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Reality Test
By Dr. Kay and Dr. RayTV & Film
Reality Test episodes
- Dr. Kay has an EQ Crush! | Award Show | Jan & Feb 2025 ::} 080
Aaaand we’re baaaaack!!
We’ve decided to make our award shows monthly, so we’re catching up with an award show on BOTH January & February reality television! From Southern Charm & Southern Hospitality, to The Traitors & The Real Housewives franchises! Even Deal or No Deal Island makes an appearance!
On whom do you think Dr. Kay has an emotional intelligence crush? Which reality television castmate do you think has the most emotional intelligence in January & February?
And which award do you think Dr. Will from Big Brother, on Deal or No Deal Island, got? ProTEST this Mess? Best TESTimonial? Or even our favorite, the TESTosterboned award? Listen now to find out!
To whom & what moments would you give these awards for Jan & Feb??
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Listeners! Come visit the Patreon for free at patreon.com/RealityTest & check out some of the benefits of a free membership & the paid tier!
First 30 members get shoutouts & if once we reach 50 members, we’ll donate $10/month to the ACLU for at least a year!
We now have ONE membership tier at $5/month, and you'll get access to ALL of our benefits, including our behind-the-scenes videos, Mental Health Check-Ups (audio episodes with deeper exploration of various relevant psychological concepts), Mental Health InfoVids (videos with excerpts from reality tv shows matched with mental health or relational lessons & recommendations), Dr. Kay’s Rants (video of one of Dr. Kay’s rant by video episodes), & VIP access to our live Q&A sessions! If you want to remain a free member, you'll still get great exclusive content, including access to polls and lengthy infovid trailers, etc.!
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Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality.
So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality.
Come Reality Test with us!
Hosts: Dr. Kay & Dr. Ray
Thank you to our sound extraordinaire, Connor!
Patreon: patreon.com/RealityTest
Instagram: @drkaypods @drraypods
TikTok: @dr.realitv
Facebook Page: Reality Test Pod
YouTube Channel: @RealityTestPod
Email: [email protected]
1 hr 33 min - Sexist & Racist Traitors' Roundtable? | Video Excerpt | The Traitors ssn3 ep.8 ::} 079
This is the video episode excerpt. The full video is on patreon.com/RealityTest!
In this recap episode of The Traitors, Dr.s Kay & Ray are summarizing and discussing the 8th episode of season 3!
Dr.s Kay & Ray discuss a variety of psych-related topics within the context of gaming reality tv shows, such as psychological concepts that could improve strategic moves, such as the process of elimination; or those that are present in strategic successes, like Britney’s social comparisons.
Listeners! Come visit the Patreon for free at patreon.com/RealityTest & check out some of the benefits of a free membership & the paid tiers!
First 30 members get shoutouts & if we have 50 members by the end of February, we’ll donate $10/month to the ACLU for a year!
Our “Family Friends” (Tier III; $20/mo.) get access to our behind-the-scenes videos, Mental Health Check-Ups (audio episodes with deeper exploration of various relevant psychological concepts), Mental Health InfoVids (videos with excerpts from reality tv shows matched with mental health or relational lessons & recommendations), Dr. Kay’s Rants (video of one of Dr. Kay’s rant by video episodes), & VIP access to our live Q&A sessions! If you want to remain a free member, you’ll get alerted when new content is dropped, which will include free content, like polls and lengthy infovid trailers, etc.!
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Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality.
So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality.
Come Reality Test with us!
Hosts: Dr. Kay & Dr. Ray
Thank you to our sound extraordinaire, Connor!
Patreon: patreon.com/RealityTest
Instagram: @drkaypods @drraypods
TikTok: @dr.realitv
Facebook Page: Reality Test Pod
YouTube Channel: @RealityTestPod
Email: [email protected]
29 min - Sexist & Racist Traitors' Roundtable? | The Traitors Recap | ssn3 ep.8 ::} 079
In this recap episode of The Traitors, Dr.s Kay & Ray are summarizing and discussing the 8th episode of season 3!
Dr.s Kay & Ray discuss a variety of psych-related topics within the context of gaming reality tv shows, such as psychological concepts that could improve strategic moves, such as the process of elimination; or those that are present in strategic successes, like Britney’s social comparisons.
Listeners! Come visit the Patreon for free at patreon.com/RealityTest & check out some of the benefits of a free membership & the paid tiers!
First 30 members get shoutouts & if we have 50 members by the end of February, we’ll donate $10/month to the ACLU for a year!
Our “Family Friends” (Tier III; $20/mo.) get access to our behind-the-scenes videos, Mental Health Check-Ups (audio episodes with deeper exploration of various relevant psychological concepts), Mental Health InfoVids (videos with excerpts from reality tv shows matched with mental health or relational lessons & recommendations), Dr. Kay’s Rants (video of one of Dr. Kay’s rant by video episodes), & VIP access to our live Q&A sessions! If you want to remain a free member, you’ll get alerted when new content is dropped, which will include free content, like polls and lengthy infovid trailers, etc.!
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Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality.
So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality.
Come Reality Test with us!
Hosts: Dr. Kay & Dr. Ray
Thank you to our sound extraordinaire, Connor!
Patreon: patreon.com/RealityTest
Instagram: @drkaypods @drraypods
TikTok: @dr.realitv
Facebook Page: Reality Test Pod
YouTube Channel: @RealityTestPod
Email: [email protected]58 min - Why is Boston Rob so successful with The Traitors’ (& most of us) women? | The Traitors Recap | ssn3 ep.s 6-7 ::} 078
In this recap episode of The Traitors, Dr.s Kay & Ray are summarizing and discussing the 6th & 7th episodes of season 3!
Dr.s Kay & Ray cover a variety of psych-related topics within the context of gaming reality tv shows! They discuss psychological concepts that could improve strategic moves, such as institutional scapegoating, or those that are present in strategic successes, like Boston Rob’s success with the women on The Traitors ( which psychological concept helps him??).
They also feel a little differently about Tom Sandoval… how do YOU feel about Tom at the end of episode 7?
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Listeners should visit the Patreon for free atpatreon.com/RealityTest & check out some of the benefits of a free membership & the paid tiers!
First 30 members get shoutouts & if we have 50 members by the end of February, we’ll donate $10/month to the ACLU for a year!
Our “Family Friends” (Tier III; $20/mo.) get access to our behind-the-scenes videos, Mental Health Check-Ups (audio episodes with deeper exploration of various relevant psychological concepts), Mental Health InfoVids (videos with excerpts from reality tv shows matched with mental health or relational lessons & recommendations), Dr. Kay’s Rants (video of one of Dr. Kay’s rant by video episodes), & VIP access to our live Q&A sessions! If you want to remain a free member, you’ll get alerted when new content is dropped, which will include free content, like polls and lengthy infovid trailers, etc.!
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Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality.
So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality.
Come Reality Test with us!
Keywords:
Therapy, mental health, strategy, psychology, reality television, TV, doctors, The Traitors, Peacock, recap, Alan Cumming, Tom Sandoval, Boston Rob, Survivor, Big Brother, The Challenge, The Bachelor, producers, summary,
58 min - The RHONY Reunion & The First Black Bachelor Breaks Up | RHONY ssn15 Reunion ::} 077
In this special discussion, Dr.s Kay & Ray share their highlights from The Real Housewives of New York, season 15, reunion episodes, after discussing the big breakup in Bachelor Nation of Rachel Kirkconnell and Matt James.
Matt, the first Black bachelor, and Rachel, his final rose winner (whom he did not propose to, but instead started dating), have broken up after 4 years together. At the end of their season, photographs emerged of Rachel dressed in costume for a southern plantation-themed party, a type of party that glorifies and embraces a time in history marked by white enslavement of black individuals.
The RHONY Reunion raised numerous painful topics, including those facing Jessel & Pavit, Brynn & Ubah, and Racquel. Dr.s Kay & Ray discuss these painful topics from a trauma-focused perspective, which leads to both support & constructive criticism of each castmate. For example, in just the backstage scene between Raquel & Brynn, both castmates, while well-intentioned, said implicitly disrespectful things to one another. So, check out what they said & how it was disrespectful, as well as numerous other painful examples of the poor treatment of one another, on this episode of Reality Test!
Listeners are invited to visit the Patreon for free atpatreon.com/RealityTest & check out some of the benefits of a free membership & the paid tiers! For example, all members (including free members) get longer trailers for the tier III videos and polls, first tier (“Community Members”; $5/mo.) gets access to the full podcast, including the archive of the first 30 episodes (currently $15 for a one-time purchase); second tier (“Friends”; $10/mo.) get video versions of the podcast episodes (see what the hosts look like!); and third tier (“Family Friends”; $20/mo.) gets access to our behind-the-scenes videos, Mental Health Check-Ups (audio episodes with deeper exploration of various relevant psychological concepts), Mental Health InfoVids (videos with excerpts from reality tv shows matched with mental health or relational lessons & recommendations), Dr. Kay’s Rants (video of one of Dr. Kay’s rant by video episodes), & VIP access to our live Q&A sessions! If you want to remain a free member, you’ll get alerted when new content is dropped, which will include free content, like polls and lengthy infovid trailers, etc.
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Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality.
So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality.
Come Reality Test with us!Keywords: Therapy, mental health, strategy, psychology, reality television, TV, doctors, doctor, RHONY, Real Housewives, Real Housewives of New York City, RHONYC, Andy, Andy Cohen, Bravo, Bravotv, mental health check-up, trauma, treatment, producers, summary,
53 min - [FULL AUDIO] A Resident Sloppy Player | The Traitors Recap | ssn3 ep.5 ::} 076
**We're putting an extra episode out this week, due to needing to take next week off, while Dr. Ray travels for work. We'll be back a week from Monday!**
In this recap episode of The Traitors, Dr.s Kay & Ray are summarizing and discussing the 5th episode of season 3!
Dr.s Kay & Ray continue using the new psychology-focused segments for gaming show while recapping The Traitors season 3. For example, what psychological concept would make a given game tactic or strategy more SUCCESSFUL? Which player is playing a strategically/politically SMART OR SLOPPY game? For example, one player has become the resident sloppy player…
Listeners are invited to visit the Patreon for free at patreon.com/RealityTest & check out some of the benefits of a free membership & the paid tiers! For example, all members (including free members) get longer trailers for the tier III videos and polls, first tier (“Community Members”; $5/mo.) gets access to the full podcast, including the archive of the first 30 episodes (currently $15 for a one-time purchase); second tier (“Friends”; $10/mo.) get video versions of the podcast episodes (see what the hosts look like!); and third tier (“Family Friends”; $20/mo.) gets access to our behind-the-scenes videos, Mental Health Check-Ups (audio episodes with deeper exploration of various relevant psychological concepts), Mental Health InfoVids (videos with excerpts from reality tv shows matched with mental health or relational lessons & recommendations), Dr. Kay’s Rants (video of one of Dr. Kay’s rant by video episodes), & VIP access to our live Q&A sessions! If you want to remain a free member, you’ll get alerted when new content is dropped, which will include free content, like polls and lengthy infovid trailers, etc.-------------------------------------------------------------------
Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality.
So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality.
Come Reality Test with us!Support the show
Get access to our full archive of episodes at patreon.com/RealityTest
Hosts: Dr. Kay & Dr. Ray
Thank you to our sound extraordinaire, Connor!
Patreon: patreon.com/RealityTest
Instagram: @drkaypods @drraypods
TikTok: @dr.realitv
Facebook Page: Reality Test Pod
YouTube Channel: @RealityTestPod
Email: [email protected]1 hr 11 min - [VIDEO PREVIEW] A Resident Sloppy Player | The Traitors Recap | ssn3 ep.5 ::} 076
**We're putting an extra episode out this week, due to needing to take next week off, while Dr. Ray travels for work. We'll be back a week from Monday!**
In this recap episode of The Traitors, Dr.s Kay & Ray are summarizing and discussing the 5th episode of season 3!
Dr.s Kay & Ray continue using the new psychology-focused segments for gaming show while recapping The Traitors season 3. For example, what psychological concept would make a given game tactic or strategy more SUCCESSFUL? Which player is playing a strategically/politically SMART OR SLOPPY game? For example, one player has become the resident sloppy player…
Listeners are invited to visit the Patreon for free at patreon.com/RealityTest & check out some of the benefits of a free membership & the paid tiers! For example, all members (including free members) get longer trailers for the tier III videos and polls, first tier (“Community Members”; $5/mo.) gets access to the full podcast, including the archive of the first 30 episodes (currently $15 for a one-time purchase); second tier (“Friends”; $10/mo.) get video versions of the podcast episodes (see what the hosts look like!); and third tier (“Family Friends”; $20/mo.) gets access to our behind-the-scenes videos, Mental Health Check-Ups (audio episodes with deeper exploration of various relevant psychological concepts), Mental Health InfoVids (videos with excerpts from reality tv shows matched with mental health or relational lessons & recommendations), Dr. Kay’s Rants (video of one of Dr. Kay’s rant by video episodes), & VIP access to our live Q&A sessions! If you want to remain a free member, you’ll get alerted when new content is dropped, which will include free content, like polls and lengthy infovid trailers, etc.-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality.
So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality.
Come Reality Test with us!Support the show
Get access to our full archive of episodes at patreon.com/RealityTest
Hosts: Dr. Kay & Dr. Ray
Thank you to our sound extraordinaire, Connor!
Patreon: patreon.com/RealityTest
Instagram: @drkaypods @drraypods
TikTok: @dr.realitv
Facebook Page: Reality Test Pod
YouTube Channel: @RealityTestPod
Email: [email protected]25 min - Sexual Violence Trauma, Ableism, & Bystander Reactions | RHONY Recap | ssn15 ep.15 ::} 075In this special recap episode, Dr.s Kay & Ray recap the finale of Real Housewives of New York–the episode heard round the world! Brynn & Ubah’s reactions both make complete sense, while the bystander reactions (including those of the other women on the show &, now, the public) make much less sense. What can we learn from applying a trauma-sensitive lens to the events of that night? Dr. Kay’s MHCU from earlier in the week takes a deeper look at what applying a trauma-focused lens t...1 hr 27 min
- EMERGENCY POD: About the Brynn & Ubah of it all... with a societal examination of Sexual Violence | Mental Health Check-UpIn this emergency podcast, Dr. Kay shares her unpopular position that we should all be rejecting any making or taking of sides between Ubah & Brynn, and rather look at what happened with a trauma-focused lens, which changes how we understand the events. We can understand the contexts of both Ubah & Brynn, while still holding Brynn, as well as the bystanders, accountable for what they could have improved in such a high-activation scenario. Mental Health Check-Ups are typically only ava...1 hr 7 min
- Coffins & “Eloquent” Compliments | The Traitors Recap | ssn3 ep.s 3-4 ::} 074For the first recap episode of 2025, Dr.s Kay & Ray are summarizing and discussing The Traitors, season 3, episodes 3-4! Dr.s Kay & Ray continue using the NEW psychology-focused segments for gaming show while recapping The Traitors season 3. For example, what psychological concept would make a given game tactic or strategy more SUCCESSFUL? Which player is playing a strategically/politically SMART OR SLOPPY game? Dr.s Kay & Ray discuss themes ranging from the traumatizing nature o...1 hr 43 min
About Reality Test
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Two Psych Doctors Spill the Tea on Mental Health Concepts & Presentations Shown in your Fave RealiTV Shows!
Ever find yourself wanting to debrief that reality tv episode…
with your therapist? Or maybe you've wanted to ask them questions about something you've learned from the reality tv interactions, castmates, or news cycle?
Come debrief with two licensed psychologists as they explore what we can all learn about ourselves, our relationships, and our society from our fave reality television shows on Netflix, Peacock, Bachelor Nation, Bravo, and beyond! Dr.s Kay & Ray inspire discussion about psychological and sociopolitical aspects of reality TV, offering rough draft thoughts and ideas for us to continue thinking about, while highlighting the power dynamics, sociohistorical context, and intersecting forms of oppression and privilege that are present. After all, reality television ultimately provides an engaging format for learning about our behavior, mental health, and sociopolitical systems—let’s learn together!
Why REALITY TEST? We ALL reality test when testing a given thought, emotion, or interaction against "objective" (or shared) reality--did I see that right? Was that really sexist? Dr.s Kay & Ray spill all the tea on how the producer antics and castmate claims about mental health stack up against "objective" reality off-screen and the field of clinical psychology that they have learned about as practicing psychotherapists and research psychologists.
What are you talking ABOUT? Reality Test has a general focus on relationships, social privilege, and mental health. Dr.s Kay & Ray also acknowledge their sociopolitical identities and lenses through which they view reality television, as feminist, bi+, white allies. So, if you've been itching to discuss how that episode was brimming with misogyny, heterosexism, &/or white privilege (from a white, ever-dedicated-to-developing-their-antiracism, perspective), or to critically assess how the producers portrayed a given scenario or interaction, while celebrating the hope & empowerment that can be found, you've come to the right place!
DISCLAIMER: In the context of this podcast, Dr.s Kay & Ray are not acting as therapists, neither for you nor for the reality castmates they discuss. They are, instead, bringing in their whole human selves, supplemented by mental health and psychology knowledge. They cannot ethically diagnose castmates or speak with certainty about their dynamics without conducting formal psychological assessments. Thus, their opinions will be merely (easily erroneous) opinions, informed by their biased perspectives, and while they may discuss diagnoses, they will avoid assigning them to castmates.
Come debrief with two licensed psychologists as they explore what we can all learn about ourselves, our relationships, and our society from our fave reality television shows on Netflix, Peacock, Bachelor Nation, Bravo, and beyond! Dr.s Kay & Ray inspire discussion about psychological and sociopolitical aspects of reality TV, offering rough draft thoughts and ideas for us to continue thinking about, while highlighting the power dynamics, sociohistorical context, and intersecting forms of oppression and privilege that are present. After all, reality television ultimately provides an engaging format for learning about our behavior, mental health, and sociopolitical systems—let’s learn together!
Why REALITY TEST? We ALL reality test when testing a given thought, emotion, or interaction against "objective" (or shared) reality--did I see that right? Was that really sexist? Dr.s Kay & Ray spill all the tea on how the producer antics and castmate claims about mental health stack up against "objective" reality off-screen and the field of clinical psychology that they have learned about as practicing psychotherapists and research psychologists.
What are you talking ABOUT? Reality Test has a general focus on relationships, social privilege, and mental health. Dr.s Kay & Ray also acknowledge their sociopolitical identities and lenses through which they view reality television, as feminist, bi+, white allies. So, if you've been itching to discuss how that episode was brimming with misogyny, heterosexism, &/or white privilege (from a white, ever-dedicated-to-developing-their-antiracism, perspective), or to critically assess how the producers portrayed a given scenario or interaction, while celebrating the hope & empowerment that can be found, you've come to the right place!
DISCLAIMER: In the context of this podcast, Dr.s Kay & Ray are not acting as therapists, neither for you nor for the reality castmates they discuss. They are, instead, bringing in their whole human selves, supplemented by mental health and psychology knowledge. They cannot ethically diagnose castmates or speak with certainty about their dynamics without conducting formal psychological assessments. Thus, their opinions will be merely (easily erroneous) opinions, informed by their biased perspectives, and while they may discuss diagnoses, they will avoid assigning them to castmates.