we may have spent years trying to find on our own.

So today, let’s go beneath the armor as we talk about that wounded warrior inside all of us and discover what God may have for us in this conversation.

I’m really glad you’re here for part 1 of..."The Wounded Warrior."

Let’s dive in.

If we’re being honest, I think every man carries a story.

Some parts are easier to talk about, while others get buried beneath responsibility, toughness, humor, and those familiar words:

“I’m fine.”

But what happens when the man we’ve become is still carrying the pain of the boy we once were?

Who is this little boy—and why does he seem to be living in my chest?

In this next episode, we’re going to explore that wounded warrior inside all of us as we wrestle with the inner child.

We’ll talk about what it means to carry wounds that may have shaped us long before we understood them—and how those wounds can still surface through anger, fear, rejection, relationships, or the constant need to prove ourselves.

This episode is not about blaming the past for every struggle we face today. It is about recognizing what may still be affecting us, understanding why certain moments hit us so deeply, and beginning an honest conversation about the wounded places beneath the armor.

Psalm 147:3 says:

“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”

God is not ashamed of the wounded parts of our story. He meets us there—and He offers the healing we may have spent years trying to find on our own.

So today, let’s go beneath the armor as we talk about that wounded warrior inside all of us and discover what God may have for us in this conversation.

I’m really glad you’re here.

Let’s dive in.

By now, you’ve walked through active listening, unmet needs, old wounds, hidden addictions, silence from God, questions about your purpose, father wounds, and the lie of “private” sin. If you’re being honest, you've probably see some places where you’ve fallen short (I know I have) – as a husband, father, son, friend, or even follower of Jesus.

Forgiveness isn't just this soft, sentimental end to your journey. It's the engine that makes Real Change possible.

•  Without forgiveness: received and given –you’re stuck cycling through shame, regret, and wasted effort. 

•  With forgiveness: you can step into a different story…one where your failures may be real, but they’re not final.

This next episode is all about Real Joy! The joy that comes when you stop trying to pay for what Jesus has already paid for, and when you stop demanding from others what God has called you to release. Let's see what God has for us today, I'll see you inside. Tom~

Every man has heard the whisper: “Relax. It’s not hurting anyone.” You click on that site, send that message, take that pill, place that bet, or nurse that grudge alone – and think, “No one knows. No one’s getting hurt. I’ve got this contained.”

That’s one of the enemy’s favorite lies. Sin always advertises as small, private, and controllable. It never tells you theprice up front. It never shows you the long-term “invoice” that will arrive at your marriage, your kids, your walk with God, and your own soul.

This episode is all about ripping off the mask of “private” sin, and seeing what it really does, and learning how to walk inintegrity when nobody’s watching. Let's see what God has for us today...I'll see you inside.

Every man leaves a legacy. Some leave money, some leave memories, some even leave scars. The question isn’t if you’ll leave a legacy – it’s what kind you’ll leave. A godly legacy isn’t just about what people say about you at your funeral; it’s about the spiritual, emotional, and relational impact that keeps shaping your family long after you’re gone.

You don’t have to be famous, wealthy, or perfect to leave a powerful legacy. You just have to be faithful – one dayat a time, one decision at a time, and one conversation at a time. This episode is all about "how to leave" that Godly Legacy so that your wife, your kids, and the generations after you can see and feel the imprint of God through your life. Let's jump in and see what God has for us today.

We're gonna take a deeper look into Breaking Generational Cycles Through God’s Example of True Fatherhood.  It's time to go deeper…into those father wounds and broken relationships that shape how you love, lead, and trust. These aren’t surface scratches either; they’re roots that influence your marriage, parenting, and even your faith.Many men carry silent pain from dads who were absent, harsh, distant, or disappointing. That pain will continue to echo unless it’s properly confronted.This episode revisits those hurts with the focus of:healing father wounds through God’s perfect example of true fatherhood, mending key relationships, and breaking cycles so you don’t pass pain to the next generation. God's desire, is to turn your story from survival into Real Legacy. We'll see you inside.

Every man asks questions like: "Why am I here? What am I supposed to do with my life?" You see other guys who seemto have it figured out…leading companies, pastoring churches, coaching teams, building something that lasts. Meanwhile, you grind through your daily routine, wondering if you're just marking time or missing the mark. This episode is all about cutting through the noise to hear God's voice in regards to your calling. It's about aligning your life with what He's designed you for, not what culture or comparison tells you it should be. I'll see you inside as we discover what God has for us when it comes to your Real Purpose!