REALIFE Conversations from the Porch

"We can't permanently change our results without changing our thinking." -Terri Johnson, REALIFE Process® Coach

Through the lens of the Enneagram and the N.O.W. Process, we've learned that thoughts produce feelings, feelings drive actions, and actions or behaviors lead to results. 

What would you give to have a tool you can take with you anywhere that helps you to notice your adaptive patterns and move to something more authentic? 

Both brain research and Biblical truth remind us that we have the ability to "renew our minds." 

We're so excited to share with you our N.O.W. Process Tool that invites you to name your circumstance, identify your adaptive thoughts, feelings, actions, and current results in order to realistically reframe the thought to something believable and authentic that renews your feelings, actions and eventually changes behaviors and results. 

Pull up a chair to this conversation as two of our REALIFE Process Coaches, Terri Johnson and Erica Vinson share: 

• The components of the N.O.W. Process Tool
• Personal examples from REALIFE that display the power of renewing your mind
• Practical ways to identify thoughts and feelings that allow you to create new actions and results

REALIFE Resources

061: Using the N.O.W. Method with the Enneagram

REALIFE Process® Retreats - REGISTRATION IS OPEN!

The date for our first 2021 Retreat is on the calendar! February 4th-6th we'll be hosting our next REALIFE Process® Retreat on the McCloy Farm in Mason, IL–If you're more of a deep dive immersion learner, check out more details on our 48-hour REALIFE Process® Retreats. Retreats are limited to 8 participants!

REALIFE Circles Community

If you're ready to take a deeper dive and would benefit from being in community as you practice and build your REALIFE Process®, check out our newest opportunity for coaching, community, and content–the REALIFE Circles Community. 

Through our REALIFE Circles Community, you'll connect with others desiring personal growth, experience group calls, quarterly coaching, walk through the entire 4 Step REALIFE Process®, receive discounts on our retreats, and more! 

REALIFE Process® Facilitator Certification

We're so excited to roll out some upgrades to our REALIFE Process Facilitator Certification! Instead of just ONE Certification, you'll receive DUAL Certifications–both as a REALIFE Process® Facilitator and as an ©iEnneagram Motions of the Soul Certified Practitioner. If you're looking for content to use with clients, coaching to keep your skills sharp, and community, check out our facilitator program. Click here for more information. 

Support the Podcast–Leave us a Review

Are you growing as a result of listening to the podcast? The greatest compliment you can pay us is to share it with a friend and leave a review on iTunes. Click here and scroll down to Customer Reviews to leave a word on what you've found to be helpful as you're listening in!

Have a question for the podcast? 

Email us at [email protected] and we'll address your question on air! 

Connect further with the REALIFE Process®:

• Join the FREE REALIFE Process® Community - continue podcast topics discussions with Facebook LIVEs and guest interviews
• Connect with the REALIFE Circles Community
• Apply to be a REALIFE Process® Certified Facilitator

Connect with your host, Teresa McCloy on:

• Facebook- The REALIFE Process® with Teresa McCloy
• Instagram- teresa.mccloy
• LinkedIn- teresamccloycoach

About Teresa McCloy:

Teresa McCloy is the creator of the REALIFE Process®, an ACC Executive Coach, and an IEA Accredited Enneagram Professional who helps entrepreneurs, business owners, and leaders discover and live out their best REALIFE! She has worked with clients from all over the world to help them bring clarity to their REALIFE and joy to their REALWORK!

It's a milestone moment–we're celebrating 100 episodes of the REALIFE Process® Podcast and this week we're flipping the script! 

In this episode, special guest host, Chris Niemeyer, interviews REALIFE Process® Creator, Teresa McCloy. We're going to rewind back to where the podcast began as Teresa shares about: 

• The impact of finding her niché voice in the marketplace
• Transitioning the podcast from The Enneagram in Your REALIFE to The REALIFE Process® Podcast
• How podcasting has been a catalyst for her business growth
• One great piece of advice if you're thinking of starting a podcast

In addition to celebrating what has been, we'll savor the present, and give you a sneak peek at what's to come for the REALIFE Process® Podcast. 

No matter what, one thing we know for sure is, "Every ordinary day has extraordinary moments–you just have to look for them" and this is truly an extraordinary moment! 

Thanks for being a faithful listener–here's to 100 more! 

REALIFE Process Resources

REALIFE Process® Retreats - REGISTRATION IS OPEN!

The date for our first 2021 Retreat is on the calendar! February 4th-6th we'll be hosting our next REALIFE Process® Retreat on the McCloy Farm in Mason, IL–If you're more of a deep dive immersion learner, check out more details on our 48-hour REALIFE Process® Retreats. Retreats are limited to 8 participants!

REALIFE Circles Community

If you're ready to take a deeper dive and would benefit from being in community as you practice and build your REALIFE Process®, check out our newest opportunity for coaching, community, and content–the REALIFE Circles Community. 

Through our REALIFE Circles Community, you'll connect with others desiring personal growth, experience group calls, quarterly coaching, walk through the entire 4 Step REALIFE Process®, receive discounts on our retreats, and more! 

REALIFE Process® Facilitator Certification

We're so excited to roll out some upgrades to our REALIFE Process Facilitator Certification! Instead of just ONE Certification, you'll receive DUAL Certifications–both as a REALIFE Process® Facilitator and as an ©iEnneagram Motions of the Soul Certified Practitioner. If you're looking for content to use with clients, coaching to keep your skills sharp, and community, check out our facilitator program. Click here for more information. 

Support the Podcast–Leave us a Review

Are you growing as a result of listening to the podcast? The greatest compliment you can pay us is to share it with a friend and leave a review on iTunes. Click here and scroll down to Customer Reviews to leave a word on what you've found to be helpful as you're listening in!

Have a question for the podcast? 

Email us at [email protected] and we'll address your question on air! 

Connect further with the REALIFE Process®:

• Join the FREE REALIFE Process® Community - continue podcast topics discussions with Facebook LIVEs and guest interviews
• Connect with the REALIFE Circles Community
• Apply to be a REALIFE Process® Certified Facilitator
•  

Connect with your host, Teresa McCloy on:

• Facebook- The REALIFE Process® with Teresa McCloy
• Instagram- teresa.mccloy
• LinkedIn- teresamccloycoach

About Teresa McCloy:

Teresa McCloy is the creator of the REALIFE Process®, an ACC Executive Coach, and an IEA Accredited Enneagram Professional who helps entrepreneurs, business owners, and leaders discover and live out their best REALIFE! She has worked with clients from all over the world to help them bring clarity to their REALIFE and joy to their REALWORK!

"If you don't come apart for a while, you will come apart after a while." -Dallas Willard

You don't have to go through life with your hair on fire–there is another way. Beyond building a framework to help you discover your REALSELF, manage your REALIFE, and do your most important work, there are the practices behind the REALIFE Process®, like that of retreat, that makes it all sustainable. 

Creating space for retreat–that is, "specific and regular times apart for quietly listening to God and delighting in His company helps to remove us from the daily battle into times of refreshing, retooling, renewing, and unwinding." (Adele Calhoun, Spiritual Disciplines Handbook) 

In this episode, we'll explore:

• How retreat gives space to detach from productivity to notice thoughts, feelings, and actions and attend to our soul spiritually, emotionally, and physically. 
• Practical ways you can organize your time to go on retreat.
• The difference and benefits of self-guided versus guided retreats. 
• How often retreat needs to be part of your rhythm to be beneficial.

Blocking time in your schedule for rhythms of retreat is necessary and allows you to recharge in order to re-engage in your life in fresh, renewed ways.  

REALIFE Resources

057: Why Do You Need Retreat Days?

058: Why Each Enneagram Type Needs Retreat Days

Spiritual Disciplines Handbook by Adele Calhoun

REALIFE Process® Retreats - REGISTRATION IS OPEN!

The date for our first 2021 Retreat is on the calendar! February 4th-6th we'll be hosting our next REALIFE Process® Retreat on the McCloy Farm in Mason, IL–If you're more of a deep dive immersion learner, check out more details on our 48-hour REALIFE Process® Retreats. Retreats are limited to 8 participants!

REALIFE Circles Community

If you're ready to take a deeper dive and would benefit from being in community as you practice and build your REALIFE Process®, check out our newest opportunity for coaching, community, and content–the REALIFE Circles Community. 

Through our REALIFE Circles Community, you'll connect with others desiring personal growth, experience group calls, quarterly coaching, walk through the entire 4 Step REALIFE Process®, receive discounts on our retreats, and more! 

REALIFE Process® Facilitator Certification

We're so excited to roll out some upgrades to our REALIFE Process Facilitator Certification! Instead of just ONE Certification, you'll receive DUAL Certifications–both as a REALIFE Process® Facilitator and as an ©iEnneagram Motions of the Soul Certified Practitioner. If you're looking for content to use with clients, coaching to keep your skills sharp, and community, check out our facilitator program. Click here for more information. 

Support the Podcast–Leave us a Review

Are you growing as a result of listening to the podcast? The greatest compliment you can pay us is to share it with a friend and leave a review on iTunes. Click here and scroll down to Customer Reviews to leave a word on what you've found to be helpful as you're listening in!

Have a question for the podcast? 

Email us at [email protected] and we'll address your question on air! 

Connect further with the REALIFE Process®:

• Join the FREE REALIFE Process® Community - continue podcast topics discussions with Facebook LIVEs and guest interviews
• Connect with the REALIFE Circles Community
• Apply to be a REALIFE Process® Certified Facilitator
•  

Connect with your host, Teresa McCloy on:

• Facebook- The REALIFE Process® with Teresa McCloy
• Instagram- teresa.mccloy
• LinkedIn- teresamccloycoach

About Teresa McCloy:

Teresa McCloy is the creator of the REALIFE Process®, an ACC Executive Coach, and an IEA Accredited Enneagram Professional who helps entrepreneurs, business owners, and leaders discover and live out their best REALIFE! She has worked with clients from all over the world to help them bring clarity to their REALIFE and joy to their REALWORK!

What difference could it make to curb your addiction to busyness, hurry, and workaholism and learn to savor the moment? 

The practice of slowing is an intentional way to overcome living with your hair on fire to shift toward enjoying the present moment to the full! 

Together we'll explore the practice to notice: 

• How can slowing intentionally produce margin? 
• Tangible ways to apply the practice of slowing
• Sustainable benefits to slowing

"The present moment is the only moment we ever have to live. It is here, and it will never come again." –Adele Calhoun

As you slow down to enjoy the ordinary moments, you just might notice something truly extraordinary!

REALIFE Resources:

REALIFE Process® Retreats

The date for our first 2021 Retreat is on the calendar! February 4th-6th we'll be hosting our next REALIFE Process® Retreat! Location TBA–If you're more of a deep dive immersion learner, check out more details on our 48-hour REALIFE Process® Retreats. Make sure to join the waitlist for 2021 and be the first to know when registration opens to grab your spot! Retreats are limited to 8 participants!

REALIFE Circles Community

If you're ready to take a deeper dive and would benefit from being in community as you practice and build your REALIFE Process®, check out our newest opportunity for coaching, community, and content–the REALIFE Circles Community. 

Through our REALIFE Circles Community, you'll connect with others desiring personal growth, experience group calls, quarterly coaching, walk through the entire 4 Step REALIFE Process®, receive discounts on our retreats, and more! 

REALIFE Process® Facilitator Certification

We're so excited to roll out some upgrades to our REALIFE Process Facilitator Certification! Instead of just ONE Certification, you'll receive DUAL Certifications–both as a REALIFE Process® Facilitator and as an ©iEnneagram Motions of the Soul Certified Practitioner. If you're looking for content to use with clients, coaching to keep your skills sharp, and community, check out our facilitator program. Click here for more information. 

Support the Podcast–Leave us a Review

Are you growing as a result of listening to the podcast? The greatest compliment you can pay us is to share it with a friend and leave a review on iTunes. Click here and scroll down to Customer Reviews to leave a word on what you've found to be helpful as you're listening in!

Have a question for the podcast? 

Email us at [email protected] and we'll address your question on air! 

Connect further with the REALIFE Process®:

• • Join the FREE REALIFE Process® Community - continue podcast topics discussions with Facebook LIVEs and guest interviews
  • Connect with the REALIFE Circles Community
  • Apply to be a REALIFE Process® Certified Facilitator

Connect with your host, Teresa McCloy on:

• Facebook- The REALIFE Process® with Teresa McCloy
• Instagram- teresa.mccloy
• LinkedIn- teresamccloycoach

About Teresa McCloy:

Teresa McCloy is the creator of the REALIFE Process®, an ACC Executive Coach, and an IEA Accredited Enneagram Professional who helps entrepreneurs, business owners, and leaders discover and live out their best REALIFE! She has worked with clients from all over the world to help them bring clarity to their REALIFE and joy to their REALWORK!

As you review your day, for what are you most grateful? And for what are you least grateful? 

Another practice behind the Process is the Examen–the rhythm of reviewing your day with intention. 

In this week's episode, we'll explore: 

• What does the practice of The Examen look like practically?
• How does Time Blocking connect with this practice? 
• How can you incorporate The Examen into your Weekly Review and 90 Day RESET? 

The Examen is a natural way to slow down and notice the places you've shown up as your best self and the places that you fell into more adaptive behaviors. By increasing your awareness, you can hold onto the things that help you live your best REALIFE. 

REALIFE Resources:

REALIFE Circles Community

If you're ready to take a deeper dive and would benefit from being in community as you practice and build your REALIFE Process®, check out our newest opportunity for coaching, community, and content–the REALIFE Circles Community. 

Through our REALIFE Circles Community, you'll connect with others desiring personal growth, experience group calls, quarterly coaching, walk through the entire 4 Step REALIFE Process®, receive discounts on our retreats, and more! 

REALIFE Process® Retreats

If you're more of a deep dive immersion learner, check out our REALIFE Process® Retreats. Make sure to join the waitlist for 2021 and be the first to know when dates are announced and registration opens to grab your spot!

Support the Podcast–Leave us a Review

Are you growing as a result of listening to the podcast? The greatest compliment you can pay us is to share it with a friend and leave a review on iTunes. Click here and scroll down to Customer Reviews to leave a word on what you've found to be helpful as you're listening in!

Have a question for the podcast? 

Email us at [email protected] and we'll address your question on air! 

Connect further with the REALIFE Process®:

• • Join the FREE REALIFE Process® Community - continue podcast topics discussions with Facebook LIVEs and guest interviews
  • Connect with the REALIFE Circles Community
  • Apply to be a REALIFE Process® Certified Facilitator

Connect with your host, Teresa McCloy on:

• Facebook- The REALIFE Process® with Teresa McCloy
• Instagram- teresa.mccloy
• LinkedIn- teresamccloycoach

About Teresa McCloy:

Teresa McCloy is the creator of the REALIFE Process®, an ACC Executive Coach, and an IEA Accredited Enneagram Professional who helps entrepreneurs, business owners, and leaders discover and live out their best REALIFE! She has worked with clients from all over the world to help them bring clarity to their REALIFE and joy to their REALWORK!

What rhythms or practices are sustaining you these days?

If you've ever flow on a plane, you've heard the flight attendant announcement, "Please put on your own oxygen mask before assisting others." And the truth is whether you're 35,000 feet in the air or on the ground, that's still sound advice. 

Taking care of your self and your soul is imperative to living your best REALIFE and cultivating healthy, rich relationships too.

This week on the podcast, we're diving a little deeper to explore another spiritual practice that is foundational to the REALIFE Process®. 

Silence and Solitude can both stand alone as practices, but when combined can be a very intentional way of stilling our own souls and listening more deeply to, for, with, and into God's voice. 

In this episode, we'll discover:

• What is Silence & Solitude? 
• How can you create an environment in which to practice Silence & Solitude?  
• How REALIFE Time Blocking provides boundaries to care for your self and your soul in every season of life.
• Practical ways to move past distractions in the middle of Silence & Solitude.

Your REALIFE rhythms will look different than those of other friends, family members, and co-workers–what matters is that the practices you build into your days, weeks, and quarters serve you well as you live out your Modern Day Rule of Life. 

REALIFE Resources:

Sacred Rhythms: Arranging Our Lives for Spiritual Transformation by Ruth Haley Barton

REALIFE Circles Community

If you're ready to take a deeper dive and would benefit from being in community as you practice and build your REALIFE Process®, check out our newest opportunity for coaching, community, and content–the REALIFE Circles Community. 

Through our REALIFE Circles Community, you'll connect with others desiring personal growth, experience group calls, quarterly coaching, walk through the entire 4 Step REALIFE Process®, receive discounts on our retreats, and more! 

REALIFE Process® Retreats

If you're more of a deep dive immersion learner, check out our REALIFE Process® Retreats. Make sure to join the waitlist for 2021 and be the first to know when dates are announced and registration opens to grab your spot!

Support the Podcast–Leave us a Review

Are you growing as a result of listening to the podcast? The greatest compliment you can pay us is to share it with a friend and leave a review on iTunes. Click here and scroll down to Customer Reviews to leave a word on what you've found to be helpful as you're listening in!

Have a question for the podcast? 

Email us at [email protected] and we'll address your question on air! 

Connect further with the REALIFE Process®:

• • Join the FREE REALIFE Process® Community - continue podcast topics discussions with Facebook LIVEs and guest interviews
  • Connect with the REALIFE Circles Community
  • Apply to be a REALIFE Process® Certified Facilitator

Connect with your host, Teresa McCloy on:

• Facebook- The REALIFE Process® with Teresa McCloy
• Instagram- teresa.mccloy
• LinkedIn- teresamccloycoach

About Teresa McCloy:

Teresa McCloy is the creator of the REALIFE Process®, an ACC Executive Coach, and an IEA Accredited Enneagram Professional who helps entrepreneurs, business owners, and leaders discover and live out their best REALIFE! She has worked with clients from all over the world to help them bring clarity to their REALIFE and joy to their REALWORK!

What is discernment and how is it different than decision making? 

Discernment is a practice that "opens us up to listen to and recognize the voice and patterns of God's direction in our lives." –Adele Calhoun

As you're moving into this final quarter of the year, it's no small thing to consider what you value, the necessary action to move forward in your areas of focus, how you'll allocate your time and ways of building in rest and renewal to sustain it all. 

Taking time to listen, asking for help, and paying attention to the desires deep within you can make such a difference.

Behind the Modern Day Rule of Life, we call the REALIFE Process®, are tools and practices that strengthen the foundation of the framework. In this four-part series, we'll explore the practices of discernment, solitude and silence, prayer, and the Examen. 

In this episode, we'll discover: 

• The difference between discernment and decision-making
• How discernment can bring your head, heart, and gut into alignment with God's will
• Ways to apply and practice discernment as a rhythm

While you can reactively make decisions along the way and survive, building in the practice of discernment can help you connect more deeply with what's most authentic about who you are created to be and connect your values to your action steps.

REALIFE Resources:

If you're ready to go and grow deeper as you build your Modern Day Rule of Life in community, check out our newest opportunity to connect through the REALIFE Circles Community!

Through our REALIFE Circles Community, you'll connect with others desiring personal growth, experience group calls, quarterly coaching, walk through the entire 4 Step REALIFE Process®, receive discounts on our retreats, and more! 

Have a question for the podcast? 

Email us at [email protected] and we'll address your question on air! 

Connect further with the REALIFE Process®:

• • Join the FREE REALIFE Process® Community - continue podcast topics discussions with Facebook LIVEs and guest interviews
  • Connect with the REALIFE Circles Community
  • Apply to be a REALIFE Process® Certified Facilitator

Connect with your host, Teresa McCloy on:

• Facebook- The REALIFE Process® with Teresa McCloy
• Instagram- teresa.mccloy
• LinkedIn- teresamccloycoach

About Teresa McCloy:

Teresa McCloy is the creator of the REALIFE Process®, an ACC Executive Coach, and an IEA Accredited Enneagram Professional who helps entrepreneurs, business owners, and leaders discover and live out their best REALIFE! She has worked with clients from all over the world to help them bring clarity to their REALIFE and joy to their REALWORK!

Do you need space to breathe? Creating margin or white space in your day can make all the difference. 

Unfortunately, there's no indicator light that flashes when you've almost had enough and need breath, but there are ways to lean into paying attention to your head, heart, and body that will give you a signal that you need some space!

What difference would it make in the midst of Time Blocking your calendar to build in some white space and margin ahead of time before it's too late and you lose it? 

On this episode, we'll talk about: 

• The benefits of creating headspace and margin in your day
• What you're really craving when you need white space
• Practical ways to build in margin on your calendar

So, what are you waiting for? Pull up a chair and let's take a moment together to pre-decide and block some time to give yourself some much-needed margin in your week! 

REALIFE Resources

If you're desiring further personal growth and community, check out our newest opportunity to connect through the REALIFE Circles Community!

Through our REALIFE Circles Community, you'll connect with others desiring personal growth, experience group calls, quarterly coaching, walk through the entire 4 Step REALIFE Process®, receive discounts on our retreats, and more! 

Have a question for the podcast? 

Email us at [email protected] and we'll address your question on air! 

Connect further with the REALIFE Process®:

• • Join the FREE REALIFE Process® Community - continue podcast topics discussions with Facebook LIVEs and guest interviews
  • Connect with the REALIFE Circles Community
  • Apply to be a REALIFE Process® Certified Facilitator

Connect with your host, Teresa McCloy on:

• Facebook- The REALIFE Process® with Teresa McCloy
• Instagram- teresa.mccloy
• LinkedIn- teresamccloycoach

About Teresa McCloy:

Teresa McCloy is the creator of the REALIFE Process®, an ACC Executive Coach, and an IEA Accredited Enneagram Professional who helps entrepreneurs, business owners, and leaders discover and live out their best REALIFE! She has worked with clients from all over the world to help them bring clarity to their REALIFE and joy to their REALWORK!

Time is one of our most valuable resources! How are you engaging the moments you have to take action and connect with those life-giving relationships in your circle? 

One of the most unique of the four Time Blocks we apply through the REALIFE Process® is People Blocks. 

In this episode, we'll explore:

• 5 Circles of Relationships to consider for these 90 days
• How your Enneagram Stance influences your approach to Time and Relationships
• Practically adding People Blocks to your calendar

What difference would it make to take action toward spending intentional time with the people who matter in your life?

REALIFE Resources

If you're desiring further personal growth and community, check out our newest opportunity to connect through the REALIFE Circles!

Through our REALIFE Circles Community, you'll connect with others desiring personal growth, experience group calls, quarterly coaching, walk through the entire 4 Step REALIFE Process®, receive discounts on our retreats, and more! 

Have a question for the podcast? 

Email us at [email protected] and we'll address your question on air! 

Connect further with the REALIFE Process®:

• • Join the FREE REALIFE Process® Community - continue podcast topics discussions with Facebook LIVEs and guest interviews
  • Connect with REALIFE Circles
  • Apply to be a REALIFE Process® Certified Facilitator

Connect with your host, Teresa McCloy on:

• Facebook- The REALIFE Process® with Teresa McCloy
• Instagram- teresa.mccloy
• LinkedIn- teresamccloycoach

About Teresa McCloy:

Teresa McCloy is the creator of the REALIFE Process®, an ACC Executive Coach, and an IEA Accredited Enneagram Professional who helps entrepreneurs, business owners, and leaders discover and live out their best REALIFE! She has worked with clients from all over the world to help them bring clarity to their REALIFE and joy to their REALWORK!

Who's in your circle? There's nothing quite like being in life-giving community with others!

As you think about spending time with others in this season, what comes up for you? 

Whether you're going all in, carefully engaging with others, or feeling resistance, there's something to notice and much to gain by reframing the way you embrace community. 

On this week's episode we'll talk about: 

• Finding and living into true community
• Creating time blocks on your calendar for community
• 3 practical ways to apply the benefits of giving and receiving in community

You'll walk away from the conversation with a simple acronym to start embracing community in fresh ways through your REALIFE. 

REALIFE Resources

If you're desiring further personal growth and community, check out our newest opportunity to connect through the REALIFE Circles!

Have a question for the podcast? 

Email us at [email protected] and we'll address your question on air! 

Connect further with the REALIFE Process®:

• • Join the FREE REALIFE Process® Community - continue podcast topics discussions with Facebook LIVEs and guest interviews
  • Connect with REALIFE Circles
  • Apply to be a REALIFE Process® Certified Facilitator

Connect with your host, Teresa McCloy on:

• Facebook- The REALIFE Process® with Teresa McCloy
• Instagram- teresa.mccloy
• LinkedIn- teresamccloycoach

About Teresa McCloy:

Teresa McCloy is the creator of the REALIFE Process®, an ACC Executive Coach, and an IEA Accredited Enneagram Professional who helps entrepreneurs, business owners, and leaders discover and live out their best REALIFE! She has worked with clients from all over the world to help them bring clarity to their REALIFE and joy to their REALWORK!