Heeey,

No motivational speaking... Just vibes because why not. Once a while just shock people, not like I think this will shock you if you know me at all.

Enough said.

Enjoy the listening, and cheers to the new year.

Surest regards,

Ola

Offence usually starts small.

When we learn not to take things personally, when we learn that the actions of others are a reflection of their world and not ours, then we no longer open ourselves to the poison their opinions may become to us.

This episode is dedicated to men. Men generally have it hard for different reasons and in this episode a few men talk about how they relate with friends, family, and how these community of people impact teir mental health.

In this episode I share thoughts on what feedback is and how you can take it and use to fuel your growth. When you begin to see feedback as a gift, you'll learn to find a use for the opinion that is given to you as feedback.

We may never know how the mindset supports our desires or fights against, but we can examine how those who have gone ahead have positioned their minds to win. I see how the mindset can be a catapult to a higher level, or an obstacle.

'Fear not' doesn't mean that fear would leave you be. Rather, it means to find a way to do it regardless. "Just do it" by Nike is a catchy phrase until it comes to doing. Yet, anyone can do. Surprisingly, the world is full of smart people being ruled over by those with less intelligence but probably with more daring-ability.

Today is a good day, as any, to do and do and do of those things you've archived because of your perception that fear lives in your attic.

In this episode of The RealTalk Podcast, myself and my guest, Sering Jobe, talk about mental health and therapy from an African perspective. Sering shares his story to finding healing from trauma experienced in his journey from childhood to adulthood as an African man. In this open conversation on mental health, he talks about issues that affect a number of people of African descent, and the tipping point for him to finding wellness for himself.

The conversation on Mental Health never stops and we

We are probably only as strong as the communities we belong too. And because we tend to go to where we are seen and/or heard, the communities we belong to are usually the places where we find 'acceptance'. Unfortunately, this is not always what happens. Because we want to be accepted, many will go to where they percieve that they are being seen. Even when the seeing doesn't do any good, being seen anyhow to them is better than not being seen at all.

In this conversation with Tunmise Kuku, we talk about community - which really is bout the relationships that we have with the different individuals in our space.

I had fun with this conversation, I hope that you also have a good time listening.

In this episode I take a dive into the introverted/extraverted conversation.

Nature and Nurture shapes who we become. One, to a large degree, we have very little influence over. The other, we can do a reborn at it if we are unsatisfied with the outcome of its designs that we see in us. This is the case of our attitude; the single, probably, most important factor involved in the final outcome of our being.

While we make a lot of noise about our character/attitude, and some even using it as an excuse or a crutch, the fact remains that we can choose to either accept what we see or acknowledge it and choose and work something better.

Knowing who we are, why we behave how we do and what we can do to be better, can change the trajectory of our lives and put us on a pedestal far beyond what our background would have ever thought possible.

There really can't be fathers without men, hence the quality of fatherhood is dependent on the quality of manhood.

If there ever is an issue that we often play hide and seek with, I think this has to be it - "Boy-child, Manhood and Fatherhood". Maybe, there actually is a lot of talk around it, maybe we have just grown accustomed to a lot of words without seeing the men becoming better. Or maybe, it has become like the national anthem - a must to sing at such functions but not one that the words are allowed to dictate the terms of living as a citizen.

Boys become young men and soon they become fathers, and more often than not, they leave a trail of wickedness and suffering their wake. Why not? Broken people hurt people can never be truer than in the life of a man with deep rooted unresolved anger against fathers. This becomes their position of offence or defence against any authority, constituted or other.

That we may live lives in peace, I urge that you as a man, or you as a relative to a man, begin to see the man not as they are in this state of pain and brokenness, but as they can be, a state of wholeness. I believe that this is possible and I hope that you listen, dear man, and take the next step to finding liberation for the little bird inside of you that wants to sing to a new tune of freedom.