Reality Rules

Sarah and Yvette get candid about personal experiences in the realms of bisexuality and polyamory, aka ethical non-monogamy and open relationships in a three part series. This is part 2.

-Yvette and her husband’s unique and evolving open marriage dynamics

-Caution in exploring and changing the relationship rules

-Sarah’s experience facing deeply rooted fears around sexual freedom, deconstructing from Christian fundamentalist purity culture upbringing, and an open relationship with a “wild man” 

-So much establishing of trust through non-judgmental vulnerable exploration through conversation

-Polyamory as friendship that includes sharing in sexual and sensual pleasure in the same ways we share in other pleasures

-Making up the rules in each unique relationship

-Compersion - experiencing pleasure in imagining or witnessing the other person’s sexual pleasure with someone else

-Reflections on same sex and group sex exploration

-How sex keeps getting better and evolving and expanding into more, beyond what we had previously imagined

-Facing the fear of judgment about having these conversations publicly

-For Sarah, sexuality and spirituality are inextricably tied, and liberation in both areas has been intertwined

-Facing societal and cultural assumptions and judgments

Intro/outro song: "Stop That Holy Dance" by Climber. Listen to Climber music on Spotify: shorturl.at/ouxS2
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Sarah and Yvette get candid about personal experiences in the realms of bisexuality and polyamory, aka ethical non-monogamy and open relationships in a three part series. This is part 1.

-Sarah’s experiences of growing up in Christian fundamentalist purity culture

-Yvette’s experience of exploring her bisexuality and approaching her husband about opening marriage into ethical non-monogamy

-Sexuality as dynamic over time and across various circumstances

-Desire as a wise leader, even if you don’t necessarily know the logical reasons why you want something

-Yvette’s experience with internalized shame about same sex attraction

-Exploring hesitancy to come out to family and friends about both bisexuality and polyamory

-Facing others’ judgements about polyamory

-When family and friends are worried and can’t support or celebrate changes

-How ethical non-monogamy can both challenge and enhance marital intimacy

-Trusting ourselves when we’re happy and it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks

 Intro/outro song: "Stop That Holy Dance" by Climber. Listen to Climber music on Spotify: shorturl.at/ouxS2
used with permission.

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-a personal synchronicity story: how my dead grandmother named my daughter Nina
-what do synchronicities mean?
-where do synchronicities come from?
-is the reality we perceive an interactive subjective feedback loop of our consciousness?
-my personal number language and belief that winks from the universe affirm that I’m on my best path
-but what if it’s all a scheme being operated by evil alien overlords who are harvesting our energy for their cosmic games?
-why it’s good to face the existential possibility that everything might be meaningless
-what I choose to risk believing
-is the universe benevolent, malevolent, or neutral? And so what?
-do interactive subjective realities coalesce into a collective reality?
-is there a bigger purpose? If so, what do you want it to be?
-why it’s good to know you could always be totally wrong about everything
-the meaning that motivates me

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I share about some of the gradual shifts in thought, conversations with God, and poignant moments in the deconstruction of my former Christian faith, and about my current working theories on faith.

• Why can't God "save" everyone?
• Do we even need to be saved?
• Is there such a thing as separation from God?
• What matters more: accuracy of belief about God, or impact of belief?
• What actually is faith?
• Thoughts on truly unconditional love
• My conversation with Jesus, whom I love, as I was letting go
• How love matters more than accuracy
• How God met me in the void of uncertainty

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Follow Sarah Sekoa on instagram @sarahs1317